I hate date nights

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


Maybe he spends a ton of energy on working out?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


We had sex twice in one night a handful of time and I met my husband when he was 22. Now in our mid 30s we probably have it every 2 months and it usually sucks (for Me)
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Who are all these men that need sex so badly at the expense of everything else?!! DH and I have a great sex life, but he doesn't act like a whiny baby if it's been a week. It's just not his #1 thing in life, like an animal. Is this one guy mainly that posts about sex like this?? Can't enjoy a date night because he's too horny?


In our case, it's the wife. I would be ballistically cranky if I went a week without. Then again, I'm in my late 40s, so my hormones are running wild, although I've almost always been like this.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.


Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.


Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.


Not the PP here, but DW feeling the same way.
If I go on a date night, when I get home, I am tired and want to go to SLEEP. I don't want to have sex. DH though, thinks date night must come with sex.
So if there sex to be had, I'd rather do it before, so it is out of the way and I can then relax and enjoy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Who are all these men that need sex so badly at the expense of everything else?!! DH and I have a great sex life, but he doesn't act like a whiny baby if it's been a week. It's just not his #1 thing in life, like an animal. Is this one guy mainly that posts about sex like this?? Can't enjoy a date night because he's too horny?


My DH would like sex EVERYDAY. It is on his mind ALL the time.
I would like sex, NEVER (I am nursing, maybe that has to do with it).
I am not talking about just intercourse, I also don't care for other things, including solo activities.
So I just do it for him, as I would anything else he cares about (he does the same for me, for the things I care about).
We have settled on 3 times a week. Make dinner, have dinner, put kids to bed, brush teeth, have sex, relax!
It is not that I don't enjoy it, I just don't need it/want it.

It is better this way because he was starting to do things to get sex (i.e. chores or other things) and I did not like that dynamic.
I told him you will get sex anyhow, even if you are an ass, so be good for goodness sake, not for sex. And he is.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who are all these men that need sex so badly at the expense of everything else?!! DH and I have a great sex life, but he doesn't act like a whiny baby if it's been a week. It's just not his #1 thing in life, like an animal. Is this one guy mainly that posts about sex like this?? Can't enjoy a date night because he's too horny?


My DH would like sex EVERYDAY. It is on his mind ALL the time.
I would like sex, NEVER (I am nursing, maybe that has to do with it).
I am not talking about just intercourse, I also don't care for other things, including solo activities.
So I just do it for him, as I would anything else he cares about (he does the same for me, for the things I care about).
We have settled on 3 times a week. Make dinner, have dinner, put kids to bed, brush teeth, have sex, relax!
It is not that I don't enjoy it, I just don't need it/want it.

It is better this way because he was starting to do things to get sex (i.e. chores or other things) and I did not like that dynamic.
I told him you will get sex anyhow, even if you are an ass, so be good for goodness sake, not for sex. And he is.


We should switch husbands. Yours could get it before and after work, and you could live a celibate life with my husband. Win win!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Yes to this ^^^. If some new and willing hottie walked into the bedroom after round 1 with you, I guarantee he could go round 2 after a very short rest.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.


Probably because he is getting laid.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.


Probably because he is getting laid.


My husband would rather drink than get laid.
Anonymous
Then go ahead and do just that.

You probably don't want to hurt your spouse's feelings by saying outright that you detest date nights, so take a different approach to things.

Suggest watching a movie on Netflix over some wine and cheesy popcorn after the kids go down.

No one should force you to do something you do not want to do. And you should NEVER feel any guilt for feeling the way you do.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.


Probably because he is getting laid.


My husband would rather drink than get laid.


Thats so sad. I'm sorry.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.


Probably because he is getting laid.


My husband would rather drink than get laid.


Thats so sad. I'm sorry.


Thanks but no worries. I've had an outside relationship for quite some time now.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.


He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.


Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.


I guess all men are different my DH is 49, dadbod, is "athletic" if you count golf and he can "do it" twice in a night. In fact haha, its usually on our date nights.


Bet he's not a big drinker.


Probably because he is getting laid.


My husband would rather drink than get laid.


Thats so sad. I'm sorry.


Thanks but no worries. I've had an outside relationship for quite some time now.


Wouldn't you rather have a fulfilling sexual relationship with your husband?

No snark, serious question.
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