My 13 Year Old Son Came out as Gay

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who is gay or lesbian knew around 5-7, even if they didn't know there was a word for it.

How is this even possible? I can't imagine a kid that age knowing anything about sexuality.

You haven't heard of kindergartners having crushes?

It's not at all the same.

Um sure it is. In fact its more pure at younger ages than older I'd argue. its entirely intrinsic then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:13 is not too early to know. Let him know that you will always love him and thank him for trusting you.

This.

Absolutely this. Please be kind and accepting. Your reaction will paint so much of his future.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Focus on that you love him no matter what.

But, my husband and I actually don't agree on this. He's of the mind set that you know, and know early. I say that I didn't find boys fun till I was a Junior in college, and if I have been kissed by a girl who knew what they were doing, I'm sure I could have switch teams. (of course my husband jokes back that a few of my early college beaus are playing for the other team now). Some people do switch teams. It doesn't have to be one and done for life. It's more important that they have partners that are supportive. There are both mean girls and boys. Make sure they know how to find good people.

I currently have an 8th grader who has no interest in girls (or boys). But, I think he know that we don't care if he likes boys or girls. (We've said it a few times, hope he was listening). But, my 5th grader saved valentines from a few girls!!

There isn't a girl in college these days that hasn't switched teams.

This. Popular culture is exploding the notion of "teams" entirely, and we're glorifying adolescent "coming out" to the point that every vulnerable, self-conscious girl wants to be praised for her bravery and depth. The upshot is that every teen feels obliged to wear a sandwich board announcing his/her/um... zeeeeee's long list of sexual proclivities and gender variances, and according to those sandwich boards, apparently most girls believe themselves to be bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Focus on that you love him no matter what.

But, my husband and I actually don't agree on this. He's of the mind set that you know, and know early. I say that I didn't find boys fun till I was a Junior in college, and if I have been kissed by a girl who knew what they were doing, I'm sure I could have switch teams. (of course my husband jokes back that a few of my early college beaus are playing for the other team now). Some people do switch teams. It doesn't have to be one and done for life. It's more important that they have partners that are supportive. There are both mean girls and boys. Make sure they know how to find good people.

I currently have an 8th grader who has no interest in girls (or boys). But, I think he know that we don't care if he likes boys or girls. (We've said it a few times, hope he was listening). But, my 5th grader saved valentines from a few girls!!

There isn't a girl in college these days that hasn't switched teams.

This. Popular culture is exploding the notion of "teams" entirely, and we're glorifying adolescent "coming out" to the point that every vulnerable, self-conscious girl wants to be praised for her bravery and depth. The upshot is that every teen feels obliged to wear a sandwich board announcing his/her/um... zeeeeee's long list of sexual proclivities and gender variances, and according to those sandwich boards, apparently most girls believe themselves to be bisexual.

+1

And this is more popular now but certainly not new.

[Anonymous]

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This. Popular culture is exploding the notion of "teams" entirely, and we're glorifying adolescent "coming out" to the point that every vulnerable, self-conscious girl wants to be praised for her bravery and depth. The upshot is that every teen feels obliged to wear a sandwich board announcing his/her/um... zeeeeee's long list of sexual proclivities and gender variances, and according to those sandwich boards, apparently most girls believe themselves to be bisexual.

I just spent an afternoon with a 13-year-old girl and an 18-year-old girl. No sandwich boards were born. Sexual proclivities were not discussed.

Perhaps you also believe that your co-worker who has a picture of their spouse on their desk, and their spouse is the same gender, is flaunting their homosexuality?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who is gay or lesbian knew around 5-7, even if they didn't know there was a word for it.

How is this even possible? I can't imagine a kid that age knowing anything about sexuality.

You haven't heard of kindergartners having crushes?

It's not at all the same.

Um sure it is. In fact its more pure at younger ages than older I'd argue. its entirely intrinsic then.

I agree with this. I knew at 5 I liked boys. (I'm female). I'm sure there are gay people out there who knew this early, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Focus on that you love him no matter what.

But, my husband and I actually don't agree on this. He's of the mind set that you know, and know early. I say that I didn't find boys fun till I was a Junior in college, and if I have been kissed by a girl who knew what they were doing, I'm sure I could have switch teams. (of course my husband jokes back that a few of my early college beaus are playing for the other team now). Some people do switch teams. It doesn't have to be one and done for life. It's more important that they have partners that are supportive. There are both mean girls and boys. Make sure they know how to find good people.

I currently have an 8th grader who has no interest in girls (or boys). But, I think he know that we don't care if he likes boys or girls. (We've said it a few times, hope he was listening). But, my 5th grader saved valentines from a few girls!!

There isn't a girl in college these days that hasn't switched teams.

This. Popular culture is exploding the notion of "teams" entirely, and we're glorifying adolescent "coming out" to the point that every vulnerable, self-conscious girl wants to be praised for her bravery and depth. The upshot is that every teen feels obliged to wear a sandwich board announcing his/her/um... zeeeeee's long list of sexual proclivities and gender variances, and according to those sandwich boards, apparently most girls believe themselves to be bisexual.

God help us all.