Landlord texting me after 11pm at night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the dog allowed in your lease? It sounds like it is your boyfriend's dog and it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is on the lease. If your boyfriend and his dog are not on the lease, she has every right to kick you out for both the dog and your boyfriend living at the house. Plus, if she's getting a letter from the HOA about the dog she also has a right to follow up whether the dog is on the lease or not. She also has a right to inspect the house several times a year with 24 hours notice.

Op here- I'm confused about what you are even talking about. My boyfriend doesn't live with me so no, he's not on the lease. He comes to visit and has taken her with him three times in a 9 month period. Normally she stays as his house but there have been those 3 times he's brought her along for a day visit.
When he sleeps over, she stays back at his house. So where are you getting any of what you are talking about from? My landlord isn't going to kick me out for having my boyfriend stay over.....

[Anonymous]

You need to get a grip, OP. It sounds like your landlord may be a tad more involved than average but if all you have to go on is that she is concerned about the crown molding and the garbage disposal, you appear to have some problems in accurately perceiving the world. Are you constantly taking offense at people in other areas of your life? You might want to consider whether this is a pattern with you.

Showing up with less than 24 hrs notice may be an issue (depending on your lease and the local law) but is easily resolved. If she did it constantly that would be one thing, but one time in three years ...?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No need to tell her you don't want text after 11pm. Just don't respond to anything after 9pm. She'll figure it out on her own.

Agree. Just don't respond that night for anything that is not an emergency that occurs after your curfew time. Respond first thing in the morning. For many, texting is like voicemail in that they can send a message and you can opt to respond whenever is appropriate for you. If it is waking you up, turn off the alert chime for your texts or don't bring it to bed. Otherwise, just respond when you feel is appropriate.

OP Here: I'm up past 11pm so it's not that it's waking me up but just the annoyance that she thinks texting us after 11pm in a group chat is okay. She's also one of those people that doesn't just type it all out in one text, it came in 3 seperate texts. I'm going to start ignoring her anytime after 9pm and hopefully she gets the hint. I still think texting us is unprofessional though and I do feel like she should be sending us questions like this in a email or a phone call.

How about you tell your boyfriend not to leave his dog in his truck in a crate. Perhaps y'all should have sat outside with the dog if he were so inclined to bring it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three times now in the last 2 months, my landlord has texted both me and my roommate after 11pm at night. She texted us in a group chat tonight at 11:15pm telling us that she received a fine in the mail from the homeowners association saying that there was a dog tied up and barking outside all day and asking u if we knew anything about this. Last weekend, my boyfriend stopped by for the afternoon and had his dog with him. We aren't allowed to have dogs in our condo so he kept her in her dog box in his truck. She barked ONE TIME and he went outside to walk her around a bit within 2 minutes of her barking. She has never been tied up outside and definitely hasn't been tied up and barking ALL DAY outside. I told her all of this and she continued texting me for 20 minutes telling me she would contact the homeowners association on Monday and also reminding us "no dogs are allowed inside the house".

I don't think it's okay for her to be texting us after 11pm at night. I find it highly unprofessional on her part to even be texting us, let alone texting us after 11pm at night. My roommate is equally annoyed and wants to send her an email saying that any issues going forward need to be sent to us via email and to please not call/text us after 9pm which I feel is reasonable.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

OP you're wrong for being bothered by this and you're in the wrong because you're not understanding that the landlord had to get a nastygram from the city because of your actions or the actions of your boyfriend. You didn't stop to think that it was rude on your part to cause her to receive the notice right? You were only bothered about the fact that she dared reach out to you at - OMG 11PM. Like you didn't already have your phone pasted to your face.... who are you kidding. you're using the time as a way to deflect your own actions.

