A question from an attractive single mother

[Anonymous]

After reading many of the threads on DCUM, I highly doubt the moms feel sorry for the single mom. I think they wish they could be her and not have to deal with their good for nothing husbands.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Which parks do you frequent? I'm always looking for new parks to take DS to, and I won't complain if there's eye candy.

[Anonymous]

It's always amazing to me to hear how in-shape and well-manicured single moms profess to be, but these are the same women saying how much harder it is. I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Do you have women friends? Do you prefer hanging out with men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. They know because it's a small neghborhood and I am always alone with my child when we go places in the area.

Could it be that your parenting style is less than admirable, or that your child is mean to other kids?

Or maybe you're just so goddess-like others flee from your girl power?

[Anonymous]

This is funny. Is this really a problem for you op? Don't you have any friends of your own that you could meet out at a park with your kids? I think you are being insecure. Maybe a few other insecure people are threatened by you but I bet the majority don't give a shit. I meet my friends and their kids at parks, I don't care who else is there, although I am polite to all. If I have met you, I am guessing I didn't even think twice about it.

[Anonymous]

I'm a married mom, in very good shape and my DH says and treats me like I'm beautiful. Never found any single mom a threat.

[Anonymous]

I think some moms can act a bit hostile towards attractive/in shape/well-dressed moms. I'm not sure it has to do with being single or not.

[Anonymous]

Op...don't listen to these women. They seem very hostile. I would not feel threatened by you because I have a healthy marriage. My dh runs into attractive women all the time...no big deal. Unfortunately, there are some women who do feel threatened, and it could be for any reason. Most likely, it is because you are attractive. I occasionally get the cold shoulder from women at dd's school, and I am married. In fact, one woman flat out told me I was too skinny and I needed to gain weight. Really??? Anyway, just keep going to the park with your child, stay away from the evil eyes, and strike up a conversation with those who seem nice. That is all you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be in good shape not just have a pretty face? If so, they are jelaous and I am sure you know it. No need to pretend I am a man and it always strikes me to see a mommy with a hot body!

Me too, it tells me to run for the hills!

[Anonymous]

I don't know if it is hostile, but I do know moms who work and raise kids and have almost no respect for moms who spend the greater majority of their day working on their appearance; working out, nails done, fake tans, Botox. It all takes a great deal of time and money and others have different priorities. I am not talking about fat slobs who have let themselves go, I mean very accomplish women who just don't have any interest in talking about plastic surgeons or trainers. Btw, I know this sounds snobby, but just women with different interests.

[Anonymous]

I'm an attractive (I think), in-shape single mom and I don't have this issue. I'll happily chat with other moms or dads and nobody seems to mind. It may be a vibe you're sending out, or maybe something about your appearance is setting off alarm bells. (I tend to dress super-sporty, with Bermuda-length shorts and tanks, but no cleavage.)

I also don't correct people if they say something about my "husband" (daughter's dad) because I don't really care if they think we're married.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it matters whether you are a single mother or not...If you are an attractive woman in general and you are standing near an insecure woman, she is going to feel inferior period.

I am an attractive woman who is very secure in her looks, however I feel inferior at times, most esp. when a super attractive/thin/young woman stands near me or when I feel like I am having an "off" day. But I do not feel so bad about myself that I would give her the evil eye. That is just plain rude.

OP, do not be offended. It just comes w/the territory of being pretty.
Women tend to be the more competitive gender as well as the most insecure and they are usually very petty about stuff like this.

Yes, men are going to look at you, specifically their men....But that is how men are.

I would just take it all in stride and not let it get to you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're SINGLE. Most of us are married. A man left you with a child and you're single yet we're jealous? Um, no.

[Anonymous]

This must be the equivalent to an alpha male coming into the pack. It's probably a little annoying and threatening to the married moms that you manage to find time to exercise, put some efforts into your grooming and still have time to manage work and motherhood. Maybe you'll raise the bar a bit.