Has your child's teacher ever been really rude to you and what did you do?

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Anonymous wrote:Impossible to read anymore with all the mangled anonymous posting. What should be clear is that the teacher was rude and embarrassed a volunteer who was trying to help. It's unprofessional.

What was the rude and unprofessional behavior? Please enlighten us because OP certainly hasn't. The teacher did not raise her voice, nor did she use any inappropriate language. She did not lie about the parent or gossip. All she did was use OP's first name in giving her directions to do something. Sounds like the teacher was doing her job.

Sounds like OP is a fragile flower. Stop volunteering OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop volunteering so many hours. It clearly isn't appreciated. Don't volunteers for her anymore. School year is almost over so let it go.

I'm really surprised how many people say let it go. Maybe I will try. I have canceled my classroom volunteer hours for the rest of the year already. I guess I'm worried that if I let it go, she will think it is OK to treat me badly, and then maybe she'll think it is OK to treat my child badly...like she can get away with it or something. Obviously, she doesn't like me. Is that nuts? I guess it might be. I've just never encountered this kind of treatment before (at least not until I came to this school). I don't really know how to handle it.

I'm really surprised too, OP. Wonder if that teacher is on here sock puppeting! I agree with your decision to cancel the rest of your hours. Only a few weeks left anyway - you can donate your time and work to someone with some manners.

Hahaha. Hi OP!

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The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

My favorite thing about the "but you don't know all the details" follow-up posts is that we are getting literally 100% of the facts from the OP. The original post is already 100% one-sided and convinces nobody.

Or maybe OP is trying to protect her identity and didn't want to post all the explicit facts, and therefore didn't convey things accurately. But then, most of you are just here to criticize anonymously and don't really have any solutions for anyone anyway.

And people can give helpful solutions without all the relevant and correct facts????????????????

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Anonymous wrote:Op I don't understand the responses either. I would mention the teachers attitude to the principal or vice principal. If she is comfortable communicating like that in front of a group of parents, I imagine she does this regularly.

I'm in the Va burbs and this wouldn't fly. I have volunteered a lot and have dealt with rude teachers. They tend to be the bad teachers on their way out or their administration is so screwed up that chaos reigns. I view it as a sign of a teacher in trouble who no longer cares. One rude teacher needed to retire 10 years ago and I was a doormat and didn't address her comments. She treated me worse than the other parents. Another teacher who several parents complained about ended up being arrested at school while drunk. Another who made out of line comments was demoted and is on some kind of improvement plan. In ES, no one called the parents by their first name.

I agree.

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The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

My favorite thing about the "but you don't know all the details" follow-up posts is that we are getting literally 100% of the facts from the OP. The original post is already 100% one-sided and convinces nobody.

Or maybe OP is trying to protect her identity and didn't want to post all the explicit facts, and therefore didn't convey things accurately. But then, most of you are just here to criticize anonymously and don't really have any solutions for anyone anyway.

This place can be pretty awful if you want real feedback. Personally I've done exactly the above. Posted something with scant details due to concern about anonymity. Been slammed. Came back all defensive with more (real) details which then failed to convince anybody because by that point the battle lines had been drawn.

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This place can be pretty awful if you want real feedback. Personally I've done exactly the above. Posted something with scant details due to concern about anonymity. Been slammed. Came back all defensive with more (real) details which then failed to convince anybody because by that point the battle lines had been drawn.

If you want real feedback, you have to post enough information for people to be able to provide it. It's not possible to provide real feedback based on insufficient information.

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This place can be pretty awful if you want real feedback. Personally I've done exactly the above. Posted something with scant details due to concern about anonymity. Been slammed. Came back all defensive with more (real) details which then failed to convince anybody because by that point the battle lines had been drawn.

I don't know why I even bother to post here sometimes. There seem to be some really awful people who just hang around trying to make people feel worse. I often wonder it it's just one or two disturbed folks who write most of the posts, sitting around in their pajamas all day gleefully trashing people and calling them trolls or liars or snowflakes or whatever, all anonymously. Either way, I think the site is useless for getting a real take on anything - the people who post those things don't represent the majority of reasonable people.

