Doesn't sound entitled at all. Sounds like human nature! We often compare and then wonder "what if" and question our life choice. Fwiw, op, I would kill for your set-up. I mommy-tracked too, and just got back in the workforce again, but am having a tough time in an enjoyable but highly demanding and imbalanced job. If I would make 95 AND be home AND generally like what I did, well, that's the mother load! . (And I'm sure even then, there would be moments where i compared and questioned. It's human. But I'm sure your colleague has doubts about her path too).
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I never Mommy tracked, but as a teacher (now in a very different position but still in the system), I'm making over $100K, am home by 4:30 and have summers off.
So maybe teaching is mommy/daddy tracking? I wouldn't trade summers for anything. I don't like summers to be honest, but I'm there with the kids. |
Teaching is definitely a kind of mommy-tracking. Not that that's a bad thing |
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Absolutely and no regrets. I've been with the same company for a decade, went part-time five years ago. I can't telecommute, but have shorter hours so that I'm home to pick up DC at school, or have the flexibility to shuffle hours to be in the classroom for parties or go on field trips.
Since that time, DH's career has really ramped up. If anything, we both wish I could cut my hours even more but our preferred standard of living includes sufficient income to fund retirement and college accounts which would take a hit if we cut my income more. |
| I'm a PP making $125, nonprofit industry |
I am envious! Is that a typical teacher salary? What level of teaching? |
typical after putting in over 20 years, with two several degrees! lol secondary, mostly high school Quite a few of my male colleagues have wives who work 12-months. So they're the ones who handle childcare most of the time. My husband's an educator. So I can honestly say that we're 50/50 with salary and childcare. |
You know what? It really is now that I think about it. However, I switched careers (from publishing to teaching) before I got married and had kids. |
| Yes, I left a good legal career to stay home with our several children more than eleven years ago. Those children are no longer little, with the oldest already in college. Financially, it has been to the family's overall benefit as DH has taken several career leaps which would not have been possible if I had a career here, and were therefore not amendable to moves. Those risks have more than made up for my lost income. |