Bf doesn't want to get me a nice rock

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When my now DH and I were talking marriage I insisted on paying for half of my engagement ring. He was going to school at the time and I didn't want him to have to spend very much. I found a beautiful $500 Ruby ring that I still love today. I honestly don't understand the idea of the guy paying for all of the ring, you are marrying each other.

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You were gullible enough to fall for a marketing ploy. Congrats!

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Anonymous wrote:10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical.

Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive.

OK, so you got what you wanted but she shouldn't? I never understand this perspective. "I like cheap shit so why don't you?"

No, it's the pressure put on men to buy a piece of jewelry by society. Why do women expect this? I like jewelry. But I'd never whine because my man didn't scrimp and save for a diamond ring. It's ridiculous, if you think it over.

I suspect it's the main reason most women on this board are dried up 40 somethings with cats.

Honey, I'm in my 40s and get more d**k than you could ever hope for. I'm far from dried up...quite the opposite actually.
and I can buy my own $10,000 ring. Why don't you stop bragging about what your husband earns and go out out do for yourself.
Also, keep cats out of this.

Strongly suspect you're quoting an MRA, not a woman who was talking about the money her husband has.

Nope. All woman.

That doesn't make you not an MRA any more than being a man means you can't be a feminist

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Anonymous wrote:You were gullible enough to fall for a marketing ploy. Congrats!

Yup. MRAs, feninists... You're all just stupid in the end.

[Anonymous]

My DH wanted to buy me $10,000 ring and he saved up for it.

When we discussed what type of ring I wanted, I selected $1100 ring. I told DH that I did not want a big ring and that we should spend the money on something that we would BOTH enjoy and benefit from. That money became part of the down payment on our first home. And that $10,000 ring that he wanted to buy - he bought it for our 20th anniversary.

Not judging folks who do not think like I do - I just thought there was better use for that money. We are not poor - we just prioritize differently.

[Anonymous]

I would never marry enjoy who used the phrase "a nice rock". Just yuck!

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Anonymous wrote:You were gullible enough to fall for a marketing ploy. Congrats!

Yup. MRAs, feninists... You're all just stupid in the end.

I'm not sure what MRAs or feminists have to do with a marketing scheme.

http://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/diamond-de-beers-marketing-campaign

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Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

This is a non-sequitur. Even if you have been dating for 30 years, he might not be able to "get you a nice rock."

If this is what you value, you should reconsider marriage altogether. The value of the engagement ring (if you have one) is the least important piece of the whole picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH wanted to buy me $10,000 ring and he saved up for it.

When we discussed what type of ring I wanted, I selected $1100 ring. I told DH that I did not want a big ring and that we should spend the money on something that we would BOTH enjoy and benefit from. That money became part of the down payment on our first home. And that $10,000 ring that he wanted to buy - he bought it for our 20th anniversary.

Not judging folks who do not think like I do - I just thought there was better use for that money. We are not poor - we just prioritize differently.

That is exactly how it should be done.

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Anonymous wrote:My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because.

What are you giving him? A pristine, untouched vagina? Didn't you think he was worth saving yourself for?

Right. Diamond ring = some kind of weird dowry holdover. Get with the 21st Century, ladies!

Exactly. Let's stop mindlessly repeating old traditions without any thought.
Also, isn't the kimberley process unreliable? I don't want to wonder if someone lost a body part so I can wear a pretty bauble.


http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1982/02/have-you-ever-tried-to-sell-a-diamond/304575/

[Anonymous]

That Atlantic article is woefully out of date. For one thing, De Beers doesn't have a monopoly. Diamond prices are subject to a free market. A free market that values them still highly.

[Anonymous]

How sad, women finding worth in a piece of jewelry, acting like you're somehow "better" because of a ring on your finger. OP, wait until your relationship is tested with deaths in the family, chronic illnesses, moves across the country, kids, etc. and then see what that stupid ring means to you or the concept of what it means to be married. It's a non-issue.

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Anonymous wrote:How sad, women finding worth in a piece of jewelry, acting like you're somehow "better" because of a ring on your finger. OP, wait until your relationship is tested with deaths in the family, chronic illnesses, moves across the country, kids, etc. and then see what that stupid ring means to you or the concept of what it means to be married. It's a non-issue.

What does it say about a potential spouse though, that he just ignores your wants?

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* For the women who has $10k ring:

You know the ring is $10k not the people around you. So I am really hoping you're not going and saying OOOO MY RING IS $10k blah blah. It doesn't matter how much the ring cost. My ring is way expensive than yours and yet I'm not bragging about it on dc urban moms. So please STFU.

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Anonymous wrote:How sad, women finding worth in a piece of jewelry, acting like you're somehow "better" because of a ring on your finger. OP, wait until your relationship is tested with deaths in the family, chronic illnesses, moves across the country, kids, etc. and then see what that stupid ring means to you or the concept of what it means to be married. It's a non-issue.

What does it say about a potential spouse though, that he just ignores your wants?

Well, I ignore my 6-year-old's whines about she "wants" too. What you're doing is stomping your feet and throwing a good old fashioned temper tantrum often seen in the aisles of Toys R Us. If you want a certain ring, you buy it yourself. Seriously, my 6-year-old understands that concept.