Why are rich women skinny?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can only speak for myself...

1-My dh is not attracted to fat women.
2- I can afford to buy very healthy, non-processed foods at the grocery store.
3-I have a nanny so I can go to the gym whenever I want.
4-I have the time to cook healthy foods every night.
5-I am educated, and understand the nutritional value of food.

Very telling that your first comment is your husbands preference.

I want to be attractive to my husband...don't you?

New poster here. In 10 years, your top 5 list will be very different. Also, you will not keep the weight off forever. You will be older and your husband will still be attracted to younger skinny women, educated or not.

I just love how some women like to keep other women down. Good for you!

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the responses so forgive me if I'm not the first to point this out, but hello what did you just start college and have such epiphanies about the world around you? The question is not: why are rich women skinny, but why are the less fortunate so unhealthy? There are entire socioeconomic studies devoted to this question. One big issue is that "fast" and "cheap" foods (which aren't always so cheap) are much less healthy. There is so much we are finding out about obesity and our nutrition that I'm sure the generational links of obesity will be made clearer soon. Purely socially, though, the rich (are able to) put a greater premium on healthfulness. Duh! All this nonsense about tummy tucks and starvation is offensive!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stress of worrying about their meal ticket dumping them for a younger, nicer replacement, who puts out in the bedroom.

Stress and insecurity have nothing to do with it. You'll notice that most successful women (on their own right) are skinny too. Why? (1) Skinny is the fashionable and desired look and (2) Greater amount of time, money and motivation (see 1) to eat healthy and exercise.

I think it's both for many women, especially ones who've never worked. You do worry about your meal ticket. I took a year off and I was super skinny and in shape. When I told my husband I was going back to work, he almost cried. I just couldn't do it anymore. He made the offer recently - please stop working, you can work out everyday. He actually loves my size, but I love working out and doing triathlons. He thought that would convince me. You just have more time and less to worry about. I only had to worry about my kids' homework and sometimes had the nanny pick up the kids. It was a good life if that's what you want. I just didn't want it.

It sounds like you are happy but - how sad. Can't imagine a dh who feels that way. Hope dh is ok when you inevitably age and put on a few pounds.

[Anonymous]

I have a different take on this than most. I didn't take the original post to ask "Why do rich women maintain a healthy weight" but rather "Why are so many scary skinny?"

I am thin and have many thin friends. We are middle class to upper middle class. We rent. We attend public school. We eat healthy and try to exercise. No nannys here.

But recently I've spent some time on the Beauvoir and Sidwell campuses. Holy hell! Each time I've seen several moms who look downright anorexic. Spindly arms, toothpick denim legs, gaunt faces, and usually dressed well and made-up and styled. They're skinny alright, but they look scary skinny. Like Kate Moss versus Kate Beckingsdale. I can say with certainty I'd rather look like me, enjoy my food, and feel slightly self conscious if my stomach occasionally looks less than flat in my size 4 bandage dress, than look like a malnourished preteen boy. Heroic chic is not my thing I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a different take on this than most. I didn't take the original post to ask "Why do rich women maintain a healthy weight" but rather "Why are so many scary skinny?"

I am thin and have many thin friends. We are middle class to upper middle class. We rent. We attend public school. We eat healthy and try to exercise. No nannys here.

But recently I've spent some time on the Beauvoir and Sidwell campuses. Holy hell! Each time I've seen several moms who look downright anorexic. Spindly arms, toothpick denim legs, gaunt faces, and usually dressed well and made-up and styled. They're skinny alright, but they look scary skinny. Like Kate Moss versus Kate Beckingsdale. I can say with certainty I'd rather look like me, enjoy my food, and feel slightly self conscious if my stomach occasionally looks less than flat in my size 4 bandage dress, than look like a malnourished preteen boy. Heroic chic is not my thing I guess?