In this age of constant communication, it has now become totally acceptable and almost expected quite honestly that people reach out to you via text for all sorts of matters at any time of day. That said you could have easily shut it down by telling her that you would deal with the issue in the morning and follow up with a phone call or email. She would have gotten the message.

next time don't be go against your lease and you won't have a problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Three times now in the last 2 months, my landlord has texted both me and my roommate after 11pm at night. She texted us in a group chat tonight at 11:15pm telling us that she received a fine in the mail from the homeowners association saying that there was a dog tied up and barking outside all day and asking u if we knew anything about this. Last weekend, my boyfriend stopped by for the afternoon and had his dog with him. We aren't allowed to have dogs in our condo so he kept her in her dog box in his truck. She barked ONE TIME and he went outside to walk her around a bit within 2 minutes of her barking. She has never been tied up outside and definitely hasn't been tied up and barking ALL DAY outside. I told her all of this and she continued texting me for 20 minutes telling me she would contact the homeowners association on Monday and also reminding us "no dogs are allowed inside the house".

I don't think it's okay for her to be texting us after 11pm at night. I find it highly unprofessional on her part to even be texting us, let alone texting us after 11pm at night. My roommate is equally annoyed and wants to send her an email saying that any issues going forward need to be sent to us via email and to please not call/text us after 9pm which I feel is reasonable.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

OP you're wrong for being bothered by this and you're in the wrong because you're not understanding that the landlord had to get a nastygram from the city because of your actions or the actions of your boyfriend. You didn't stop to think that it was rude on your part to cause her to receive the notice right? You were only bothered about the fact that she dared reach out to you at - OMG 11PM. Like you didn't already have your phone pasted to your face.... who are you kidding. you're using the time as a way to deflect your own actions.

In this age of constant communication, it has now become totally acceptable and almost expected quite honestly that people reach out to you via text for all sorts of matters at any time of day. That said you could have easily shut it down by telling her that you would deal with the issue in the morning and follow up with a phone call or email. She would have gotten the message.

next time don't be go against your lease and you won't have a problem.

Yup, that was established when the OP replied to this VIA HER PHONE! Get on your computer, condos are not that big.

11 PM is too late, some people do go to sleep early, and if it were me, I would be pissed if I was woke up for a reason like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Three times now in the last 2 months, my landlord has texted both me and my roommate after 11pm at night. She texted us in a group chat tonight at 11:15pm telling us that she received a fine in the mail from the homeowners association saying that there was a dog tied up and barking outside all day and asking u if we knew anything about this. Last weekend, my boyfriend stopped by for the afternoon and had his dog with him. We aren't allowed to have dogs in our condo so he kept her in her dog box in his truck. She barked ONE TIME and he went outside to walk her around a bit within 2 minutes of her barking. She has never been tied up outside and definitely hasn't been tied up and barking ALL DAY outside. I told her all of this and she continued texting me for 20 minutes telling me she would contact the homeowners association on Monday and also reminding us "no dogs are allowed inside the house".

I don't think it's okay for her to be texting us after 11pm at night. I find it highly unprofessional on her part to even be texting us, let alone texting us after 11pm at night. My roommate is equally annoyed and wants to send her an email saying that any issues going forward need to be sent to us via email and to please not call/text us after 9pm which I feel is reasonable.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

OP you're wrong for being bothered by this and you're in the wrong because you're not understanding that the landlord had to get a nastygram from the city because of your actions or the actions of your boyfriend. You didn't stop to think that it was rude on your part to cause her to receive the notice right? You were only bothered about the fact that she dared reach out to you at - OMG 11PM. Like you didn't already have your phone pasted to your face.... who are you kidding. you're using the time as a way to deflect your own actions.

In this age of constant communication, it has now become totally acceptable and almost expected quite honestly that people reach out to you via text for all sorts of matters at any time of day. That said you could have easily shut it down by telling her that you would deal with the issue in the morning and follow up with a phone call or email. She would have gotten the message.

next time don't be go against your lease and you won't have a problem.

Op here: I live in a small town, she didn't get any notice from a city. The homeowners association apparently sent her a letter but when I asked her today for a copy of it, she completely ignored that request so I'm doubting her story.