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I'd like to hear the teacher's side of this. I bet OP has had a constant stream of second-guessing and nitpicking questions and suggestions to the teacher all year, and the teacher has had it with her.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd like to hear the teacher's side of this. I bet OP has had a constant stream of second-guessing and nitpicking questions and suggestions to the teacher all year, and the teacher has had it with her.

Maybe. But I'm a teacher, and there is almost nothing a parent could do to make me act unprofessionally and rudely. And god knows, some of them seem to be trying. If I stoop to that level, then that's on me, not them.

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OP I've volunteered for a lot of organizations and have worked with volunteers myself. It's often frenzied and challenging dealing with multiple tasks and people. I have never been rude to a volunteer and I've never experienced it. Sure, people can be a bit abrupt but not rude. Believe me, some people are so much harder to work with- need too much hand holding, obsess over things that don't matter, or stand around when they need to pitch in. Still, no one is rude- especially in a volunteer driven environment. I think the teacher was wrong, and I say that even if OP is a PITA.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop volunteering so many hours. It clearly isn't appreciated. Don't volunteers for her anymore. School year is almost over so let it go.

I'm really surprised how many people say let it go. Maybe I will try. I have canceled my classroom volunteer hours for the rest of the year already. I guess I'm worried that if I let it go, she will think it is OK to treat me badly, and then maybe she'll think it is OK to treat my child badly...like she can get away with it or something. Obviously, she doesn't like me. Is that nuts? I guess it might be. I've just never encountered this kind of treatment before (at least not until I came to this school). I don't really know how to handle it.

I'm really surprised too, OP. Wonder if that teacher is on here sock puppeting! I agree with your decision to cancel the rest of your hours. Only a few weeks left anyway - you can donate your time and work to someone with some manners.

Hahaha. Hi OP!

I'm not OP. And, I'm surprised about those defending the teacher. Being a teacher does not mean you have a free hand to act how you want. I'm not sure why we all feel the need to tip toe around and baby teachers b/c their job is "hard." Yes, it is. And our teachers have my utmost respect. If I acted rudely in my job, I'd be held accountable for it. So should a teacher. And, while I would not cause any sort of confrontation in the class, depending on how rude s/he was, this may be elevated.

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She did not seem frazzled to me. I'm just not sure that it would matter if she was. It was really unprofessional, and I have done a lot to help her this year. I put in so many hours doing things for her that it actually affected my work. It actually got worse after that - I pointed out that I was volunteering my time and didn't need to be there (as calmly as I could), and she told then I should just get out. I mean, it was not a little "snap" - it was a major insult. Wasn't it?

Story changed from first post.

In first post, OP was quiet and took it. Also, why in the world would you volunteer that much time if it were affecting your job? I'm willing to bet that teacher did not want that much help.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with letting it go. She might have just slipped into "teacher" mode with you without realizing it, since it was a chaotic atmosphere.

However, if it happens again, THEN set a time to talk face to face and explain that doing that is not acceptable.

Ditto. She was probably just overwhelmed although this why by no means acceptable. My DD's teacher has no tact at all and I really have learned to just disregard a lot of things that come across as rude because I realize she just has poor people skills (she treats adults just like she treats the young kids - poor kids). And my child is in private school where we are paying a hefty tuition!!! Nevertheless, I let it go because she is teaching my child and I don't want her to mistreat her.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd like to hear the teacher's side of this. I bet OP has had a constant stream of second-guessing and nitpicking questions and suggestions to the teacher all year, and the teacher has had it with her.

Could be, but this teacher still has no right to disrespect parents. The teacher also needs to learn to let it go if this is the case. Is maturity too much to expect?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd like to hear the teacher's side of this. I bet OP has had a constant stream of second-guessing and nitpicking questions and suggestions to the teacher all year, and the teacher has had it with her.

Could be, but this teacher still has no right to disrespect parents. The teacher also needs to learn to let it go if this is the case. Is maturity too much to expect?

I once lost it at a parent at a middle school where I used to teach. She was trying to defend her bully of a son, who had been torturing an overweight female classmate for weeks. The mom was indignant that I'd called her in and kept talking over me in defense of her child. She actually behaved a lot like her son, so I see where he got it. I don't feel sorry for the things I said to her. I was very harsh, very disrespectful, and loud enough to be heard over her droning needle voice.

Her child was eventually expelled for continuing bullying. I'm sure the mom remembers me as "really rude" for absolutely no reason.