My 9 year old daughter gained 9lbs in the past six months

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn't eat much food. I don't see how she could be overeating with what you typed out.

OP doesn't actually want advice. She defends the choices that aren't the best and doesn't give nearly enough information to help. Given that she thinks thAt she has given sufficient information, it is not surprising that she is failing her child nutritionally.

Dear Lord, I gave a sample of an average day, not what she eats every single day. My point is that she eats a relatively nutritious diet and isn't exposed (at least by me) to much junk food. How am I defending the choices that aren't the best or "failing my child nutritionally."

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It's interesting to note that I was criticized by one pp for buying her the fruit cup instead of fries during the infrequent times we do fast food.

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OP, don't worry. If you need advice, talk to a nutritionist, not a bunch of crazy witches here. Keep providing healthy food and encourage to be active. It sounds like typical weight gain girls go through around puberty.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure she's not eating at school? Charts show that girls that age usually need about 1700 calories a day to maintain weight. If she's dancing a lot (4 nights a week seems like she's competitive), she probably needs at least 2,000. What you are showing is...

Oatmeal + skim milk + fruit = approx. 300 calories
Sandwich + granola bar + yogurt = approximately 400 calories (These estimations are generous)

So .. basically, that's 700 calories. I can't imagine dinner that you say is healthy is over 1,000 calories, plus that isn't including the activity she's getting.

Bottom line, either something is up with what you say you give her, or she's eating elsewhere. Let this be a tale of caution... I was your daughter. At around 9, I got chubby. My Mom noticed and instead of just rolling with it, she monitored everything that went into my mouth. No chips or sweets either (heaven forbid). By the time I was 13, she enrolled me in weight watchers. I lost 20 pounds (also got my period and shot up a few inches) and have had an incredibly awful time with food, weight, and my body image and self worth for the last 20 years. Therapy is just now starting to make a difference in how I view myself (I'm a size 6, so fairly average but always view myself as a COW). PLEASE, I'm begging you - roll with it. Let the doctor's figure it out if it continues to happen with no apparent cause. She will grow out of it. What she will never grow out of is how you make her feel, if you handle it wrong. And bring some chips and sweets into the house occasionally. Moderation is key. Good luck.

I could have written this, except I wish I was size 6! LOL I've always had a large frame, so my ideal weight is simply not in the cards for me. Neither is a meaningful relationship with my mother.

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9 pounds in 6 months is not unusual pre-puberty. Did her height or shoe size change?

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Anonymous wrote:9 pounds in 6 months is not unusual pre-puberty. Did her height or shoe size change?

it is if it's 60 -> 69, not so much if 90 -> 99.

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My daughters gained weight at that rate during their big puberty growth spurts.

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Anonymous wrote:9 pounds in 6 months is not unusual pre-puberty. Did her height or shoe size change?

Not sure about her shoe size but her height only increased by 3/4 of an inch.

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She weighs 85 lbs and is 4'6 1/2

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Anonymous wrote:She weighs 85 lbs and is 4'6 1/2

So she's about 90% for weight and 90% for height.

I'm not seeing the problem here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She weighs 85 lbs and is 4'6 1/2

So she's about 90% for weight and 90% for height.

I'm not seeing the problem here.

No, I don't have her exact percentiles in front of me, but her weight percentile was over 20 points more than her height . Her doctor told me she was overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.

but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like?

It was EVERY DAY. Comments like, "you're getting a pot belly", "getting a little tubby there aren't you?", "should you be eating that/more?". He also started making me do sit ups, swim MORE laps in addition to what I was already doing in swim practice. Also, my younger sisters joined in the comments on my weight. I seriously thought I was fat and ugly through the middle of high school. When I did become thin again, my dad stopped commenting but my sisters didn't. So yeah, self esteem issues through high school and into college. When I came home for Christmas after my first semester away at college, my dad told me I was getting fat again. I had gained 10 lbs, going from 95lb to 105lbs. I was/am 5'6" so I would hardly call that fat. It fucked with my head. If you don't see how that can be damaging long term, then you're an idiot.

Also, my self esteem is just fine now, after lots of therapy. But I still get anxious if I feel even the slightest bit over weight. I feel fortunate that I never had a serious eating disorder, though I did start skipping lunch I middle school. But not to the point of anorexia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She weighs 85 lbs and is 4'6 1/2

So she's about 90% for weight and 90% for height.

I'm not seeing the problem here.

No, I don't have her exact percentiles in front of me, but her weight percentile was over 20 points more than her height . Her doctor told me she was overweight.

You can look the percentiles up yourself.

http://www.cdc.gov/growthcharts/data/set2clinical/cj41c072.pdf

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She is getting no fat in the morning? That's not healthy. Skim milk is not healthy for kids. Pediatrician a have gone back to recommending whole milk, not even 2%. She's growing and pubert is coming. What's the big deal? Your family eating habits sound quite rigid frankly.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She weighs 85 lbs and is 4'6 1/2

So she's about 90% for weight and 90% for height.

I'm not seeing the problem here.

No, I don't have her exact percentiles in front of me, but her weight percentile was over 20 points more than her height . Her doctor told me she was overweight.

You can look the percentiles up yourself.

http://www.cdc.gov/growthcharts/data/set2clinical/cj41c072.pdf

Yes, the chart shows hat she is height weight proportionate - I would freak out if my doc flagged that as overweight. I did not do the B!I calculation though. Sometimes those are quite different. I