Surrogacy in India

[Anonymous]

I have read people go to India for trying surrogacy at lower costs. Has anyone on this forum done that and how was your experience?
Does anyone know the immigration rules to bring the child to US if husband and wife are permanent residents of US with Indian citizenship?
(a) Husband's sperm and donor egg without surrogate - I don't think immigration rules will apply here. What do you think?
(b) Husband's sperm and donor egg with surrogate - How to bring the child back to US?

[Anonymous]

What are you paying for this?

[Anonymous]

Are you white or Indian?

I ask because I would be very distrustful of a situation that an Indian has an Indian baby, changes her mind and keeps the kid. It's probably slim given the culture, but still you'd have little recourse in the clogged up court system.

In addition, what if the mother gets (polio, measles, lepercy, bubonic plague, good poisoning) and the baby is born with defects or disability? Then what?

[Anonymous]

Sounds fucked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what if the mother gets (polio, measles, lepercy, bubonic plague, good poisoning) and the baby is born with defects or disability? Then what?

What if you buy a fake Rolex from a street vendor in Hong Kong and it turns out to be defective? Oh noes! You toss it in the gutter and write it off to experience.

In short, you leave the botched child in the Third World hell-hole and try again.

[Anonymous]

Rastalesstraveled.com is a blog about one woman's journey with surrogate DE.

[Anonymous]

^^ in india

[Anonymous]

http://globalivf.com

Personally, I'm pro-US surrogacy. Take your time and do an Independent Journey and I don't know that your cost savings would be that much going to India. Personally, I liked getting to know our surrogate, meeting her, I go to most of the appointments and see the baby and talk to doctors. India is a whole different animal and people don't generally ever meet their surrogates or get to know the person who fed and took care of their child for essentially 9 months.

Rasta less traveled will also give you blog links to others who have done surrogacy in Inda so use those as a resource too.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of people who have had success in India. Friends of our just brought home their twins this month and could not be happier. ITA re:Rasta - she's amazing and I love her blog - but her experience is also dated and India law has changed since she went through it. If you want something more recent than Rasta, check out New Dads on the Block. They had their twins last year. http://newdadsontheblock.com/

The cost savings is substantial (compared to the US). Just like here though, it can take a few tries to achieve a pregnancy. When you are thinking about your budget do not forget to factor in funding for a couple transfers.

You also have to have a very high tolerance for ambiguity, and for what a Westerner would likely perceive as poor communication. There are also some shady actors out there, so you really need to do your homework before you select a clinic.

If you are GLBT, or support GLBT rights, you may want to look elsewhere as well. There is a big push to end surrogacy for GLBT IPs in India. Big mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of people who have had success in India. Friends of our just brought home their twins this month and could not be happier. ITA re:Rasta - she's amazing and I love her blog - but her experience is also dated and India law has changed since she went through it. If you want something more recent than Rasta, check out New Dads on the Block. They had their twins last year. http://newdadsontheblock.com/

The cost savings is substantial (compared to the US). Just like here though, it can take a few tries to achieve a pregnancy. When you are thinking about your budget do not forget to factor in funding for a couple transfers.

You also have to have a very high tolerance for ambiguity, and for what a Westerner would likely perceive as poor communication. There are also some shady actors out there, so you really need to do your homework before you select a clinic.

If you are GLBT, or support GLBT rights, you may want to look elsewhere as well. There is a big push to end surrogacy for GLBT IPs in India. Big mess.

When talking about the health and safety of a future child is the "cost savings" really worth it?

[Anonymous]

PS - in terms of immigration, the state department websites for the various major cities in India (Mumbai, Dehli) have instructions and information about how to get a passport for a US citizen child born of a surro in a foreign country. It is not advisable to pursue India surrogacy if there isn't a genetic link to at least one on the IPs. So - whether egg or sperm, you should be able to prove the genetic relationship to a US citizen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you white or Indian?

I ask because I would be very distrustful of a situation that an Indian has an Indian baby, changes her mind and keeps the kid. It's probably slim given the culture, but still you'd have little recourse in the clogged up court system.

In addition, what if the mother gets (polio, measles, lepercy, bubonic plague, good poisoning) and the baby is born with defects or disability? Then what?

Or the opposite can and has happened. There was a story on NPR about a couple that opted for surrogacy in India, they split up in the 3rd trimester, divorced and the husband nor the wife wanted the kid after it was born.

[Anonymous]

As an indian that lives in the states, I will tell you that India's court system, while it is getting better, is an incredibly corrupt system. So while things can go well, if they DON'T go well, you will be facing years of potentially heartbreaking fighting in order to make it right.

Honestly, I wouldn't do this in a country that doesn't have some kind of agreement with the US!

[Anonymous]

There can be issues bringing a child into the US if a donor egg was used. I'd do some searching on donor specific websites and forums. DCUM is not a good resource for this.

[Anonymous]

I'm interested in what the cost difference is. We did GC in the US -- EVERYTHING (had twins, period of bed rest for GC, etc, 2 IVF cycles, our eggs/sperm (no egg donor)) totalled around $125K.