I hate date nights

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Aaaaand, that works for you. Please realize that not everybody has the same experiences as you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Aaaaand, that works for you. Please realize that not everybody has the same experiences as you.

Well, gee, maybe someone will read the pp and think, hmm let me give it a try and it might work for them. There is a reason there are so many success stories with the 30 days of sex challenge, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Aaaaand, that works for you. Please realize that not everybody has the same experiences as you.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

Because we get up with our kids between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. Sex ain't happening after 8pm. One of us is always too tired.

I feel people who say they are too tired for sex use it as a copout.

I can be cranky, tired, not in the mood...but once you start that all slips away because its sex

Aaaaand, that works for you. Please realize that not everybody has the same experiences as you.

Well, gee, maybe someone will read the pp and think, hmm let me give it a try and it might work for them. There is a reason there are so many success stories with the 30 days of sex challenge, etc.

+1 it was a comment and suggestion, nobody said this HAD to work for everyone

[Anonymous]

We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

Once a week? Are you both satisfied with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

Good for you PP! That sounds like a much healthier way to do "date night".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't have a set date night but with a live-in nanny with light hours, we can get out semi-regularly. I have to confess one thing though- it never occurred to me or DH either that date night=sex night. Seriously. We have our more-or-less Sunday morning or nap time romp and that's it.

Good for you PP! That sounds like a much healthier way to do "date night".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

That is a great idea. Often after date night I'm exhausted and don't really want to have sex. I'm going to give this a try.

[Anonymous]

I hated "date night" too (though there were a bunch of reasons for that). We always did much better with casual, spur-of-the-moment lunch dates when we could manage them. No expectations that they should be some special, re-energizing couples' event; we just ate yummy stuff and talked as adults and enjoyed each other's company for an hour.

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Anonymous wrote:I so agree.

I dont like Miley Cyrus but I agreed with her when she recently talked about being sad because she was in a restaurant and:
"'All the women in the restaurant were with these older, fat men that had just let themselves go,' said Cyrus.
'They were just being drunk bastards. And then the women were sitting there, trying so hard just to look good. And they’re ignoring them the whole time.
Miley added, 'And I thought, "I’m not living like this. If I end up in a straight relationship, that’s fine—but I’m not going to be with f***ing slob guys who are watching porn, making all their girls feel ugly.'"


Men need to step their game up. It's not cutting it.

+1. It's definitely a good idea to take your cues from the wisdom of Miley Cyrus and her relationship observations. (Men are fat drunk bastards, while women are trying their best to look good.) I see nothing but positives coming from that.

Sure, focus on the fact that it's Miley Cyrus and not the content of the quote itself. That's super intelligent...

Most people, when they post a quote, do so because they believe, the person quoted will add some weight or credibility. Miley Cyrus was probably not the best choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

If you have sex before the date, why the need to even go on the date?

What are you, 12? You go on the date 'even' after the sex because it can be fun to eat tasty food and get tipsy with someone you really like.

Right. This is SOP for us, especially when we travel. Have the sex first, then enjoy the eating and drinking together. Fat and bloated sex is overrated and who wants to hold back on the eating and drinking? Have the sex first, eat and drink what you want, and don't worry about it.

The drinking usually leads to "freakier" sex so I'd rather risk waiting until post-date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wwe have sex nights: wed, friday, saturday. So DH can get his quota and leaves me alone the rest of the week ?

I feel sorry for you.

Really? I think that's awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

If you have sex before the date, why the need to even go on the date?

What are you, 12? You go on the date 'even' after the sex because it can be fun to eat tasty food and get tipsy with someone you really like.

Right. This is SOP for us, especially when we travel. Have the sex first, then enjoy the eating and drinking together. Fat and bloated sex is overrated and who wants to hold back on the eating and drinking? Have the sex first, eat and drink what you want, and don't worry about it.

The drinking usually leads to "freakier" sex so I'd rather risk waiting until post-date.

Unless you're pretty old, a few hours of eating and drinking probably gives you enough time to get past the refractory period and do it twice if that's what you feel like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew to hate date nights too. Because I was starved for sex and developed an expectation that they would lead to sex. When they didn't, I got resentful.

I started liking them again when we had sex before the date, then I could enjoy the date without worrying about sex.

Seriously? People worry about sex?? Why not just ask for sex after the date? This is so weird.

My husband and I never have sex after a date. It's too late by then!