A question from an attractive single mother

[Anonymous]

Don't let the posts here fool you OP. You are a threat to a lot of them. A lof of them will not admit it though.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, OP -- men and women alike flock to my most attractive friends. I have a drop dead gorgeous single mom friend who has a huge circle of friendships, and can strike up a friendship with any mom at the playground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't let the posts here fool you OP. You are a threat to a lot of them. A lof of them will not admit it though.

I don't understand the threat idea. Care to explain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP - I feel ya! I'm in the same boat. I make conversation with both moms and dads at my kids school but generally no one ever invites me and my kid to weekend activities. Makes me feel like a leapard. I'm a good person that happens to be single cuz of a shitty marriage. I'm not out there looking to steal a married man. However, it would be nice to have other parents that are cool with my situation and don't feel theatened. Hard to find!

They probably dont invite you because you cant spell.

[Anonymous]

I'm a single mom with two kids. I have lots of friends, and if I get even a whiff of someone giving me the cold shoulder b/c of my situation, I either proceed as though they weren't, or just drop it. I'm comfortable with my life. I am not interested in anyone else's husband. Yuck.

Most adults know the difference b/w being friendly and flirting. We're not talking about walking up to a guy in a bar. Playgrounds, games, school functions, etc. I treat the other parents like I would anyone in a social setting.

I do think your statement of disdain about the other mothers may be the key to your issue. I dress stylishly and appropriately. Always have, even when married. If someone doesn't dress well or take care of themselves, I don't think less of them. Different priorities, different interests. No big deal.

As one of the PPs mentioned, however, I am not typically included or invited to adult parties and events by parents of other kids. If I knew these people before marriage or while married, maybe...but generally not. I guess I'm ok with that. It makes sense, but more of a singleton vs. they think I'm going to make a move on their hubby. I do have a boyfriend, but a lot of the time the schedules don't match up or the other parents don't know (which is fine by me).

[Anonymous]

11:50 - it's probably not that they don't think you're good enough. It's probably that older women don't always make an effort to befriend younger women because we may not feel we have much in common. this goes for moms and non-moms alike. I'm 42 and most of my friends are within ten years of my age; I don't seek out friendships with 20-somethings. Not opposed to it, and if I meet you and think you're nice, I won't dwell on your age, but I'm not generally seeking out friendships with much-younger people in general.

[Anonymous]

OP - from your posts it sounds like you're putting out a vibe that you think you're better than them, which may be why you are getting that reaction. I definitely don't feel the need to wash my hair, have a mani/pedi or put on nice clothes just to take my kid to the park.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure about the OP but when I first separated and went to a neighborhood event it was really awkward -- but I always chocked it up to the other women not wanting to 'catch divorce' from me. I'd be surprised if they legitimately felt threatened. Now it's NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't let the posts here fool you OP. You are a threat to a lot of them. A lof of them will not admit it though.

I don't understand the threat idea. Care to explain?

Women don't want you around their undersexed husbands if you are hot and single.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you sure it isn't something in the way your attitude or personality presents? I have a hot single friend who befriends other moms at playgrounds all the time. She has never had any problems making friends with other moms/couples, despite the fact that she is a true stunner.

She is friendly, down-to-earth, and outgoing. People are drawn to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP, you're SINGLE. Most of us are married. A man left you with a child and you're single yet we're jealous? Um, no.

Oh please. Maybe she was the one who left? And maybe you are in fact jealous because she had guts to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP - I feel ya! I'm in the same boat. I make conversation with both moms and dads at my kids school but generally no one ever invites me and my kid to weekend activities. Makes me feel like a leapard. I'm a good person that happens to be single cuz of a shitty marriage. I'm not out there looking to steal a married man. However, it would be nice to have other parents that are cool with my situation and don't feel theatened. Hard to find!

They probably dont invite you because you cant spell.

You know from the experience

[Anonymous]

I'm not threatened by you because you're an attractive single mom - I'm good-looking and fit. But I've had experience with three different divorced women coming on to my DH over the years (he told me about all three, nothing happened). I also find if a single mom knows a decent married man and there's any kind of friendship she will sometimes treat him like a husband, asking him to help with "man" chores etc. which irritates me no end. Get your own husband. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not threatened by you because you're an attractive single mom - I'm good-looking and fit. But I've had experience with three different divorced women coming on to my DH over the years (he told me about all three, nothing happened). I also find if a single mom knows a decent married man and there's any kind of friendship she will sometimes treat him like a husband, asking him to help with "man" chores etc. which irritates me no end. Get your own husband. Geez.

Uh that's weird.

[Anonymous]

I'm fat and frumpy and i couldn't care less what you or anyone else is wearing or how you look. Honestly, I don't even "see" you at the park. I want to chat with my neighborhood friends and keep my kids alive. Random mom I don't know? Not on my radar. Its a playground, not Project Runway.

You sound kind of full of yourself-why would you assume that people are ignoring you b/c you are so hot and amazing and they are jealous? You are just not that significant to them.