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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's pretty normal.  I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy.  I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference.  Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it.  Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight.  [b]I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness,[/b] so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs.  I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good.  what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.[/quote]

[b]but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? [/b]how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like? [/quote]

It was EVERY DAY.  Comments like, "you're getting a pot belly", "getting a little tubby there aren't you?", "should you be eating that/more?". He also started making me do sit ups, swim MORE laps in addition to what I was already doing in swim practice. Also, my younger sisters joined in the comments on my weight.  I seriously thought I was fat and ugly through the middle of high school.  When I did become thin again, my dad stopped commenting but my sisters didn't.  So yeah, self esteem issues through high school and into college.  When I came home for Christmas after my first semester away at college, my dad told me I was getting fat again.  I had gained 10 lbs, going from 95lb to 105lbs. I was/am 5'6" so I would hardly call that fat.  It fucked with my head.  If you don't see how that can be damaging long term, then you're an idiot.

Also, my self esteem is just fine now, after lots of therapy.  But I still get anxious if I feel even the slightest bit over weight.  I feel fortunate that I never had a serious eating disorder, though I did start skipping lunch I middle school.  But not to the point of anorexia.[/quote]

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