H threw potful of dirty dishwater on my before work today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:because I asked him why he dumped into the sink a bunch of neatly stacked dishes I had left on the counter.

Context: we are in limbo and I want to move out but he has been unemployed and I cannot afford two mortgages. This morning he threw dishes from counter into sink. I asked why he did that and he pointed to a pot I had left in the sink and said it was unacceptable. I then objected saying How is that unacceptable? He said there's food in the pot. I said there isn't and proceeded to take a picture of the pot for later discussion, he threw the water from the pot on me.

I got this far before laughing.

OP: I agree with you that it's pathetic and don't see how your input is useful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:because I asked him why he dumped into the sink a bunch of neatly stacked dishes I had left on the counter.

Context: we are in limbo and I want to move out but he has been unemployed and I cannot afford two mortgages. This morning he threw dishes from counter into sink. I asked why he did that and he pointed to a pot I had left in the sink and said it was unacceptable. I then objected saying How is that unacceptable? He said there's food in the pot. I said there isn't and proceeded to take a picture of the pot for later discussion, he threw the water from the pot on me.

I got this far before laughing.

Me too! I'm still giggling.

[Anonymous]

Assuming this really happened what is it with you guys who find it funny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:because I asked him why he dumped into the sink a bunch of neatly stacked dishes I had left on the counter.

Context: we are in limbo and I want to move out but he has been unemployed and I cannot afford two mortgages. This morning he threw dishes from counter into sink. I asked why he did that and he pointed to a pot I had left in the sink and said it was unacceptable. I then objected saying How is that unacceptable? He said there's food in the pot. I said there isn't and proceeded to take a picture of the pot for later discussion, he threw the water from the pot on me.

I got this far before laughing.

OP: I agree with you that it's pathetic and don't see how your input is useful

I'm not the PP, but OP, think about this.

This fight is symbolic of the state your relationship is in. Later, it will be the sort of thing that YOU look back on and laugh at, because it will demonstrate just how far gone you both are: fixating on one dirty dish, and dramatically turning that dish into the breaking point. He needs to get a job. You should probably be in marital counseling. Maybe later this can be something that you look back on TOGETHER and laugh about.

[Anonymous]

To 14:26 (from OP) that was helpful and I REALLY appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

You all should webcast....you can have the viewers vote each day as to who was right or wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this really happened what is it with you guys who find it funny?

Because it sounds like an episode of the Honeymooners or the Three Stooges.

[Anonymous]

You guys REALLY need to get away from one another! I would not wait for him to get a job either, assuming you can support yourself and your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because I asked him why he dumped into the sink a bunch of neatly stacked dishes I had left on the counter.

Context: we are in limbo and I want to move out but he has been unemployed and I cannot afford two mortgages. This morning he threw dishes from counter into sink. I asked why he did that and he pointed to a pot I had left in the sink and said it was unacceptable. I then objected saying How is that unacceptable? He said there's food in the pot. I said there isn't and proceeded to take a picture of the pot for later discussion, he threw the water from the pot on me.

Sounds like you both have gotten petty and unhealthy for each other. Counseling or move out.

[Anonymous]

OP: we are and have been in counseling. If I move out, aren't his debts mine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: we are and have been in counseling. If I move out, aren't his debts mine?

No, that's not the case. Please, see a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all should webcast....you can have the viewers vote each day as to who was right or wrong.

This is precisely what the website 'you now' is for. Seriously - monetize the crazy. People will watch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: we are and have been in counseling. If I move out, aren't his debts mine?

No, that's not the case. Please, see a lawyer.

Why not? If OP's husband doesn't have any income right now, wouldn't he be able to bring with him half of their joint bank accounts? And they are both jointly responsible for debt incurred during marriage as I understand it.


Divorce and maintaining two households are both very expensive. In my house for example we don't have an extra bedroom. We could not take in a housemate if all the sudden we had only one earner.

[Anonymous]

By chance, did your husband start this thread -- "Wife aggressively grabs my plate during dinner”

If not, what is it with all the fighting around dishes????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By chance, did your husband start this thread -- "Wife aggressively grabs my plate during dinner”

If not, what is it with all the fighting around dishes????

Americans have food anxiety! lol