Why do people have multiple kids when they can't handle them?

[Anonymous]

Why do you care, OP? MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Echoing everyone else here as follows:

1. You don't know if you're going to get an easy baby.
2. You want a larger family and think providing more siblings is good for your existing children.
3. You want to have more kids when you are older and they are adults.
4. A stressful few years for you seems like nothing compared to a giving life to a person and expanding your family.
5. Kids need to roll with the punches and nothing teaches them about life and social skills better than siblings.

6. Your birth control fails or you fail to use birth control.
7. You enjoy the baby phase.

[Anonymous]

Is it just me, or is there one shrill crazy person responding to all the posters? I'm sensing a real crazy vibe on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me, or is there one shrill crazy person responding to all the posters? I'm sensing a real crazy vibe on this thread.

It is not just you. I caught a whif of that crazy. There are some deep issues there.

Ooo let's speculate!

Has a bunch of kids and secretly knows having fewer would have been a better choice ( for this particular nut job - others handle it fine)
Was part of a large family, and daddy used to call them all sweetheart ( couldn't be bothered to figure out which one he was dealing with)
Is a Duggar!

[Anonymous]

For the fun family halloween costume ideas.

Seriously though, some women are just so high on post-pregnancy hormones, they want to experience it again so bad, they completely disregard the issues they'll have later on. Very short-term thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me, or is there one shrill crazy person responding to all the posters? I'm sensing a real crazy vibe on this thread.

It is not just you. I caught a whif of that crazy. There are some deep issues there.

Ooo let's speculate!

Has a bunch of kids and secretly knows having fewer would have been a better choice ( for this particular nut job - others handle it fine)
Was part of a large family, and daddy used to call them all sweetheart ( couldn't be bothered to figure out which one he was dealing with)
Is a Duggar!

My guess is: pro-lifer, been chain-pregnant for the last ten years, could seriously use a cold one to deal with the judgy looks she gets in public but can't because she's pregnant again and as such has developed a real jealousy towards people who can enjoy a beer here and there? If we're referring to the same PP, that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My marriage has been very stressed with one. I think it would be better to have a happily married mom and dad, and no sibling.

But why are you scapegoating the child for your marital stress? This makes no sense.

Don't you understand that the source of stress in your marriage is from the adults, not the child of the adults? Maybe you could start to deal more effectively with your marital and life stress if you accept responsibility for it and stop blaming the child for it.

Obviously that's a faint hope.

It's the kids fault our marriage sucks. So let's not have any more kids.

Got it.

You don't got it. I imagine your life has been nothing but a series of things you don't "get".

[Anonymous]

Kids are the best humans in the word . I can't imaging life without kids. They are I little difficult to handle but is worth it to have Kids (3 kids are a lot) not some many, still okay. I love kids every time I see a kids I unconscious smile . I also respect people who don't like kids they have their reasons no to like them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Kids are the best humans in the world . I can't imaging life without kids. They are I little difficult to handle but is worth it to have Kids (3 kids are a lot) not some many, still okay. I love kids every time I see a kid I unconscious smile . I also respect people who don't like kids they have their reasons no to like them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the fun family halloween costume ideas.

Seriously though, some women are just so high on post-pregnancy hormones, they want to experience it again so bad, they completely disregard the issues they'll have later on. Very short-term thinking.

+1000. Those hormones are REAL! Not for me, I was just a sleep deprived zombie. But I think for some women it is literally the best time in their lives. Which is odd to me, because it's totally outside of your ability to control. Being baby addicted is no different from any other kind of addiction right?!

On another note, who are all these people who prefer babies to their peers? I like adults. They have interesting thoughts,
They don't poop on me, and they can have conversations. People who only love babies just need a stuffed animal, not a human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sil is pregnant with #3. First 2 were boys. She's gonna keep going till she gets a girl. We'll find out this fall if they will be stopping at three or on to the 4th!

I have 1 and am truly on the fence about a 2nd. I'm unsure as to how good of a parent I am. I'm concerned that if I have to split focus I will really blow it.

I know a woman who is doing this. She's pregnant now with her 6th boy. Plus one step son.

[Anonymous]

SAHM has Absolute paralyzing fear about what she'll do with herself when the kids get older. Having another baby relieves that fear for a few more years.

[Anonymous]

Have we discussed Octomom yet?

[Anonymous]

Realizing they screwed up with their first batch and making another in the hopes of getting it right this time around?

Hoping that having a baby in the house will mellow out the older kids?

Chasing after an imaginary ideal of what they thought their child should be like and after the first ones didn't turn out that way hoping the next one will finally be it?

Missing having the control over a small child as the older ones get more independent?

[Anonymous]

It's a great question OP. It's because we as humans do a lot of dumb things. We do things that are bad for us. We don't have enough discipline. We don't want to bother with birth control or we are too lazy in general. We are entitled and want the world to have our kids in it. Who knows? I often wonder the same thing.

I get why my mom had 8 kids...no birth control and Catholic. Nowadays there is no excuse. If someone can't afford it, they shouldn't have kids ...too many people expect for the gov't to help their kids go to college.