H threw potful of dirty dishwater on my before work today

[Anonymous]

The sooner you get a divorce lawyer, the better. The danger you are in will only escalate from here. This is no joke. Once this barrier has been breached, he will only go further. He feels entitled to treat you with violence. I know some people will say that you were petty to take a picture of the pot, but I believe that you took that picture as a matter of self-defense, because you have been put in a place of having to second-guess every action you've taken in recent years. That is not you being petty, that's you being scared. Other people laughing at you on this forum is not helpful. What you need right now is someone believing that you are being treated in a way that is unacceptable, and that is probably a lawyer who is on your side. It may be expensive, it may take time and be more painful than you can imagine--I saw my sister get rid of a horrible man--but for your sake and your child's sake, the sooner you start, the better. Your instincts are telling you that this can't go on and you are correct. No man should ever, ever, ever, ever throw a pot full of dishwater on a woman. It is most definitely abuse.

[Anonymous]

I am still not clear on the picture taking. Why does it matter?

H: This pot isn't clean.

You: You're welcome to clean it.

H: I have told you I want the pots placed here.

You: Feel free to move it there. This is a silly argument.

Then, you don't engage him in discussion. It doesn't matter who's right or wrong. Trying to prove the other one wrong is utterly pointless and adding stress to an already over-stressed situation.