How old were you when you became a dad for the first time?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:19 & 45

What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife. He had two marriages. He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:19 & 45

What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife. He had two marriages. He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....

Depends on how you look at it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't think I'd see so many in their 30s and 40s. May I ask what ages your wives were?

I'm pushing 32 with none but I'm just curious.

Why? I mean okay i also didn't think so many were in their 40s but 30s is pretty normal in most urban areas not just in DC or am i wrong?

The area I'm from many have kids in their early to mid twenties. I'm actually happy to see I won't be alone when I do have a kid at my later age.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:19 & 45

What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife. He had two marriages. He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....

Depends on how you look at it.

How can it depend on how you look at it. At 45 he was already a father, not with this wife as a co-parent, but he was already a father. As far as I know, there isn't another definition of "first time" other than "never having done it before".

And the original question was how old were you when you became a father or how old was your husband when he first became a father (go back and read the very short OP). So the only way there could be two answers like this was for it to be two different men. So, either the PP was a man referring to himself and his husband or was a woman who had two husbands. But I see now that the person who answered just didn't understand the OP's question (and apparently still doesn't).

[Anonymous]

Wow...Looking at all of these results, becoming a first time parent at 23 looks young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Looking at all of these results, becoming a first time parent at 23 looks young.

I was 24, so i was quite young too. I read somewhere that the average age is 25 or 26 to become a dad for the first time but i was the only one in my group of friends and 5 years later i'm still the only one, it's weird i would never have guessed that other guys wait so much longer with the average at mid 20.

[Anonymous]

We are due in 9 days. I'm 47.

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Phew! I was getting afraid to post. If we are successful, DH will be at least 54.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow...Looking at all of these results, becoming a first time parent at 23 looks young.

I was 24, so i was quite young too. I read somewhere that the average age is 25 or 26 to become a dad for the first time but i was the only one in my group of friends and 5 years later i'm still the only one, it's weird i would never have guessed that other guys wait so much longer with the average at mid 20.

I'm 27 and was the first in my group, i agree i would have guessed we were the average age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:19 & 45

What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife. He had two marriages. He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....

Depends on how you look at it.

I think it is very telling that in your opinion your child was his first child. Guess you don't like the first child too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow...Looking at all of these results, becoming a first time parent at 23 looks young.

I was 24, so i was quite young too. I read somewhere that the average age is 25 or 26 to become a dad for the first time but i was the only one in my group of friends and 5 years later i'm still the only one, it's weird i would never have guessed that other guys wait so much longer with the average at mid 20.

I'm 27 and was the first in my group, i agree i would have guessed we were the average age.

I think "average" is highly misleading, because I think these numbers vary wildly for economic and educational levels.

=<HS diploma: average is probably more like 22

=>BA|BS: average is probably more like 29

And I think it's creeping up. Boomers were averaging mid-20s; X-ers and Millenials are in their 30s. Education + Career = late start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:19 & 45

What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife. He had two marriages. He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....

Depends on how you look at it.

I think it is very telling that in your opinion your child was his first child. Guess you don't like the first child too much?

Heh...I wonder: is our Autistic Poster back again? Such literalism!

Look, it may also be that while he was technically a father at 19, he may never have had any contact or involvement with the child...ever. In which case, from a practical lifestyle and experience standpoint: no, he was not a father. It may have had nothing whatsoever to do with liking or not liking the child. He may have been uninvolved with any children until he had one at 45.

In the not too distant past it was not uncommon for teen pregnancies to be given up for adoption or for the fathers to not even be told they were fathers. I know one guy who found out in his late 30s about a daughter for the first time - who was 8 at the time - when the state came after him for child support; the mother had never told him and didn't tell him even when she gave his name to the state in order to continue getting benefits.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I were both 27. We're both from the south where people have kids pretty young and my mom always joked that we were old parents.