Totally agree. And studies have found that the super thin are actually really unhealthy and dont live as long. It's actually got health risks on par with obesity- can be much worse, in many cases

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Generalize much? Some of these answers make me think you haven't met "rich" women. There are thin rich women, plump rich women, rich women with gorgeous teeth, rich women with rotten teeth, rich women with luxurious hair, rich women with unremarkable hair....please. Seriously.

Serious question
How many morbidly obese women do you see on the arm of a rich successful man? I'm talking 250 pound attractive woman?

Being rich has it's set of standards and expectations. No obese woman would be accepted in those circles.

Again, I don't think you've hung out with many rich people

Plenty of obese women who are wealthy themselves or married to wealthy men

It's probably less common for obesity to occur ACROSS the board in wealthy people, they can afford better food/trainers. You dont see many obese men either.

But obese women do exist in wealthy social circles. Plenty of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stress of worrying about their meal ticket dumping them for a younger, nicer replacement, who puts out in the bedroom.

Stress and insecurity have nothing to do with it. You'll notice that most successful women (on their own right) are skinny too. Why? (1) Skinny is the fashionable and desired look and (2) Greater amount of time, money and motivation (see 1) to eat healthy and exercise.

I think it's both for many women, especially ones who've never worked. You do worry about your meal ticket. I took a year off and I was super skinny and in shape. When I told my husband I was going back to work, he almost cried. I just couldn't do it anymore. He made the offer recently - please stop working, you can work out everyday. He actually loves my size, but I love working out and doing triathlons. He thought that would convince me. You just have more time and less to worry about. I only had to worry about my kids' homework and sometimes had the nanny pick up the kids. It was a good life if that's what you want. I just didn't want it.

It sounds like you are happy but - how sad. Can't imagine a dh who feels that way. Hope dh is ok when you inevitably age and put on a few pounds.

Maybe the children were somehow better cared for? Maybe DH preferred that. Not every one has to want the pandemonium of dual paycheck driven parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They aren't all skinny. Look at Oprah.

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[Anonymous]

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competition of who eats the least.

Thats so sad. Who would want to win that? What's the prize? Malnourishment and premature wrinkles?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:the "healthy food" answer is nonsense.

Women who meet the actual definition of both rich and skinny do not eat much, just enough to stay alive and functioning. At that is not expensive, at all.

Not true. We shop at Whole Foods & spend at least $350/week on groceries. Organic fruit & vegetables aren't cheap. Wild-caught salmon can easily be over $20/pound. My almond milk is more expensive than milk. High quality olive oil is more expensive than butter or canola oil. I sent Dh to the store & he couldn't get over a small pack of chicken costing $15.

When dining out, an entree costs the same whether you finish it or not. However, a higher end restaurant is more likely to have smaller portions than Applebee's.

Yes true. If you were truly met the actual definition of "rich" -- which is what this thread is ostensibly asking about -- you would 1) not do you own grocery shopping, a household manager would do to for you, and 2) you would have no idea what your weekly grocery bill was and you would't care.

upper middle class =/= rich. Seriously, they're separate things. I'm upper middle class, I shop at Whole foods, and I don't need to be schooled on the price of purportedly-wild caught salmon at WF during June (answer: it was $29 btw). I have girlfriends who are RICH, who live in whole-floor residences overlooking Central Park. If I quizzed them on grocery bills, they'd blink in confusion. Their nutritonist consults with their cook and the household manager gets it done.

Yep. At the very least, the truly rich, even if they do do their own shopping, which some suburban moms do, they dont keep track of the amounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stress of worrying about their meal ticket dumping them for a younger, nicer replacement, who puts out in the bedroom.

Stress and insecurity have nothing to do with it. You'll notice that most successful women (on their own right) are skinny too. Why? (1) Skinny is the fashionable and desired look and (2) Greater amount of time, money and motivation (see 1) to eat healthy and exercise.

