Has your child's teacher ever been really rude to you and what did you do?

[Anonymous]

Anyone else em wonder if this is the same poster who wrote the "no water on hot days" post. They seem similarly trolly.

[Anonymous]

You sound drama-prone, even if she was rude in her tone. Why couldn't you just speak to her about the issue at some later point when things calmed down. "Hey, when I was volunteering on Friday, I sensed some tension when I asked you about thing x. Is something going on that we need to address, or am I misreading the situation?"

[Anonymous]

OP, you seem a little full of yourself. You aren't any more special than anybody else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In this instance you should let it go. Sounds like she was in the midst of chaos and was frazzled and just snapped at you. If this is ONE instance in almost an entire school year of no problems, of course let it go.

She did not seem frazzled to me. I'm just not sure that it would matter if she was. It was really unprofessional, and I have done a lot to help her this year. I put in so many hours doing things for her that it actually affected my work. It actually got worse after that - I pointed out that I was volunteering my time and didn't need to be there (as calmly as I could), and she told then I should just get out. I mean, it was not a little "snap" - it was a major insult. Wasn't it?

I, I, I, I......This is clearly all about you. I think you may have confused being direct for being rude- unless you provide more details. You want a position of special privilege because you volunteer so much and want to be loudly and publicly recognized for it. She may have snapped because you ask for "clarification" on everything at inconvenient times and procede to berate her with a superior attitude of "well I volunteer a ton and I don't have to be here at all". High maintenance volunteer.

Volunteer for your child and for the school. Do not volunteer so much it affects your job. Do not volunteer to get pats on the back.

This is the impression I got too. And volunteering so much that it affects your job? That's just not wise OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, apparently I have no right to be so upset. I do think many people have assumed the situation was different than it was, though. There were many parents and adults there - there was no need for the teacher to be frazzled or frustrated. In fact, everything was going fine with the event and everyone was pretty calm and quiet until the teacher walked in and started yelling at the kids. This teacher has a habit of giving one instruction and then changing it and yelling at everyone for what she said to do first. Or being unclear in general and then getting angry. It happens daily. This time, we had the kids all ready for the event exactly the way she'd said to have them - line order - and then she walked in and started grabbing kids and shouting at them that they were in the wrong place and they should be with their table group. But we had just told the kids to line up in line order, because those were her instructions. So now a calm situation is chaos as the kids are unsure where to go and are being yelled at as if they did something wrong. Then an aide walked in and started saying "line order" again. I simply asked which it was going to be.

The first name issue is not that she called me by my first name in general - it's that she did it in front of the children to "scold" me. Teachers do not use the first names of adults in front of children - that is standard policy. They even call each other Mr. and Ms. if there are children nearby. Parents do the same.

This teacher hasn't been great all year. She's disorganized and is not a great teacher in general. I haven't complained once, and have gone out of my way to help out and be extra nice, hoping that would help improve the situation. Obviously I need to just let this go, and I'm going to. But I'm not going to continue volunteering, because it's clear she does not want me there.

The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

My favorite thing about the "but you don't know all the details" follow-up posts is that we are getting literally 100% of the facts from the OP. The original post is already 100% one-sided and convinces nobody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

My favorite thing about the "but you don't know all the details" follow-up posts is that we are getting literally 100% of the facts from the OP. The original post is already 100% one-sided and convinces nobody.

Or maybe OP is trying to protect her identity and didn't want to post all the explicit facts, and therefore didn't convey things accurately. But then, most of you are just here to criticize anonymously and don't really have any solutions for anyone anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The inevitable post with extra details to make the other person look worse because people aren't siding with OP post.

That does very often seem to happen.

OP: This person did X. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.
OP: But you don't know all the details. Here are more details. Isn't that awful?
Various respondents: No.

My favorite thing about the "but you don't know all the details" follow-up posts is that we are getting literally 100% of the facts from the OP. The original post is already 100% one-sided and convinces nobody.

Or maybe OP is trying to protect her identity and didn't want to post all the explicit facts, and therefore didn't convey things accurately. But then, most of you are just here to criticize anonymously and don't really have any solutions for anyone anyway.

That would make sense, if OP hadn't come back to post lots of explicit facts.

[Anonymous]

Didn't it start with the teacher giving directions that OP did not understand?

Later it changed to the teacher had left the room and returned........

Maybe I misunderstood......

I'm betting OP was arranging the kids in groups that the teacher had not planned.

[Anonymous]

So OP got an attitude with the teacher and the teacher had finally had enough of OP and all of her helpful volunteering and didn't treat her with kid gloves.
Stop volunteering OP. It's hurting more than it's helping in this case.

[Anonymous]

Impossible to read anymore with all the mangled anonymous posting. What should be clear is that the teacher was rude and embarrassed a volunteer who was trying to help. It's unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

What should be clear is that the teacher was rude and embarrassed a volunteer who was trying to help. It's unprofessional.

Or, vice versa. Sounds to me like OP was challenging the teacher at a very bad time. Teacher trying to get everyone out the door doesn't need to be pounded with questions that could have been resolved later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Impossible to read anymore with all the mangled anonymous posting. What should be clear is that the teacher was rude and embarrassed a volunteer who was trying to help. It's unprofessional.

What was the rude and unprofessional behavior? Please enlighten us because OP certainly hasn't. The teacher did not raise her voice, nor did she use any inappropriate language. She did not lie about the parent or gossip. All she did was use OP's first name in giving her directions to do something. Sounds like the teacher was doing her job.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you can complain to the principal if one of her teachers is unprofessional - shouldn't the principal be professional? This is a school...

THAT SAID....

Let this go. This is not something to bother about. Sometimes people are rude and no one is worrying about this besides you. You don't have to continue to volunteer in class if you don't want to, but don't leave anyone in a lurch who is counting on you. But honestly, this is minor.