Is my dad taking advantage of me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no idea if they are dealing with fake prescriptions from doctors, stolen prescription pads, fake identities, stolen identities. That type of facility is rife with crime.
I am sitting here in disbelief that you as an attorney are fronting a pain pill/rehab clinic from 1500 miles away for your felon father.
Do you have ANY idea how much legal trouble you could get into? Someone who overdoses could sue YOU for their death.
You need to get out fast. You have a family of your own.

This. I'm an attorney as well and I almost cannot believe this is real. It's amazing. Just shows exactly how f-ed up OP's father has her. Or that she's a terrible lawyer, but my money is on the former.

OP, you are in a very precarious position and stand to lose SO much. Consult an attorney tomorrow and protect yourself and your family. Good luck.

Also, see a therapist about how badly your father has messed with you. I'm so sorry about that. No one deserves that.

I'm the PP you responded to, and I'm not a lawyer. I'm a medical provider, and the lack of knowledge about the legalities of these clinics from the OP is astounding from that end.

[Anonymous]

It is really distressing that you would forge a business relationship with an abusive father who is a felon with legal troubles and who continues to be such a high liability. Plus, you still feel the need to make sure that he is employed lest he be destitute.

The most shocking part is that you are educated in law but let your crook of a father exploit you to the point that you were more concerned about what percentage of money to give him so that he wouldn't think you are greedy instead of focusing on the illegal ramifications of such a precarious business situation.

I hope that you are able to straighten this turmoil out; you really do seem to be shell shocked by your relationship with your conniving dad. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP, your dad is your employee. Not your co-owner or your venture partner. If he is interested in maintaining a salary at the clinics when you no longer own them, then he is free to pitch his services to the next owner. He will surely get turned down due to his history, but that doesn't make him your co-anything in regards to these clinics. He didn't put any capital into the clinics when you bought them, so he shouldn't get any when you sell. If he had put in some amount, then a proportional amount of the sale would make sense, but I don't understand why you're entertaining this at all given what you've described. The inflated salary for him & his wife is more than gift enough from you.

I think you need to face the music here. Your dad is a toxic person and continuing to poison your life in adulthood. What he has asked of you since acquiring the clinics is irresponsible. What he has asked of you for his personal benefit, at direct cost to you, is unreasonable. Effectively, he convinced you to buy out his old employer because he knew he'd lose his job with a new one and now that you've lucked out that this hasn't been a financial disaster and may turn a profit, he wants you to continue paying his way. But he won't see any of that - he will see himself as the one who deserves all the credit and he will demonize you if you take what's yours. Honestly, I would get a lawyer and have the lawyer write a letter letting the employees know that you'll be selling. I'd give dad a call the night before it goes out and I'd be prepared for this to be the end of the relationship. He's using you and if you refuse to continue being used, this likely will be the end.

Be strong OP. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Also, I'd give 3 months severance to your dad, but not the receptionist. She should have enough notice to get a second job. I would not give any portion of the sale profit, at all.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are an attorney. Advise yourself as you would a client: What do you see here? Be your own zealous advocate.

[Anonymous]

What did you decide to do, OP?

[Anonymous]

Yes, please update OP! Hope things are working out for you.

[Anonymous]

would love an update OP. I'm one of the early PPs who advocated giving him the 75% of profit. Why? Because it buys you some time. you are in essence paying him to go away. He won't bug you for probably 2-3 years if he gets the payout, an that's a good amount of time for you to resolve your feelings for him.

Sure, you don't owe him anything. You don't. AT ALL. But you'll be making what, at least 200K yourself, so this is bonus money you don't have now and wouldn't miss (though of course you could use it - college for your kid, done).

If you are strong enough to stand against him now, then good for you. The entire payout belongs to you. I just wonder if, right now, you have the presence and ability to stand firm on that. Do what works for you, what will allow you to tell him, this is the way it is and we are done going into business together.

[Anonymous]

You wrote "He tells me that I am greedy and only love money, and I am taking too much money from the clinics". He is projecting his feelings. He is the greedy one taking all the money. You should at least get 50%, if not more if he's not even really entitled to be working there. I think what your husband says is a little unrealistic given it's your father. Reading the other posts...actually, yeah just sell it. It sounds like a headache. I'm not that saavy about money and business, but your life would be simpler without being involved in that.

[Anonymous]

If your best friend was in this situation, what would you advise them to do?

Be your own best friend now.

Hugging you -- this sounds awful and the past you suffered, you did not deserve. I too was abused and it took a decade of counseling to wrap my head around it. But I feel that ache whenever I see a fellow good person who was treated poorly. You cannot make angry people happy, so you must do what you can do for yourself. They wouldn't be happy with any outcome. Be your own BFF. xoxoxo

[Anonymous]

OP, please update! Thinking of you and rooting for your strength.