35th Birthday gift for best friend, guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

Which relationship is more important to you? The one with your husband or your male best friend?

[Anonymous]

obvi the one with her friend

[Anonymous]

Just take him out to dinner.

[Anonymous]

Do you all flirt when together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

OP, If your response is that he uses kissy faces in texts... please take a moment and look at this relationship from your husband's point of view. Earlier you said he has made some comments over the years.
What if your DH saw he texts or emails with this guy? What would he think? Would he "not understand"? Would he "understand" better if he knew the guy better? Is he ever invited to hang out with you and the friend? Does he accept or decline? Does he give a reason? I'm serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

OP, If your response is that he uses kissy faces in texts... please take a moment and look at this relationship from your husband's point of view. Earlier you said he has made some comments over the years.
What if your DH saw he texts or emails with this guy? What would he think? Would he "not understand"? Would he "understand" better if he knew the guy better? Is he ever invited to hang out with you and the friend? Does he accept or decline? Does he give a reason? I'm serious.

We hang out often; they even hang out together without me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

OP, If your response is that he uses kissy faces in texts... please take a moment and look at this relationship from your husband's point of view. Earlier you said he has made some comments over the years.
What if your DH saw he texts or emails with this guy? What would he think? Would he "not understand"? Would he "understand" better if he knew the guy better? Is he ever invited to hang out with you and the friend? Does he accept or decline? Does he give a reason? I'm serious.

We hang out often; they even hang out together without me.

Do you have MFM fantasies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

some people are just flirty by nature.....i know folks like this who are harmless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all flirt when together?

He is a flirtatious personally, generally/ But occassionaly over text he will use winky or kissy faces, etc.

OP, If your response is that he uses kissy faces in texts... please take a moment and look at this relationship from your husband's point of view. Earlier you said he has made some comments over the years.
What if your DH saw he texts or emails with this guy? What would he think? Would he "not understand"? Would he "understand" better if he knew the guy better? Is he ever invited to hang out with you and the friend? Does he accept or decline? Does he give a reason? I'm serious.

We hang out often; they even hang out together without me.

"Hang out"

[Anonymous]

It's obvi you want to bang him. There's your bday present idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

I'm 35 and agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Immso unhappy in my marriage right now. I guess in a funk. My friend has always been there for me and always, always understands me. He may bit always agree with me, but he hears me, validates my feelings as real (even if he disagrees) and makes me feel better about myself. He's just always there. I feel so disconnected from my dh right now. Ships passing in the night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Immso unhappy in my marriage right now. I guess in a funk. My friend has always been there for me and always, always understands me. He may bit always agree with me, but he hears me, validates my feelings as real (even if he disagrees) and makes me feel better about myself. He's just always there. I feel so disconnected from my dh right now. Ships passing in the night.

I feel so bad for your friend - you friendzoned him for 20+ years.

Your friend needs an intervention and to get the hell away from you

[Anonymous]

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