ILs bought 3 year old an iPad as a "big sister" gift

[Anonymous]

once the baby is here.... you will be glad to have it.

[Anonymous]

Get a case for it so it doesn't get broken during the brief periods she's allowed to use it. Move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG why the big deal... this is a win win for you... you take the shitty kids games off your device and put them on the new one. you don't have to worry about your daughter screwing up your i pad...

heck there is probably an app that allows you set use times so it only available during certain hours unless you enter a pass word...

Little children and ipad, i anything screens...DH, young adults, teens with i anything screens [maybe not laptops] but evrything else. OP be glad there's an extra. Use the best one yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm so tired of frivolous grandparent gifts. Why can't they give one small gift and then useful stuff. My parents give DD a small gift and then put money in her 529. DD gets something that she really enjoys, and something for the future that she'll appreciate then, too. IMO, this is the way to do it!

And totally agree that grandparents should not upstage whatever gifts the parents give, that's rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our DD'S godparents gave our daughter one at age 4. We loaded educational apps, made sure it didn't rest on her lap, and didn't make a big deal out of it. Made her learn to use it in silent mode when in public. Now, 5 years later she still has it, never broke it, is pretty disinterested in tech except as a means to an end (researching animals, weather, Song lyrics, recipes, calculator, some math games and Spanish language help, occasional video, infrequent minecraft). Mainly uses it when sick or on long car trips. I think it was good for her. Depends on the kid, and the parents.

OT but why does this matter?

[Anonymous]

I would call it the kids iPad, let her know it is not hers, but hers to use, and then load only with kid friendly apps. I thought people were crazy for getting thier kids ipads, until I realized I had to be careful what I did on mine because my son could see everything. It is nice having a separate one.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. Why can't you take the gift and let your 3 yr old use it when YOU want her to (if at all at this point). If the grandparents ask about it you just say these are the rules DH and I have decided upon when it comes to usage of for these devices. End of story. If the IL's get angry so be it. Your house, your child, your rules. Honestly, grow a backbone.

[Anonymous]

Good God! Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. Unless the grandparents are giving your kid a bag of heroin, there is just one thing to do with a present - have your child say thank you and then use it in accordance with house rules, whatever they may be.

Oh, if you are worried about the iPad outshing your doll - it may or it may not. However, I assure you, at some point someone will give a gift that your child will like more than the gift you picked. It's not the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Free iPad for you, OP!

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Just accept it graciously. You, as the parents, still get to regulate the usage. You're looking for a fight, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Free iPad for you, OP!

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Just accept it graciously. You, as the parents, still get to regulate the usage. You're looking for a fight, OP.

Isn't this common sense for heaven's sake.

She could have the crappy in-laws I had, never gave a gift. I would trade in a second! His crappy mother decided since she had such a large family - no gifts. Got nothing for our kids when they were born, nothing at Christmas....which really mean't she was cheap and lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good God! Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. Unless the grandparents are giving your kid a bag of heroin, there is just one thing to do with a present - have your child say thank you and then use it in accordance with house rules, whatever they may be.

Oh, if you are worried about the iPad outshing your doll - it may or it may not. However, I assure you, at some point someone will give a gift that your child will like more than the gift you picked. It's not the end of the world.

Sage advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the problem. You don't have a no screen time rule, dd uses your iPad every day. Say thank you and move on.

Definitely this.