Would you marry someone foreign?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God I hope so. Im an expat in California and don't want to marry an American.

Go post on a California forum. And if you don't like Americans, how about going back home while you're at it?

[b]

yep, definitely want a foreigner

[Anonymous]

I have dated foreigners, so I guess theoretically if it had worked out with one of them I would have married one of them.

My big thoughts have always been: do I have fundamental issues when their country of origin - would I ever be willing to consider living there if it came to that? And, related - what are that country's views on women's rights - e.g. does he still have citizenship or family members in a country that would facilitate him keeping any children from me if we had them, and we split up and he took them there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm as white as they come and if I could marry the Polish love of my life I would in a heartbeat

Statistically speaking, isn't it almost a dead cert that your Polish love is also as white as they come?

[Anonymous]

It depends - my daughter's dad has a very high security clearance, so he and I both have to steer clear of dating foreign nationals from certain countries or his clearance (and my child support) is at risk.

Plus I've realized over the years that my pop culture references are very American and very much of a certain age range. So I tend to get along best with people around my age who grew up with the same cultural touchpoints that I did - a lot of my humor depends on that stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God I hope so. Im an expat in California and don't want to marry an American.

Go post on a California forum. And if you don't like Americans, how about going back home while you're at it?

[b]

yep, definitely want a foreigner

Go home.

--German expat

[Anonymous]

This is inane.

[Anonymous]

I married a man form Toronto. We reached across that wide cultural divide and let our forbidden love prove the naysayers wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman married to a white american man. Despite our religious and racial differences, you'd be surprised to find how much we have in common. I think the pakistani mountain-culture fits really well with the american conservative red-necky culture. We both share a love of guns, liberty, family and faith. We both love food and family and intellectual stimulation.

For me, I married him because I find men from the arab world can be very sexist and misogynistic. In my dh I found the perfect mix of conservatism and liberalism. He cares about family and isn't promiscuous and has good values but he isn't a crazy extremist.

In me, he says he has found the perfect woman. He cannot believe he ever dated white american girls and says they do not know how to be women.

regardless, we are very happy. Our parents aren't thrilled, but they're coming around.

I'm beginning to hear that quite often lately. Many white American men who are in interracial relationships have told me that they will never date or marry a white American woman again. There must be some level of truth to this because I'm beginning to see many white men with Asian, black, and Latina wives. I did some research on my own as well. I found countless groups and blogs on-line with white men discussing this very thing. I found some of the discussions very interesting. However, I discovered similar discussions when I researched blogs and groups with other interracially paired couples. So, I'm not surprised that your husband mentioned that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman married to a white american man. Despite our religious and racial differences, you'd be surprised to find how much we have in common. I think the pakistani mountain-culture fits really well with the american conservative red-necky culture. We both share a love of guns, liberty, family and faith. We both love food and family and intellectual stimulation.

For me, I married him because I find men from the arab world can be very sexist and misogynistic. In my dh I found the perfect mix of conservatism and liberalism. He cares about family and isn't promiscuous and has good values but he isn't a crazy extremist.

In me, he says he has found the perfect woman. He cannot believe he ever dated white american girls and says they do not know how to be women.

regardless, we are very happy. Our parents aren't thrilled, but they're coming around.

I'm beginning to hear that quite often lately. Many white American men who are in interracial relationships have told me that they will never date or marry a white American woman again. There must be some level of truth to this because I'm beginning to see many white men with Asian, black, and Latina wives. I did some research on my own as well. I found countless groups and blogs on-line with white men discussing this very thing. I found some of the discussions very interesting. However, I discovered similar discussions when I researched blogs and groups with other interracially paired couples. So, I'm not surprised that your husband mentioned that.

I find that these men are usually not very desirable themselves. I am saying it as a foreign woman who've heard this type of thing from American men (and not the kind of men I found interesting or worthy of my attention).

[Anonymous]

^^ Nothing surprising about this.

If the women posting on this forum are representative of the typical American woman, why would any man want to marry one?

[Anonymous]

I would like to sound open minded and say yes, but the truth is no. Aging family and international relationships don't mix.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm as white as they come and if I could marry the Polish love of my life I would in a heartbeat

Statistically speaking, isn't it almost a dead cert that your Polish love is also as white as they come?

Probably. But 'foreigner' in this context would be someone from a different nationality, not ethnicity. That was my take anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No I wouldn't sorry. I love knowing that DH has the same cultural traditions as me, in laws speak English and are nearby, and that DH and I grew up similarly. And while I don't always agree with America 100%, it hurts when I hear foreigners bash America and Americans.

This is what I find intolerable about some foreigners who just got on a plane and flew over here to the U.S. They can become quite angry when their wants and needs are not met based on their unrealistic expectations. I also find that some foreigners are deeply rooted in more of a socialist political mindset. In other words, they think everything in the U.S. is free. And they have no concept of how long it took some Americans to achieve a standard of living. Or they call American problems "first world problems." Well, this is a first world country.

The same things happens with many American men and women in my country. They come over here thinking we look just like Americans; most of us speak some or good English; there have been many people from this country who have immigrated to the US; it is a democracy and has a far better human rights reputation than America over many years, and besides I am in love with (or her). And then the reality of deep cultural differences starts to sink in, along with the fact that they can't find a job and their partner acts so differently than Americans; they start to openly criticize the country they hardly understand and can not seem to fit into, and then they leave.

And exactly the same thing happens with many people from my country when they go to America, just as you say.

[Anonymous]

I "dated" American men when i was posted to DC. Several things i found very common is that a good number of them were not very good at give and take in conservation, talked mostly about themselves, and were not very inquisitive. Many also thought they could talk a girl into having sex, a very strange idea. I did end up marrying an American, but he was working in my country at the time, had adjusted a bit, and we have stayed together here for along time. He wasn't so bad and he has gotten better. What more can a girl hope for?

[Anonymous]

yes, I would marry a swiss woman - for the passport!