Sleeping with my unfaithful husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back again. For the first time, when I had sex with my husband I felt used and demeaned. I did it anyway because I don't want to feel that way and it feels good, physically, but man the feelings were/are intense. We've stayed in counseling and have talked a lot, but he seems focused on what I did wrong in our relationship and doesn't really understand/connect with the enormity of what he's done. That hit home for me this week and this last time made me want to cry. So I think I'm turning some sort of corner, for better or worse. Or maybe it's just temporary. But he knew I was upset and still initiated pretty aggressively, which seems upsetting to me. Maybe this is all really starting to sink in.

This is the absolute worst. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy except perhaps the mistress.

What you did wrong? Oh, no - that is not remorse. Are you with the same marriage counselor as you were during the affair? I would consider finding someone new. Remember - he was cheating during therapy, which means he was lying to the therapist every time. My sister's therapist fired my sister and her cheating ex when she found out that he had been lying throughout all the sessions by saying the affair was over.

Also, does this woman still work with him? That would be a huge problem for me.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The woman was reassigned to another job in the company coincidentally a week or so after I found out but my husband told me last week that she's coming back in the middle of December. It's causing me severe panic to think of them working side by side again.

I feel like my husband is a pod person. The person who I married does not resemble this person. I keep wishing for my husband to come back but I worry he's gone forever.

[Anonymous]

OP, your title made me click on the post.

I just found out that my unfaithful ex has been diagnosed with HIV. I'm fine, it's been years and I tested negative twice.

Just something to consider.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't have to sleep with him to have sex. Seriously, look at the offers another poster got when her DH moved out. A woman can find a sex partner anytime she wants. You could go online and find a new guy within a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The woman was reassigned to another job in the company coincidentally a week or so after I found out but my husband told me last week that she's coming back in the middle of December. It's causing me severe panic to think of them working side by side again.

I feel like my husband is a pod person. The person who I married does not resemble this person. I keep wishing for my husband to come back but I worry he's gone forever.

How hard would it be for him to be re-assigned to another job in the company? He should be jumping through hoops to help you heal.