I hate date nights

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

If you have sex before the date, why the need to even go on the date?

So you can bond without the kids around?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Are you over or under 45, and how old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

If you have sex before the date, why the need to even go on the date?

What are you, 12? You go on the date 'even' after the sex because it can be fun to eat tasty food and get tipsy with someone you really like.

Right. This is SOP for us, especially when we travel. Have the sex first, then enjoy the eating and drinking together. Fat and bloated sex is overrated and who wants to hold back on the eating and drinking? Have the sex first, eat and drink what you want, and don't worry about it.

The drinking usually leads to "freakier" sex so I'd rather risk waiting until post-date.

Unless you're pretty old, a few hours of eating and drinking probably gives you enough time to get past the refractory period and do it twice if that's what you feel like.

My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.

[Anonymous]

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My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.

My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since I met him at 26. Super fit guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.

He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.

He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.

Really? Hmmm. I work out 5X a week, work full time, take care of his house and children. Wonder why he wouldn't want to try? My boyfriend who's in his early 50s can do it twice in a row.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

Once a week? Are you both satisfied with that?

Yes, totally satisfied. I'm more sexual than DH - at least I was for a long time - but these days frequent sex, especially on weeknights stresses me out. DH is a once a week guy, unless we are alone away on the weekends. We've been married 15 years, together over 20.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband hasn't been able to have sex twice in one night since his early 40s.

He could. He just isn't interested in trying to. Trust me on this.

Not pp here, but you're wrong. My DH is super atheltic, 28 and can't do it 2x in a night.

[Anonymous]

Who are all these men that need sex so badly at the expense of everything else?!! DH and I have a great sex life, but he doesn't act like a whiny baby if it's been a week. It's just not his #1 thing in life, like an animal. Is this one guy mainly that posts about sex like this?? Can't enjoy a date night because he's too horny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What ever happened to women being able to have a voice and speak up about what they want? Nothing uglier than a nonconfident woman

You and your rude post are uglier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Are you over or under 45, and how old are your kids?

I'm 42 dh is 49 kids are 12/9/6 almost 3

[Anonymous]

It sounds like most of you have "not liking your husband" problems, not date night problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate date night. Too expensive, DH has terrible table manners so I have to watch all that expensive food being chewed up, and then he expects sex even though he's been gross all night and made me stay up 2 hours past my preferred bedtime. Then I am tired the next day.

I would MUCH prefer to get a weekend morning babysitter, go out to brunch and then get back in bed.

So is that what you do? Did you tell your DH that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like most of you have "not liking your husband" problems, not date night problems.

+1. Why aren't you ladies just telling your husbands what you want?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

Once a week? Are you both satisfied with that?

Yes, totally satisfied. I'm more sexual than DH - at least I was for a long time - but these days frequent sex, especially on weeknights stresses me out. DH is a once a week guy, unless we are alone away on the weekends. We've been married 15 years, together over 20.

Wow, you're lucky you're compatible. I've been with my DH 22 years, and no way would once a week cut it for e.