35th Birthday gift for best friend, guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's into sports? Is that watching sports or participating in sports?

Men like experiences. Sign yourself up with him to do an adventure race.
In fact, the Spartan race is coming up in 2 weeks. Training is not necessary but if he's into sports, that will help.

np here, and i would say this is a terrible idea. unless you know for a fact that he is into this sort of thing. also see above re: you centric

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is he in love with you?

How would she know?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

Does not exist. At least one person is pining after the other on some level. Whether it is a sexual curiosity without desire for a relationship or the other person thinks of you as a soulmate. It is never platonic on both ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is he in love with you?

How would she know?

+1

There's a boy I know, he's the one I dream of
Looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds above, mm mm
Oh I lose control, can't seem to get enough, uh huh
When I wake from dreaming, tell me is it really love, ooo
How will I know (Don't trust your feelings)
How will I know
How will I know (Love can be deceiving)
How will I know
How will I know if he really loves me
I say a prayer with every heart beat
I fall in love whenever we meet
I'm asking you what you know about these things
How will I know if he's thinking of me
I try to phone but I'm too shy (can't speak)
Falling in love is so bitter sweet
This love is strong why do I feel weak
Oh, wake me, I'm shaking, wish I had you near me now, uh huh
Said there's

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

Does not exist. At least one person is pining after the other on some level. Whether it is a sexual curiosity without desire for a relationship or the other person thinks of you as a soulmate. It is never platonic on both ends.

Interesting---just because one has male parts and one has female? Can never be platonic?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

Does not exist. At least one person is pining after the other on some level. Whether it is a sexual curiosity without desire for a relationship or the other person thinks of you as a soulmate. It is never platonic on both ends.

Interesting---just because one has male parts and one has female? Can never be platonic?

Sure I have many platonic friends who are male. For instance my coworkers and other friends from college that I enjoy spending time with and being friends with. Being a best friend is intimate, and there is no platonic BEST friendship between men and women if it is a true best friendship rather than an "I enjoy your company and like seeing you after work for drinks and having lunch a few times a month or seeing each other at college weddings etc." Best friendship where you see each other regularly and discuss intimate details of your life and confide in each other and have a great gay old time laughing together is too intimate for married people of the opposite sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

Does not exist. At least one person is pining after the other on some level. Whether it is a sexual curiosity without desire for a relationship or the other person thinks of you as a soulmate. It is never platonic on both ends.

Interesting---just because one has male parts and one has female? Can never be platonic?

Sure I have many platonic friends who are male. For instance my coworkers and other friends from college that I enjoy spending time with and being friends with. Being a best friend is intimate, and there is no platonic BEST friendship between men and women if it is a true best friendship rather than an "I enjoy your company and like seeing you after work for drinks and having lunch a few times a month or seeing each other at college weddings etc." Best friendship where you see each other regularly and discuss intimate details of your life and confide in each other and have a great gay old time laughing together is too intimate for married people of the opposite sex.

We do all of these things and have for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

I think that's a dick move by your DH. If you have never given him a reason to doubt or distrust, then that's pretty unfair of him, IMO

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

He has never outright said that he is weirded out but over the years hes made some comments that make it clear to me hes in fact increasingly, lets say, 'paying attention' to it. does that makes sense?

This is where you need to prioritize your marriage and not your friendship. Do not get him a nice gift. Do you usually get him a gift? 35 isn't a big deal, wait for 40 to do something. By then hopefully your friend will be married which will ease the tension between you-husband-friend. Are you sure you don't have any unresolved feelings for this man? Its bizarre to me that a 35 year old woman would be getting a 35 year old single man a gift, even with a history of friendship. I don't get my girlfriends gift really, we do dinner and drinks and pick up the tab.

would it be ok with you if the friend were married? then its ok to get a gift? i find it interesting that people do not believe in the concept of truly meaningful nonsexual friendship between men and women if one of both is single....

Does not exist. At least one person is pining after the other on some level. Whether it is a sexual curiosity without desire for a relationship or the other person thinks of you as a soulmate. It is never platonic on both ends.

Interesting---just because one has male parts and one has female? Can never be platonic?

Sure I have many platonic friends who are male. For instance my coworkers and other friends from college that I enjoy spending time with and being friends with. Being a best friend is intimate, and there is no platonic BEST friendship between men and women if it is a true best friendship rather than an "I enjoy your company and like seeing you after work for drinks and having lunch a few times a month or seeing each other at college weddings etc." Best friendship where you see each other regularly and discuss intimate details of your life and confide in each other and have a great gay old time laughing together is too intimate for married people of the opposite sex.

I would hate to be married to you. This is not 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is your husband not weirded out by this? I only ask because my best friend is a male, we met the first day of college, and even though we were never romantically involved, my husband is weirded out by our relationship which he won't admit. If I was putting real thought into a gift I was getting for my friend my DH would be jealous and pissed.

I wouldnt tell my husband about the actual gift. Seems unnecessary to run that by him. Just like I don't involve him in my real thought for baby gifts, wedding gifts, and birthday gifts for other friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're in denial OP. Crush crush crush away.

Get him a blow up doll. That will put an end to any sexual tension. A friend of mind did this and the guy was so humiliated (that was not her plan,she thought it was funny) that he never spoke to her again. End of story.

WIth a pictur eof your face glued onto it...LOL

[Anonymous]

the 35 craft beers is nicer than "a bottle of" and its cute but not over the top and it isn't too personal and he will most likely really like that nice, thoughtful gift and he will think of you every time he drinks one.