Politically Incorrect Private School Thread What Do You Really Think?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the people who live in million dollar homes, drive luxury clothes, and drive luxury cars yet still send their kids to public school. There, I said it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people who live in million dollar homes, drive luxury clothes, and drive luxury cars yet still send their kids to public school. There, I said it.

I don't understand people who join country clubs but still send their kids to public school (or parochial schools with subpar academics). There, I said it too! And yes, I am somewhat jealous that because of the private school tuition for two, we can't afford to join a CC too but I feel like we've at least got our priorities in order.

[Anonymous]

God I hope I don't know any of you. There I said it. Unfortunately I am certain I do.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand people who I happen to know make a lot more than I do but sigh about how they "just can't afford" private school. It's fine if that's not how you choose to spend your money -- most people don't -- but own it, you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I laugh when public school parents try to act like it's the same experience as a private school.

I laugh at the college admissions outcomes. My public school kid is at a USNWR top 5 school. DC's friends at the Big 3 are now at lower-tier SLACs, except for the one who got recruited from the Big 3 for athletics.

This attitude -- articulated and shared by public and private school parents alike -- that a child is a failure if they attend any college or university outside of the Ivy League, or a USNWR top-10 school, is poisonous. God forbid that our sons or daughters should find themselves at some place so unworthy and pitiful as a "lower-tier SLAC", or worse yet, a public university! That kind of abject failure surely merits our "laugh[s]" and derision.

Perhaps the real problem is parents -- public and private school parents alike -- who have such a narrow world view of success and accomplishment, and who perceive nothing less than the top-tier, very-most prestigious schools as acceptable outcomes. Is it any wonder that our children are stressed, overworked, anxious, and in some cases depressed?

I do not care whether your child attends private or public school, I will think no less of them whether they attend Yale or Cornell, Swarthmore or Alabama, Berkeley or Washington University. I judge a person by the content of their character, their attitude towards others, their work ethic, and many other attributes that are just as important as where they attend school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I laugh when public school parents try to act like it's the same experience as a private school.

I laugh at the college admissions outcomes. My public school kid is at a USNWR top 5 school. DC's friends at the Big 3 are now at lower-tier SLACs, except for the one who got recruited from the Big 3 for athletics.

This attitude -- articulated and shared by public and private school parents alike -- that a child is a failure if they attend any college or university outside of the Ivy League, or a USNWR top-10 school, is poisonous. God forbid that our sons or daughters should find themselves at some place so unworthy and pitiful as a "lower-tier SLAC", or worse yet, a public university! That kind of abject failure surely merits our "laugh[s]" and derision.

Perhaps the real problem is parents -- public and private school parents alike -- who have such a narrow world view of success and accomplishment, and who perceive nothing less than the top-tier, very-most prestigious schools as acceptable outcomes. Is it any wonder that our children are stressed, overworked, anxious, and in some cases depressed?

I do not care whether your child attends private or public school, I will think no less of them whether they attend Yale or Cornell, Swarthmore or Alabama, Berkeley or Washington University. I judge a person by the content of their character, their attitude towards others, their work ethic, and many other attributes that are just as important as where they attend school.

You were making a good point but you lost me on your list of "diverse" schools were all too notch Yale or gasp Cornell (is it the ag school component that's so bad).

I think you meant I don't care if your dc goes to Yale or UMBC.

[Anonymous]

All those schools are top tier and private except Berkeley (top tier public) and Alabama - maybe this?

PP is not Asian certainly. Maybe white? AA?

What's UMBC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never tell this to others but one of the reasons we send DC to an elite private school is b/c we want him to get into the most elite frat, eating club, secret society, etc at an Ivy.

Some of us care about stuff like that.

I secretly think lots of the parents at our private school are first generation social climbers without any real class. My family came over on the Mayflower, so this stuff is irrelevant to me. If you think elite frat = class, you've missed the point completely.

Besides, don't send your kid to private to get into an Ivy. He'd have a better chance from Whitman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I laugh when public school parents try to act like it's the same experience as a private school.

Snort!

Speaking of first generation climbers, this sort of person is transparently insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God I hope I don't know any of you. There I said it. Unfortunately I am certain I do.

+1. This thread is truly horrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If we're playing with anecdotes, my big 3 kid is at a USNWR top 5 school, and most of his classmates are at high ranked schools. Most of his public schppl friends are at lower ranked, middling universities.

Yes! Let's mock public school kids for not being able to afford $60,000 private schools!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never tell this to others but one of the reasons we send DC to an elite private school is b/c we want him to get into the most elite frat, eating club, secret society, etc at an Ivy.

Some of us care about stuff like that.

I secretly think lots of the parents at our private school are first generation social climbers without any real class. My family came over on the Mayflower, so this stuff is irrelevant to me. If you think elite frat = class, you've missed the point completely.

Besides, don't send your kid to private to get into an Ivy. He'd have a better chance from Whitman.

We like our chances from Wilson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never tell this to others but one of the reasons we send DC to an elite private school is b/c we want him to get into the most elite frat, eating club, secret society, etc at an Ivy.

Some of us care about stuff like that.

I secretly think lots of the parents at our private school are first generation social climbers without any real class. My family came over on the Mayflower, so this stuff is irrelevant to me. If you think elite frat = class, you've missed the point completely.

Besides, don't send your kid to private to get into an Ivy. He'd have a better chance from Whitman.

This is akin to bragging that your family started slavery in the US. Nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never tell this to others but one of the reasons we send DC to an elite private school is b/c we want him to get into the most elite frat, eating club, secret society, etc at an Ivy.

Some of us care about stuff like that.

I secretly think lots of the parents at our private school are first generation social climbers without any real class. My family came over on the Mayflower, so this stuff is irrelevant to me. If you think elite frat = class, you've missed the point completely.

Besides, don't send your kid to private to get into an Ivy. He'd have a better chance from Whitman.

This is akin to bragging that your family started slavery in the US. Nice!

It's actually not. Puritans were not slave owners. You must have gone to a public school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never tell this to others but one of the reasons we send DC to an elite private school is b/c we want him to get into the most elite frat, eating club, secret society, etc at an Ivy.

Some of us care about stuff like that.

+100000

And why effin not? Why's it SO horrif if DC does this? Good for you!

It's notnhorrible if they do it, but i don't understand why anyone would care. DH and I were both ivy (covered 3 ivys between us with grad school), and it never seemed to us that the "elite" frat or secret society (not very secret) made any difference in success or opportunities. It can be fun though, i'm sure. Is that the reason you want it? We didn't go to princeton, and i suspect the eating clubs are important. Personally, that always seemed awful to me, though.

We want it b/c it's family tradition (not politically correct at all on DCUM) and we really care about that stuff which is kind of embarrassing to admit. It's made a lot of difference in the opportunities DC will have: I knew where he'll intern in high school and college before he was born. It's also a lot of fun too...

His future wife will be a regular poster on the Relationships forum. A la the recent thread with the wife who doesn't respect her husband, because he can't make basic decisions for himself.