Also, no I don't think it was "rude" on my part at all. Dogs bark ALL THE TIME. She barked because a truck drove by and he immediately went out to calm her down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No need to tell her you don't want text after 11pm. Just don't respond to anything after 9pm. She'll figure it out on her own.

Agree. Just don't respond that night for anything that is not an emergency that occurs after your curfew time. Respond first thing in the morning. For many, texting is like voicemail in that they can send a message and you can opt to respond whenever is appropriate for you. If it is waking you up, turn off the alert chime for your texts or don't bring it to bed. Otherwise, just respond when you feel is appropriate.

OP Here: I'm up past 11pm so it's not that it's waking me up but just the annoyance that she thinks texting us after 11pm in a group chat is okay. She's also one of those people that doesn't just type it all out in one text, it came in 3 seperate texts. I'm going to start ignoring her anytime after 9pm and hopefully she gets the hint. I still think texting us is unprofessional though and I do feel like she should be sending us questions like this in a email or a phone call.

How about you tell your boyfriend not to leave his dog in his truck in a crate. Perhaps y'all should have sat outside with the dog if he were so inclined to bring it.

Op here- because we had no reason to do that? She was in a regulated dog box (not a crate) and there was no reason for us to sit outside with her. She was calm for awhile until a ups truck drove by and that's When she barked and he got her.

[Anonymous]

I dont see the issue. That's when she has time to text you. You dont need to reply right away, reply when you feel like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- he's brought his dog with him for a visit 3 times since January, so not a lot at all. Normally he will just leave her at home but there has been those 3 times where he's brought her along just so she's not left at home all day by himself. He is not living with him and his dog certainly isn't staying over. She's never been tied up outside or left to bark all day like the letter she got apparently stated. To the person talking about leaving the dog in her box in the "heat", he was here last Sunday with her and it was 72 degrees out so not hot at all. She's a really good dog and just chills in her dog box but the one rim last Sunday that she started to bark was when a UPS truck drove by. He immediately went out to have her stop and that was that.

Regarding my landlord texting me late, clearly it's 50/50 on whether people agree with me or not. I find it unprofessional to text me that late and in multiple texts, not just one. It's not just one long text being broken up into three....it's multiple texts that went like this....

"Hey ladies we got a fine in the mail claiming a dog was tied up and barking all day."
"Do either of you know what this is about?"
"Don't I need to fight it?"

Just not necessary at all. I took a previous PPs advice and texted her asking for a copy of the bylaws so I can know what those are. I also asked to see the fine/letter she got in the mail and she completely ignored that request and just said "I'll email you a copy of the bylaws". I'm going to assume she was overreacting on the fine and just wanted to see what was up regarding a dog around.

To the PPs questioning why I'm calling her crazy, I've lived here for 3 years now and I'm sorry but I think texting us at 11:30 at night saying "I want to see what's going on in the house, I'll be by tomorrow morning to check it out and I'll let myself in" is crazy. Because 1, she's not doing it the legal way and giving us 24 hours and 2, her husband had JUST been here a week prior fixing something and clearly could see that everything was fine in our house. Also, she has randomly texted us asking if we have hung curtains attached to the crown molding or asking us if we are using the garbage disposal correctly because "just a reminder, it's only a year old". Sorry but to me, it's all craziness.

So these are the things that make her "literally crazy"? Either a) you have a very low threshold for what constitutes "crazy" or b) you don't know what "literally" means, or c) all of the above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: I love living here but dealing with her has been a huge issue. The last time she texted us after 11pm was back in July and she sent us a text saying "I'm curious to know what's going on in the house so I would like to stop by and check things out. I'll stop by tomorrow and I can let myself in". My roommmate and I lost our minds over that as it literally came out of no where. We are both 26 and 27 and have been living here for 3 years with no issues at all. To make matters worse, she texted us that and never even ended up coming by to "check out things". She goes through crazy periods of acting like this and then other times she is completely normal but I'm definitely going to ask to see this "fine" and letter if she brings it up again.

