Just found out my father gave my son ham during thanksgiving!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ham...the gateway drug to bacon.

Mmmm yes bacon

pork rinds?

EVIL CRACKLINS !!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Your father's behavior was inexcusable and boarish.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn, I was really hoping to find out why the ham was such a problem for a 13 year old. Also, why was there ham at thanksgiving? That's the only day of the year that I probably wouldn't eat ham.

My SIL always hosts Thanksgiving and has both a turkey and ham (there's a big crowd). My kids love it because they like ham but don't like turkey.

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It was rude of your dad to be so dismissive of your wishes. But there is also a good possibility that the man simply forgot about the "no ham" rule.

But the bottom line is you need to be able to trust your son to manage situations like this himself (assuming he is a healthy, normal 13 year old). If he's going to go for the ham while your not watching just think of what else he'll try...

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Your son is old enough to say "I don't eat ham". Period.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn, I was really hoping to find out why the ham was such a problem for a 13 year old. Also, why was there ham at thanksgiving? That's the only day of the year that I probably wouldn't eat ham.

My SIL always hosts Thanksgiving and has both a turkey and ham (there's a big crowd). My kids love it because they like ham but don't like turkey.

We're AA and there is always ham at Thanksgiving although many family members no longer eat meat or are on low sodium diets due to hypertension. I prefer a well-cooked slice of ham to turkey which is usually dry and flavorless.

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A "dry and flavorless" turkey was not cooked correctly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"This has been a weirdly entertaining thread. So troll or not, thank you OP for making me chuckle

I so agree.

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Honestly, the second time in 13 years doesn't sound too bad. If we didn't eat pork (and we don't because we are Muslim), and my kid were 13, which is old enough to know better, I'd be annoyed with my kid, not my dad.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I was really hoping to find out why the ham was such a problem for a 13 year old. Also, why was there ham at thanksgiving? That's the only day of the year that I probably wouldn't eat ham.

My SIL always hosts Thanksgiving and has both a turkey and ham (there's a big crowd). My kids love it because they like ham but don't like turkey.

We're AA and there is always ham at Thanksgiving although many family members no longer eat meat or are on low sodium diets due to hypertension. I prefer a well-cooked slice of ham to turkey which is usually dry and flavorless.

Another AA here. Always a ham and turkey for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

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Anonymous wrote:"This has been a weirdly entertaining thread. So troll or not, thank you OP for making me chuckle

I so agree.

So kind of you to say despite some of the piggish responses.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's your 13 year old who wanted to try the pork?

If so, let him. He's at an age where he is trying to assert an independent identity. It's your job only to explain to him why you do not want him to eat pork.

BTW, if you're the kind of parent who would disown a child or sit shiva for him if he decides that he doesn't want to be religiously Jewish, I have no sympathy for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a kosher family? Then yes I'd be pissed.

Not sure it will do you any good to complain to the parents. Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and police his own diet. I'd focus on getting him to say no.

Or did the parent sneak it into his food?

OP here - YES
My DS has never eaten pork and my father has been aware of this since his birth.
I am sure my father told him to just try it. DS adores his grandfather, so I am sure he did not want to disappoint him.
DS went to a party and wanted pepperoni pizza. The parent knew we did not eat pork and asked my son about it. Luckily the parent did not give DS the pepperoni pizza and call to let me know.
I asked DS about it and he stated, "Well I thought I just couldn't eat pork at home, because pop pop gave me some during Thanksgiving.
The other thing my father did was get my son's hair cut before he turned one, while I was deployed.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a kosher family? Then yes I'd be pissed.

Not sure it will do you any good to complain to the parents. Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and police his own diet. I'd focus on getting him to say no.

Or did the parent sneak it into his food?

OP here - YES
My DS has never eaten pork and my father has been aware of this since his birth.
I am sure my father told him to just try it. DS adores his grandfather, so I am sure he did not want to disappoint him.
DS went to a party and wanted pepperoni pizza. The parent knew we did not eat pork and asked my son about it. Luckily the parent did not give DS the pepperoni pizza and call to let me know.
I asked DS about it and he stated, "Well I thought I just couldn't eat pork at home, because pop pop gave me some during Thanksgiving.
The other thing my father did was get my son's hair cut before he turned one, while I was deployed.

Your son is 13. He is responsible for his decision to eat pork. He wanted pepperoni pizza, which suggests to me that he didn't try the ham just because his grandfather offered it. I'd be annoyed at my grandfather, for sure, but this is not the last time that your son will have the opportunity to eat pork. Either he decides to keep kosher, or he decides not to.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a kosher family? Then yes I'd be pissed.

Not sure it will do you any good to complain to the parents. Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and police his own diet. I'd focus on getting him to say no.

Or did the parent sneak it into his food?

OP here - YES
My DS has never eaten pork and my father has been aware of this since his birth.
I am sure my father told him to just try it. DS adores his grandfather, so I am sure he did not want to disappoint him.
DS went to a party and wanted pepperoni pizza. The parent knew we did not eat pork and asked my son about it. Luckily the parent did not give DS the pepperoni pizza and call to let me know.
I asked DS about it and he stated, "Well I thought I just couldn't eat pork at home, because pop pop gave me some during Thanksgiving.
The other thing my father did was get my son's hair cut before he turned one, while I was deployed.

Another parent called during a tween/teen party to ask about your kid and pepperoni pizza? Don't most kids of that age get their own slices out of the boxes? Was the child's hair in his face? At age 13 this boy can decide what to eat.