A question from an attractive single mother

[Anonymous]

OP I get what you are saying. It happens. My good girlfriend is 32 , single, 2kids, is beautiful, and has a smokin body. Women get jealous. PERIOD. Personally i don't. I'm confident in muself and my marriage, but it happens for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be the equivalent to an alpha male coming into the pack. It's probably a little annoying and threatening to the married moms that you manage to find time to exercise, put some efforts into your grooming and still have time to manage work and motherhood. Maybe you'll raise the bar a bit.

Hah, yeah time for mani/ pedi as a single mom indicates she had superficial priorities. My guess is her DC is her meal ticket and that's the most she thinks about them. Too busy polishing nails, doing crunches, and stalking the other moms at the park. Seriously OP pay attention to your kid not this high school BS.

[Anonymous]

This is so silly. Put together mom=bad mom?

[Anonymous]

I'm single, but the one thing that makes me in invisible to men is a child, especially small children.

I work as a nanny and the kids I watch are the same race as me. There's a huge difference in the attention I get from men alone vs with a baby and toddler. It doesn't matter how put together I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if it is hostile, but I do know moms who work and raise kids and have almost no respect for moms who spend the greater majority of their day working on their appearance; working out, nails done, fake tans, Botox. It all takes a great deal of time and money and others have different priorities. I am not talking about fat slobs who have let themselves go, I mean very accomplish women who just don't have any interest in talking about plastic surgeons or trainers. Btw, I know this sounds snobby, but just women with different interests.

Ridiculous!
Nails, fake tans, botox, plastic surgeons, even trainers.. all that has NOTHING to do with being an attractive mom.
There is really 1 main thing that makes a mom (or non-mom, or even a dad) attractive: a decent body.
And most mom's would have a (reasonably) hot body with a proper diet.
So forget the nails/clothes/botox/suntan/plastic surgeons and just eat right.
This does NOT take time or money.
You DO sound snobby if you disrespect a mom for just eating properly.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Honestly, women don't want you around, and men are afraid of their wives.

Women were afraid of me even when I was married, when I got divorced it became much, much worse. It's very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an attractive (I think), in-shape single mom and I don't have this issue. I'll happily chat with other moms or dads and nobody seems to mind. It may be a vibe you're sending out, or maybe something about your appearance is setting off alarm bells. (I tend to dress super-sporty, with Bermuda-length shorts and tanks, but no cleavage.)

I also don't correct people if they say something about my "husband" (daughter's dad) because I don't really care if they think we're married.

Same here. I'm also younger than most moms. I have only very rarely run into issues at the park or at school. And the times I do run into issues, it usually isn't because the other mom is jealous of me, but thinks I'm not good enough to talk to. Being in your 20s, single with a kid tends to lower your social status a bit, even if you are smoking hot

It's not like other moms are flocking to me, but I certainly don't get the evil eye. When we're at the pool and I'm in a bikini, I'll get looks and the cold shoulder, but I really don't care. I'm there to have fun with my kid and relax.

[Anonymous]

I am frumpy, slightly overweight single mom who couldn't flirt if my life depended on it. And even I will get evil glares from women if I chat with their DH's.

[Anonymous]

OP - if you are very attractive compared to the other mums in the playground then they will be insecure - this is instinctive and natural. But this can be overcome if you want to by being friendly and smiley and initiating contact. If they are still rude then its their loss but the chances are they will probably be nice once they realise you are not threatening.

[Anonymous]

Pics or GTFO.

[Anonymous]

To answer the question - no, I'm not jealous of attractive single moms nor would I shun another woman just because she is an attractive/single mom.

But the truth is, the other moms on the playground don't really know you and they probably don't spend a great deal of time thinking about you. If you are dressing provocatively at the playground or otherwise acting unusual (acting giggly and flirty around the dads there) they might be avoiding you. But 10 to 1 they just already have a ton of other social commitments and really aren't that interested in meeting a new mom at the playground. All moms run into that sort of thing to some degree.

Just try to relax and have fun with your child.

[Anonymous]

If DH was going to cheat I'm sure it would not be with someone in our neighborhood or who frequents our playground.
I think the single mom part would not be something he'd be seeking out in a mistress either- not sure why you think men would be excited about that more than other things.

[Anonymous]

One of my good friends is a single mom. She is in great shape, very pretty, dresses, well, always put together and looking nice. I don't feel threatened by her, or sorry for her, at all. It sounds though like you think you are better than all of the "fat frumpy" moms at the playground who don't comb their hair, and maybe they are picking up on that and don't want to be around you for that reason, not because they think you are going to steal their husbands.

[Anonymous]

You would be welcome to hang with my husband, me, us, whatever any time you want - as long as you don't flirt with him everything's peachy. I'd love to have some friends (new to the area) and wouldn't care if they are married or single Sending a hug because I know what you are talking about...many married women are super protective when it come to their hubbys

[Anonymous]

Hey OP - I feel ya! I'm in the same boat. I make conversation with both moms and dads at my kids school but generally no one ever invites me and my kid to weekend activities. Makes me feel like a leapard. I'm a good person that happens to be single cuz of a shitty marriage. I'm not out there looking to steal a married man. However, it would be nice to have other parents that are cool with my situation and don't feel theatened. Hard to find!