Younger daughter wants to move into bigger siblings room since he is away at college?

[Anonymous]

We waited a semester, then asked college DC if it was ok to switch rooms with younger DC. College DC said fine, so that's what we did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that she should have the room. It also demonstrates respect for your youngest.

Tell your college aged child that during spring break he needs to pack up anything private in boxes. Ask him what color he wants his new room.

The rest will be done during the spring and that when he returns at the end of the semester he will be in your daughters room.

+1. Not OP but sounds like a good suggestion. I think that's what we would do too. Younger daughter already eyeing her brothers room but brother is unwillingly to give up.

Also Would you change their beds too? My daughters is a single while my sons is a queen. The beds are less than two years old and the queen can barely fit dd's old room but there is practically no place to walk. And my daughter doesn't want my elder sons bed because she thinks it's stinky and he's not clean enough for her! And she is even willing to bring over her own existing single bed. Aargh.

These are the kinds of things that I just don't have much tolerance for. No, if there is nothing wrong with the mattress/bed, and they can't be easily switched from one room to the other, then the answer is a simple, unemotional "no." "DD, the queen sized bed is too big for your bedroom, and I'm not buying any new beds. You can switch rooms and sleep in your brother's old bed, or you can stay where you are and sleep in your bed. Your choice. Let me know what you decide. How was school today?"

Disengage from the drama, people.

[Anonymous]

Let the younger sibling have the room,nbut tell the older one first so that he knows.

[Anonymous]

I agree with everyone, except I'm shaking my head at the "ask your DS what color he would prefer his new room to be," and this is stated like it's tough-talk, no-nonsense parenting.

Good lord! He's an able-bodied adult. If he wants the room to be a different color, he can go to Lowe's and spend a Saturday painting it himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that she should have the room. It also demonstrates respect for your youngest.

Tell your college aged child that during spring break he needs to pack up anything private in boxes. Ask him what color he wants his new room.

The rest will be done during the spring and that when he returns at the end of the semester he will be in your daughters room.

+1. Not OP but sounds like a good suggestion. I think that's what we would do too. Younger daughter already eyeing her brothers room but brother is unwillingly to give up.

Also Would you change their beds too? My daughters is a single while my sons is a queen. The beds are less than two years old and the queen can barely fit dd's old room but there is practically no place to walk. And my daughter doesn't want my elder sons bed because she thinks it's stinky and he's not clean enough for her! And she is even willing to bring over her own existing single bed. Aargh.

These are the kinds of things that I just don't have much tolerance for. No, if there is nothing wrong with the mattress/bed, and they can't be easily switched from one room to the other, then the answer is a simple, unemotional "no." "DD, the queen sized bed is too big for your bedroom, and I'm not buying any new beds. You can switch rooms and sleep in your brother's old bed, or you can stay where you are and sleep in your bed. Your choice. Let me know what you decide. How was school today?"

Disengage from the drama, people.

Barring an actual odor from the mattress (OP can determine if she thinks that it does smell), I would get a new mattress cover for the queen and OP's daughter can have that. You can even dust the mattress with baking soda, let sit for a while then vacuum as that will help with any odors.

If there is an actual smell that you can detect that you can't get out with baking soda, I would invest in a new mattress for her, but the beds stay in the original rooms. The reason I would get the mattress is that good sleep is a very important part of good health and an unfamiliar or unpleasant odor in the mattress can definitely affect her sleep.

[Anonymous]

I have the opposite problem. My oldest is going to college next fall and I really want my youngest to move into her (larger, brighter) room so I can turn his room into a den, and he's resistant. He likes his dark cave!

[Anonymous]

It's his STUFF but not HIS room.

I'd TELL him with reasons why he is moving to the smaller room.