Should I be upset that I did not get a Valentine's Day gift or card?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

I'm NOT going ask for what I want on Valentine's Day. It kind of defeats the purpose, don't you think? at what point does common sense kick in?

This is so backwards I don't even know where to begin. Enjoy being miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

I'm NOT going ask for what I want on Valentine's Day. It kind of defeats the purpose, don't you think? at what point does common sense kick in?

This is so backwards I don't even know where to begin. Enjoy being miserable.

+100

My partner asks me how much I want to do for Valentine's Day every year. Sometimes I want to go out for a dinner date, sometimes I just want flowers, sometimes I want a sentimental gift...we just talk about it!

And, by the way, his rule for every holiday is he will get me one thing I ask for and one surprise so he knows I'll love at least 50% of my present. Works for us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, could be worse. I got nothing, despite getting a card and small gift for him and each of the kids , and when I expressed disappointment he said he didn't really care about me , didn't I know this already, and then screamed obscenities (in front of children), threw a heavy wooden dining chair (which broke) and stormed out. Then he came back to kick a few things, tell me he doesn't want the baby, never did, (I am very pregnant) and wishes she wasn't coming.

What a dick.

Take the kids to your mother's house and give him some divorce papers for the next holiday.

[Anonymous]

You're lucky he brought dinner. I just ask DH for a tea (it us tea time for us at 5:00pm) and he looked at me rolling his eyes complaining about my request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, could be worse. I got nothing, despite getting a card and small gift for him and each of the kids , and when I expressed disappointment he said he didn't really care about me , didn't I know this already, and then screamed obscenities (in front of children), threw a heavy wooden dining chair (which broke) and stormed out. Then he came back to kick a few things, tell me he doesn't want the baby, never did, (I am very pregnant) and wishes she wasn't coming.

Oh honey....I am so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, could be worse. I got nothing, despite getting a card and small gift for him and each of the kids , and when I expressed disappointment he said he didn't really care about me , didn't I know this already, and then screamed obscenities (in front of children), threw a heavy wooden dining chair (which broke) and stormed out. Then he came back to kick a few things, tell me he doesn't want the baby, never did, (I am very pregnant) and wishes she wasn't coming.

Oh honey....I am so sorry.

And you are pregnant by this man yet again, because....

[Anonymous]

Because I am a moron.
Is that what you wanted me to say?
There, I said it.
Feel better now?
I will never understand people who feel the need to kick someone when they are down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I am a moron.
Is that what you wanted me to say?
There, I said it.
Feel better now?
I will never understand people who feel the need to kick someone when they are down.

Ignore the idiot. Good luck to you hon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, could be worse. I got nothing, despite getting a card and small gift for him and each of the kids , and when I expressed disappointment he said he didn't really care about me , didn't I know this already, and then screamed obscenities (in front of children), threw a heavy wooden dining chair (which broke) and stormed out. Then he came back to kick a few things, tell me he doesn't want the baby, never did, (I am very pregnant) and wishes she wasn't coming.

You sound like a good mom despite your situation. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

A man should not need to be told to get a card and flowers for his WIFE On Valentine's Day. Come on people!

[Anonymous]

I got a form electronic Valentine that can be generated on yahoo.

I hope this makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

After almost 10 years of marriage, I just suck it up now and know nothing is coming my way for V-day. My friend, however, gets flowers and cupcakes (or something similar) delivered to office for V-day, bday and anniversaries every single year. They've been married 13 years! I'm happy for her but it hurts a little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After almost 10 years of marriage, I just suck it up now and know nothing is coming my way for V-day. My friend, however, gets flowers and cupcakes (or something similar) delivered to office for V-day, bday and anniversaries every single year. They've been married 13 years! I'm happy for her but it hurts a little.

Office deliveries for everyone to see are the equivalent of Facebook brags.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I typically don't do anything for Valentine's Day. My DH doesn't plan well and is absentminded. That's who he is. I could expect him to do all these things for V-Day but I'd just be setting myself for disappointment. Instead, I let it go. My DH shows me he loves me and appreciates me in many other ways. I don't need V-Day (and flowers are much cheaper at other times of the year).

[Anonymous]

Cards are such a waste of money. Do you really need a card and a gift to know that your husband loves you?