Should I be upset that I did not get a Valentine's Day gift or card?

[Anonymous]

If your husband doesn't usually get you anything, accept it and move on. A word of warning, however, is that when he suddenly does start getting you something -- he may be having an affair…. They tend to buy flowers for girlfriend and then send some to you at the same time. (And, yes, this is a cautionary tale based on my experience. And, yes, I do realize that not all men are like this. But I wasn't alone in noticing this phenomenon).

[Anonymous]

Still very few women giving answers to what thoughtful gifts they got for their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Still very few women giving answers to what thoughtful gifts they got for their husbands.

Sex is their gift. Men want and receive sex. Women don't want and give sex. I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:After almost 10 years of marriage, I just suck it up now and know nothing is coming my way for V-day. My friend, however, gets flowers and cupcakes (or something similar) delivered to office for V-day, bday and anniversaries every single year. They've been married 13 years! I'm happy for her but it hurts a little.

Office deliveries for everyone to see are the equivalent of Facebook brags.

This seems to be almost the whole point of Valentine's Day. A way for women to compete against and show off to other women.

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Anonymous wrote:Still very few women giving answers to what thoughtful gifts they got for their husbands.

Sex is their gift. Men want and receive sex. Women don't want and give sex. I guess.

Well by that reasoning then men should not have to ask but should expect sex on valentines day. If their wife doesn't initiate then she is showing she doesn't appreciate them and is a bad wife. it is okay for a man to feel hurt and complain if their wife doesn't do whatever it takes sexually make their husband feel appreciated.

My guess is that most of these women complaining their husband didn't give them much, also didn't initiate a night of sexual fun to show their appreciation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cards are such a waste of money. Do you really need a card and a gift to know that your husband loves you?

Always prefer cards over flowers and candy.

[Anonymous]

In past years DH has always gotten me something. This year we are tight on cash because he has started his own business so he just bought me a small bear and some valentine's cookies. Last year I got him an Itunes gift card and some chocolate.

But yes your DH should get you something especially if he does not romance you on a regular basis. My father never got my mother anything for valentine's day, her birthday or any special day and it really showed in how crappy their marriage was.

[Anonymous]

I got nothing also. I made a nice dinner for everyone and simply got happy valentines days kiss from my boys in the morning. I don't expect anything as my DH doesn't believe in the celebration of Valentines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, could be worse. I got nothing, despite getting a card and small gift for him and each of the kids , and when I expressed disappointment he said he didn't really care about me , didn't I know this already, and then screamed obscenities (in front of children), threw a heavy wooden dining chair (which broke) and stormed out. Then he came back to kick a few things, tell me he doesn't want the baby, never did, (I am very pregnant) and wishes she wasn't coming.

I'm so sorry I hope you can find happiness and peace.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I am a moron.
Is that what you wanted me to say?
There, I said it.
Feel better now?
I will never understand people who feel the need to kick someone when they are down.

This is not "kicking you when you're down." It's asking a very valid question you ought to be asking yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In past years DH has always gotten me something. This year we are tight on cash because he has started his own business so he just bought me a small bear and some valentine's cookies. Last year I got him an Itunes gift card and some chocolate.

But yes your DH should get you something especially if he does not romance you on a regular basis. My father never got my mother anything for valentine's day, her birthday or any special day and it really showed in how crappy their marriage was.

That's the thing. If your DH is generally romantic and appreciative of you, then sure V-day is silly. But some men do need extra prompting.

[Anonymous]

We don't do gifts like this. We splurge on things we both like (adding a screened porch to the house, taking a nice adult vacation, etc.) and we buy what we need when we need it. If I mention to DH that I'd like a certain piece of jewelry or trip to the spa, he says, "you should do it honey."

But he doesn't come home with flowers, candy, and a card on V day. What a waste of money! We both agree though.

Happily together 13 years and married for 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cards are such a waste of money. Do you really need a card and a gift to know that your husband loves you?

No but they're fun.

[Anonymous]

It's not too late to appreciate the DH. March 14 is National Steak and Blow Job Day!

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Anonymous wrote:Still very few women giving answers to what thoughtful gifts they got for their husbands.

We don't go big on Valentine's at my house. My husband bought me a bottle of massage oil from the Body Shop and used it on me. I bought him a card and a bunch of his favorite candy. I gave him a BJ before work on Friday morning.

We're pretty low key.