Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

I agree with this. Ultimately, the effort to return the swimsuit should fall on you more than her.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't she realize sooner? If this family is new and lives an hour away, why did you even offer to drive there in the first place? How did this random person know your child had the suit - you know each other well enough to know you have identical suits, but not to talk? Even if you're right (and I sure wouldn't drive that far), why can't you see her side and not call her a crazy person and make her the school outcast? Now you look just as crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

OK where did stealing come into it ...weirdo! No you do not drive almost 2 hours roundtrip. She can buy another suit, you can send her $15 if she goes bonkers about it. Loon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere there's a husband somewhere listening to hour 2 of his wife ranting & raving about the missing/stolen swimsuit who keeps telling her she can buy a new one at target or the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

OK where did stealing come into it ...weirdo! No you do not drive almost 2 hours roundtrip. She can buy another suit, you can send her $15 if she goes bonkers about it. Loon!

Forget the 2 hour thing. The other Mom offered to meet halfway (which is more than fair). 30 minutes is NOT an unreasonable drive time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

... does not mean a 50 minute drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

Are you still the bathing suit loon? you lost, most agree with OP, I think 1 agrees with you (possibly you agree with you repeatedly)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

I am confused. Did the mom call at 10, or call earlier and say I want the suit but I can't meet until 10? Either way is a little off. Either she should have called earlier or should have been available earlier. I'm usually asleep by 10 - I wouldn't have even seen that text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

Sorry, but common courtesy is not bothering someone you've never met about something that can be replaced with little to no hassle. And if it's something so irreplaceable, common sense would be to have more than one.

[Anonymous]

Team OP here for sure. The instore (close to crazy lady or along the way) pickup is also good idea, but not sure I would have thought of it.

[Anonymous]

If it was me, it would get returned on Monday at school. I don't have a sleeping baby but I am not going out of my way to return it over the weekend. If the other parent needed it that bad and couldn't wait, they could drive on over to my house and pick it up. Things like this happen. The OP's son wasn't stealing and he didn't do it on purpose to upset the other kid or mom. If the other family can afford a weekend trip to the beach, they can afford a cheap bathing suit. Walmart, Kmart, Target all have bathing suits. And it's the beach, the kid can just wear regular shorts to go in the water and no one is going to care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

It is just now ten pm so you guess...

I am confused. Did the mom call at 10, or call earlier and say I want the suit but I can't meet until 10? Either way is a little off. Either she should have called earlier or should have been available earlier. I'm usually asleep by 10 - I wouldn't have even seen that text.

It is just now 10pm so you guess...

[Anonymous]

Send it by Uber.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

10PM is not the middle of the night and, IMO, not an unreasonable hour. The kids would have slept. I would have put on a mellow station to listen to music on the drive and returned the suit. Not sure why the other Mom should have all the inconvenience (store pick-up at Target, buy suit at vacation spot, etc). Where is OP's accountability? Money does not outweigh common courtesy.

Are you still the bathing suit loon? you lost, most agree with OP, I think 1 agrees with you (possibly you agree with you repeatedly)

Lol