Should I be upset that I did not get a Valentine's Day gift or card?

[Anonymous]

he brought home dinner, and that was it. Am I being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

I didn't even get dinner. DH wanted McDonalds, then got pissed that I said that was depressing.

I got him a card and gift from our baby but my heart wasn't in a card from me. Things are bad.

[Anonymous]

At least you got dinner. More than I got.

[Anonymous]

He is just not the romantic type. Not many men are these days and yet, they wonder why we are not in the mood and complain...lol.

[Anonymous]

Well, what did you both do for previous Valentine's Days?

We have a long tradition of doing as little celebrating as possible So it was a nice surprise to wake up and find DH making a special breakfast. That was it apart from quality family snow time (and bed action later on).

Usually I buy the flowers because I'm very picky about them, but this week plants were so tired-looking we didn't even have a bouquet.

[Anonymous]

You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

Yes, and then tell him what kind of foreplay you would like at the end of the night and how long it should last....hahahha. Love this. So hot!!

[Anonymous]

Do you normally celebrate it? I can see being annoyed if you usually do and this year he didn't even acknowledge it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

Yes, and then tell him what kind of foreplay you would like at the end of the night and how long it should last....hahahha. Love this. So hot!!

Oh baby!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being hugely passive aggressive. He isn't a mind reader. It's a holiday that some people hate and some people love. He can't know that it's important to you unless you tell him ahead of time.

Next year, if you want something more for Valentine's Day, open your mouth and tell him what you want at least 2-4 weeks ahead of time. Say this: "Honey, next week is Valentine's Day. I really want you to do something nice for me for it. It matters a lot to me. Please make dinner reservations somewhere nice." Then give him a 1 week warning.

If you want flowers, tell him 1 week ahead of time and then the day before.

This. Except you should only tell him once. DH knows it's important to me, therefore he celebrates it with candy and roses, also candy for the kids, and cards. If he knew I didn't care, then I don't think he would do stuff. We communicate about this stuff.

[Anonymous]

What did you get him?

Do you typically both get each other cards and this was an anomaly?

He brought dinner so he acknowledged it. He likely had no idea that the dinner meant nothing to you without a card.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I don't really celebrate V day and that's fine for both of us - we reached this conclusion a few years ago.

[Anonymous]

Valentine's Day is kind of a stupid holiday.

I knew this woman who would get upset every year because she was disappointed that her husband didn't do exactly what she wanted for V day.

Then he got it right. And she's pleased as punch.

But it seems sort of silly. He is still just going through the motions (i.e. figuring out he has to do X, so that she doesn't get upset with him). It all seems to lack substance or even genuine sentiment.

It has become like Christmas -- a day of expectation. Gift giving is more meaningful when there isn't an expectation of a gift. When there is an expectation of a gift and a potential punishment for not giving a gift, then it isn't a gift. It's a payment/fee/obligation.

[Anonymous]

You should be upset. You should have received at least a card, even a homemade one, in addition to dinner. Chocolates and flowers not necessary but a plus.

[Anonymous]

What do you normally do on Valentine's Day?