Surrogacy in India

[Anonymous]

Anyone who trusts anything coming out of India or China is a delusional ass. Good luck to you 'cause luck is all you have, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who have had success in India. Friends of our just brought home their twins this month and could not be happier. ITA re:Rasta - she's amazing and I love her blog - but her experience is also dated and India law has changed since she went through it. If you want something more recent than Rasta, check out New Dads on the Block. They had their twins last year. http://newdadsontheblock.com/

The cost savings is substantial (compared to the US). Just like here though, it can take a few tries to achieve a pregnancy. When you are thinking about your budget do not forget to factor in funding for a couple transfers.

You also have to have a very high tolerance for ambiguity, and for what a Westerner would likely perceive as poor communication. There are also some shady actors out there, so you really need to do your homework before you select a clinic.

If you are GLBT, or support GLBT rights, you may want to look elsewhere as well. There is a big push to end surrogacy for GLBT IPs in India. Big mess.

A woman I'm taking a class with; her son, single, gay just brought back 6 months a cute little boy from a surrougate in India.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who trusts anything coming out of India or China is a delusional ass. Good luck to you 'cause luck is all you have, maybe.

Do you really think the US system for adoption and surrogacy is any better? They are all bad options. Many are corrupt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who have had success in India. Friends of our just brought home their twins this month and could not be happier. ITA re:Rasta - she's amazing and I love her blog - but her experience is also dated and India law has changed since she went through it. If you want something more recent than Rasta, check out New Dads on the Block. They had their twins last year. http://newdadsontheblock.com/

The cost savings is substantial (compared to the US). Just like here though, it can take a few tries to achieve a pregnancy. When you are thinking about your budget do not forget to factor in funding for a couple transfers.

You also have to have a very high tolerance for ambiguity, and for what a Westerner would likely perceive as poor communication. There are also some shady actors out there, so you really need to do your homework before you select a clinic.

If you are GLBT, or support GLBT rights, you may want to look elsewhere as well. There is a big push to end surrogacy for GLBT IPs in India. Big mess.

A woman I'm taking a class with; her son, single, gay just brought back 6 months a cute little boy from a surrougate in India.

Who will raise the baby? Or is the new daddy independently wealthy?

[Anonymous]

Isn't India moving to ban gays and single people from using surrogates now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted it in the hope of getting answers to legal formalities rather than knowing how hopeless the situation in India is. I could not find info for the 2 cases I posted on US immigration related websites. Thanks anyway for your time.

A lawyer may be the best source to answer your questions, OP. Ignore the negativity here. Wish you good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the poster that painted a very clear cultural picture earlier.

To add to the picture - how often do you think rich Indians give to charity? Would you be shocked to know that the answer is virtually none? How about people who volunteer in their community? Or something as simple as don't throw trash on the street?

Civic pride, giving back, charity are all western ideals. Christian ideals, in fact. There is no basis in eastern culture for these values. Even with western influences (which some modern Indians interpret simply as western women are loose and sleep around), they don't think like us. The world is not one giant America.

I assure all of the skeptics on this thread that economic coercion is real, but the women likely won't see a cent of that money. Their husbands will probably use it to drink and do drugs (if we're talking about the kind of women in a desperate enough situation to not just sell their body, but sell their womb).

You sound like a total ignoramus. How long have you lived in India?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who trusts anything coming out of India or China is a delusional ass. Good luck to you 'cause luck is all you have, maybe.

Do you really think the US system for adoption and surrogacy is any better? They are all bad options. Many are corrupt.

This makes so much sense to me! When looking into surrogacy in both the US and India it seemed to us that more things could go wrong and more issues arise in the US than India. The laws here are crazy and differ by state and if u move or surrogate moves then it can be a problem etc...

And adoption is wacky here too. It's getting more difficult to adopt internationally and wait times are much longer than they used to be and countries suddenly close their adoption programs. And domestic adoption is just a complete crap shoot.

When you really weigh out all the variables, the risk associated with Indian surrogacy doesn't seem so high

[Anonymous]

Yes, My cousin is pregnant with second baby through surrogacy in India. We love our doctor and clinic. success rates vary from clinic to clinic and it depends on whether you're self-cycling or going with donor eggs.