"Jekyll and Hyde" DH went over the line - what do I do next?

[Anonymous]

Will the idiot posters who think this thread is about driving disperse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try your best not to upset your husband. Tend to his needs.

Thanks for the chiming in, Jim Bob.

PS: I found Jinger's promise ring in Josh's room. It was kind of sticky. I don't know what's up with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

Hmmm...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

Hmmm...

yes..... that's what I thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

Hmmm...

yes..... that's what I thought.

Fatal car accidents can have survivors. It just means someone died. Not necessarily everyone.

[Anonymous]

his taking a stand against her verbal abuse. he is asking whether or not he wants his child to be exposed to her abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

Hmmm...

yes..... that's what I thought.

Fatal car accidents can have survivors. It just means someone died. Not necessarily everyone.

That's not what we're thinking...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, regardless of what his rage stemmed from, he put his wife and child (and lots of strangers) in mortal danger. Doesn't matter if he comes home from work pissed off and slaps her around, right? He's just mad at his boss... OF COURSE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE. At the very least a separation while he gets into therapy and finds a way to control his temper.

How fast was everyone going? How close did his car come to others? How much more danger were they actually in? Was her perception of danger an accurate one?

You don't know. Neither do I. So your assertion of MORTAL DANGER would be like me saying there was never any danger at all.

Speeding up and weaving through traffic is absolutely dangerous at any speed. You're an idiot, and I'm really worried about meeting some of you on the road (driving aggressively=driving dangerously FULL STOP).

Signed,
A survivor of two fatal car accidents

Hmmm...

yes..... that's what I thought.

Fatal car accidents can have survivors. It just means someone died. Not necessarily everyone.

That's not what we're thinking...

What were you thinking? First was when I was 13 and everyone in our car survived. Second was in my 20s. I don't ride with other people very often anymore, much prefer to trust my own driving which has never caused an accident. Unlike this speeding, weaving shit you're trying to defend which is stupid and dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Go to the Montgomery county circuit court in Rockville. Talk to the domestic violence attorney there, they have an office. It's free. I was the attorney there some years ago. No one will laugh at you. While there go to the Family help center. There are lawyers there too. Also free. Get information about divorce and referrals to attorneys. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Because I've had my wife overreact to my driving when, while it was certainly an expression of anger that she would have rathered I not feel or express, was not remotely dangerous. I have no way of knowing whether she honestly felt scared or, instead, was pretending to be scared because she wanted to express disapproval and control my behavior but knew that saying "I don't want you to feel or express anger" would not have been well taken.

Or maybe she honestly felt scared. You have huge issues, dude.

[Anonymous]

Lawyers get so expensive so fast. My advice is, visit one for an initial consultation, a good one, write down everything you need to ask her/him in advance and ask it. Then document. Do not, under any circumstance, let him get a whiff of what is happening, that is when the most dangerous type of abuse comes out. I don't even know what to say. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Because I've had my wife overreact to my driving when, while it was certainly an expression of anger that she would have rathered I not feel or express, was not remotely dangerous. I have no way of knowing whether she honestly felt scared or, instead, was pretending to be scared because she wanted to express disapproval and control my behavior but knew that saying "I don't want you to feel or express anger" would not have been well taken.

Or maybe she honestly felt scared. You have huge issues, dude.

Agreed. And if you don't want her to control your behavior, don't change your behavior. Whether she is faking it or not is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to the Montgomery county circuit court in Rockville. Talk to the domestic violence attorney there, they have an office. It's free. I was the attorney there some years ago. No one will laugh at you. While there go to the Family help center. There are lawyers there too. Also free. Get information about divorce and referrals to attorneys. Best of luck.

Quoting this in the hopes OP sees it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go to the Montgomery county circuit court in Rockville. Talk to the domestic violence attorney there, they have an office. It's free. I was the attorney there some years ago. No one will laugh at you. While there go to the Family help center. There are lawyers there too. Also free. Get information about divorce and referrals to attorneys. Best of luck.

Quoting this in the hopes OP sees it

OP here - I see it, and thank you!! I will go talk to someone there.

For folks who are seeking more insight into whether the incident was legitimately terrifying or not, I assure you it was. It was sudden, dangerous (almost hit the people in front of us), and 100% directed at me, not a reaction to other drivers on the road. I'm not sure whether divorce is the best option or not, but I feel that this is a huge wake-up call and I need to know what my options are and be ready.

Thank you all for your thoughtful advice, arguments for & against, and commiseration. This is really helping.