This is nuts. Does she not need to give you 24 hours notice? What does she mean by "what's going on in the house?"

x2. Completely crazy. WTF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three times now in the last 2 months, my landlord has texted both me and my roommate after 11pm at night. She texted us in a group chat tonight at 11:15pm telling us that she received a fine in the mail from the homeowners association saying that there was a dog tied up and barking outside all day and asking u if we knew anything about this. Last weekend, my boyfriend stopped by for the afternoon and had his dog with him. We aren't allowed to have dogs in our condo so he kept her in her dog box in his truck. She barked ONE TIME and he went outside to walk her around a bit within 2 minutes of her barking. She has never been tied up outside and definitely hasn't been tied up and barking ALL DAY outside. I told her all of this and she continued texting me for 20 minutes telling me she would contact the homeowners association on Monday and also reminding us "no dogs are allowed inside the house".

I don't think it's okay for her to be texting us after 11pm at night. I find it highly unprofessional on her part to even be texting us, let alone texting us after 11pm at night. My roommate is equally annoyed and wants to send her an email saying that any issues going forward need to be sent to us via email and to please not call/text us after 9pm which I feel is reasonable.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

OP you're wrong for being bothered by this and you're in the wrong because you're not understanding that the landlord had to get a nastygram from the city because of your actions or the actions of your boyfriend. You didn't stop to think that it was rude on your part to cause her to receive the notice right? You were only bothered about the fact that she dared reach out to you at - OMG 11PM. Like you didn't already have your phone pasted to your face.... who are you kidding. you're using the time as a way to deflect your own actions.

In this age of constant communication, it has now become totally acceptable and almost expected quite honestly that people reach out to you via text for all sorts of matters at any time of day. That said you could have easily shut it down by telling her that you would deal with the issue in the morning and follow up with a phone call or email. She would have gotten the message.

next time don't be go against your lease and you won't have a problem.

Yup, that was established when the OP replied to this VIA HER PHONE! Get on your computer, condos are not that big.

11 PM is too late, some people do go to sleep early, and if it were me, I would be pissed if I was woke up for a reason like this.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No need to tell her you don't want text after 11pm. Just don't respond to anything after 9pm. She'll figure it out on her own.

Agree. Just don't respond that night for anything that is not an emergency that occurs after your curfew time. Respond first thing in the morning. For many, texting is like voicemail in that they can send a message and you can opt to respond whenever is appropriate for you. If it is waking you up, turn off the alert chime for your texts or don't bring it to bed. Otherwise, just respond when you feel is appropriate.

OP Here: I'm up past 11pm so it's not that it's waking me up but just the annoyance that she thinks texting us after 11pm in a group chat is okay. She's also one of those people that doesn't just type it all out in one text, it came in 3 seperate texts. I'm going to start ignoring her anytime after 9pm and hopefully she gets the hint. I still think texting us is unprofessional though and I do feel like she should be sending us questions like this in a email or a phone call.

How about you tell your boyfriend not to leave his dog in his truck in a crate. Perhaps y'all should have sat outside with the dog if he were so inclined to bring it.

Op here- because we had no reason to do that? She was in a regulated dog box (not a crate) and there was no reason for us to sit outside with her. She was calm for awhile until a ups truck drove by and that's When she barked and he got her.

It probably was your neighbors complaining. Just tell her that at no point was the dog tied up and deny that the dog barked at all. That's your story, stick to it. She will have a hard time fining you for that.

[Anonymous]

WTF is a regulated dog box??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is a regulated dog box??

It's a metal, open air dog box. It's illegal to keep your dog locked in your car but with this, it's not illegal. So if someone called the cops saying there is a dog "locked in a car" and the cops came and saw the dog box, there would be no issues.
It's completely vented so the dogs not suffocating in it.

[Anonymous]

So the dog is in a box in your boyfriends truck?

I'm confused.

Your lease says no pets. So the dog should not be in the house or on the porch or yard. Even for a visit.