I think it's both for many women, especially ones who've never worked. You do worry about your meal ticket. I took a year off and I was super skinny and in shape. When I told my husband I was going back to work, he almost cried. I just couldn't do it anymore. He made the offer recently - please stop working, you can work out everyday. He actually loves my size, but I love working out and doing triathlons. He thought that would convince me. You just have more time and less to worry about. I only had to worry about my kids' homework and sometimes had the nanny pick up the kids. It was a good life if that's what you want. I just didn't want it.

It sounds like you are happy but - how sad. Can't imagine a dh who feels that way. Hope dh is ok when you inevitably age and put on a few pounds.

Maybe the children were somehow better cared for? Maybe DH preferred that. Not every one has to want the pandemonium of dual paycheck driven parents.

You got quality parenting from that post? Uh, ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a different take on this than most. I didn't take the original post to ask "Why do rich women maintain a healthy weight" but rather "Why are so many scary skinny?"

I am thin and have many thin friends. We are middle class to upper middle class. We rent. We attend public school. We eat healthy and try to exercise. No nannys here.

But recently I've spent some time on the Beauvoir and Sidwell campuses. Holy hell! Each time I've seen several moms who look downright anorexic. Spindly arms, toothpick denim legs, gaunt faces, and usually dressed well and made-up and styled. They're skinny alright, but they look scary skinny. Like Kate Moss versus Kate Beckingsdale. I can say with certainty I'd rather look like me, enjoy my food, and feel slightly self conscious if my stomach occasionally looks less than flat in my size 4 bandage dress, than look like a malnourished preteen boy. Heroic chic is not my thing I guess?

Totally agree. And studies have found that the super thin are actually really unhealthy and dont live as long. It's actually got health risks on par with obesity- can be much worse, in many cases

Links to actual studies, please?

Nope, gossip by your fat aunties doesn't fit the bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a different take on this than most. I didn't take the original post to ask "Why do rich women maintain a healthy weight" but rather "Why are so many scary skinny?"

I am thin and have many thin friends. We are middle class to upper middle class. We rent. We attend public school. We eat healthy and try to exercise. No nannys here.

But recently I've spent some time on the Beauvoir and Sidwell campuses. Holy hell! Each time I've seen several moms who look downright anorexic. Spindly arms, toothpick denim legs, gaunt faces, and usually dressed well and made-up and styled. They're skinny alright, but they look scary skinny. Like Kate Moss versus Kate Beckingsdale. I can say with certainty I'd rather look like me, enjoy my food, and feel slightly self conscious if my stomach occasionally looks less than flat in my size 4 bandage dress, than look like a malnourished preteen boy. Heroic chic is not my thing I guess?

Totally agree. And studies have found that the super thin are actually really unhealthy and dont live as long. It's actually got health risks on par with obesity- can be much worse, in many cases

Links to actual studies, please?

Nope, gossip by your fat aunties doesn't fit the bill.

Boom bitch.

http://www.stmichaelshospital.com/media/detail.php?source=hospital_news/2014/20140328_hn
http://www.fitday.com/fitness-articles/nutrition/too-fat-or-too-skinny-which-is-really-healthier.html#b

No fat aunties here, unless you're referencing yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak for myself...

5-I am educated, and understand the nutritional value of food.

I have a PhD and am fat. So, hmmm....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generalize much? Some of these answers make me think you haven't met "rich" women. There are thin rich women, plump rich women, rich women with gorgeous teeth, rich women with rotten teeth, rich women with luxurious hair, rich women with unremarkable hair....please. Seriously.

Serious question
How many morbidly obese women do you see on the arm of a rich successful man? I'm talking 250 pound attractive woman?

Being rich has it's set of standards and expectations. No obese woman would be accepted in those circles.

Again, I don't think you've hung out with many rich people

Plenty of obese women who are wealthy themselves or married to wealthy men

It's probably less common for obesity to occur ACROSS the board in wealthy people, they can afford better food/trainers. You dont see many obese men either.

But obese women do exist in wealthy social circles. Plenty of them.

Original PP here. Thank you.