Younger daughter wants to move into bigger siblings room since he is away at college?

[Anonymous]

The baby in the family has the smallest room. DD really wants to move into DS room because he is never here. How long does he hold claim to his room? While he is in college? She can move in after he graduates?

[Anonymous]

I think she should be able to move as soon as he goes away. Redecorate both.

you said she's the baby in the family. Are there other kids? Was the youngest always sharing or stuck with the smallest?

[Anonymous]

My youngest sister moved into my brother's room the same day he moved out for college. I think she let him have it back when he came back over the summer, but I honestly can't remember anymore.

I would probably let her take over the better room. It's not like your son can't sleep in the smaller room when he comes back. It's just part of growing up.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you ask your DS's feelings. He doesn't get veto power (it's your house), but if my parents had taken away my room when I first went to college, I would have been heartbroken and felt like they were kicking me out of the family.

But he might not care, so ask!

[Anonymous]

I'd involve your DS in the move. Maybe do it during the summer before he leaves, so that he can set up the new room the way he wants. It's nice for him to still have a space to come home to on breaks and all that. Leaving for college is an emotional time.

[Anonymous]

Sure, move her in. Give him the smaller room when he comes home. It will emphasize to him that life moves on.

[Anonymous]

Does he come home for breaks and summer vacation? If not, let him know that you are giving his room to his sister and ask him if it's o.k. for you to move his stuff out of the room. If he wants to do it himself, he'll need to get it done over Spring Break or the beginning of summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she should be able to move as soon as he goes away. Redecorate both.

you said she's the baby in the family. Are there other kids? Was the youngest always sharing or stuck with the smallest?

middle child has a bigger room too. problem is the older kids see their room as theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he come home for breaks and summer vacation? If not, let him know that you are giving his room to his sister and ask him if it's o.k. for you to move his stuff out of the room. If he wants to do it himself, he'll need to get it done over Spring Break or the beginning of summer.

Yes he comes home for breaks and holidays - i'm thinking after this summer might be a good time.

[Anonymous]

My brother moved into my room when I went away to college. It was nbd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you ask your DS's feelings. He doesn't get veto power (it's your house), but if my parents had taken away my room when I first went to college, I would have been heartbroken and felt like they were kicking me out of the family.

But he might not care, so ask!

he cares

[Anonymous]

If he is never at home, doesn't come home for breaks, etc. he really doesn't have a say as to what you do with that room. I would let him know BEFORE you start moving his stuff around and I would give him the opportunity to do that himself if he wants to. His stuff is still his stuff but if he doesn't care who moves it...move it.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how it's fair to keep the youngest in the smallest room when the other room isn't even occupied. In our house, the younger had the smaller room until the older kids were gone. It's only fair. Younger kids get a lot of hand-me-downs.

[Anonymous]

My older sister had a much bigger room than I did growing uo. When she went away to college, I moved into her room for the school year but moved back into my old room when she came home for winter & summer breaks

[Anonymous]

My younger brother got my room when I was gone. It was nbd