OP, there are obviously many women that binge drank and got pregnant during that time. Their kids may or may not be fine -- kids born to full blown alcoholics who drink throughout do not even always have FAS. Again, there is nothing to do now but be healthy for the rest of the time. |
OP, I had the same experience. Weeks 7-12 are the most important. This may make you feel better:
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1471-0528.2012.03395.x/abstract Methods Participants were sampled on the basis of maternal alcohol consumption during pregnancy. At 5 years of age the children were tested with six subtests from the Wechsler Preschool and Primary Scale of Intelligence – Revised (WPPSI-R). Parental education, maternal IQ, prenatal maternal smoking, the child’s age at testing, the gender of the child, and tester were considered core confounding factors, whereas the full model also controlled for prenatal maternal average alcohol intake, maternal age, maternal pre-pregnancy body mass index (BMI), parity, home environment, postnatal parental smoking, health status, and indicators for hearing and vision impairment. Main outcome measure WPPSI-R. Results There were no systematic or significant differences in general intelligence between children of mothers reporting binge drinking and children of mothers with no binge episodes, except that binge drinking in gestational weeks 1–2 significantly reduced the risk of low, full-scale IQ (OR 0.54; 95% CI 0.31–0.96) when adjusted for core confounding factors. The results were otherwise not statistically significantly related to the number of binge episodes (with a maximum of 12) and timing of binge drinking. Conclusions We found no systematic association between binge drinking during early pregnancy and child intelligence. However, binge drinking reduced the risk of low, full-scale IQ in gestational weeks 1–2. This finding may be explained by residual confounding. |
OP, do some research on google scholar. There is little strong evidence that binge drinking in early pregnancy has a significant impact on development. FAS is caused by much more alcohol throughout pregnancy, and most of the mothers also smoke, use drugs, and are malnourished. I have read that mothers who drink 144 grams/alcohol every day have a 33% chance of FAS. That is 10 shots of vodka, 10 beers, or 10 glasses of wine. |
Could someone please translate these last few sentences? I consider myself a fairly literate person but this has me confused... |
Ha, it means there were less low IQ kids amongst those whose mothers drank in the first two weeks, but they note they may be able to use confounding factors (that is, adjusting) to adjust those. |
This is what they are reporting that was odd; but they note in the article that it may simply be incorrect. |
Thanks! That is what I thought it was saying but I thought that couldn't be right. Interesting. |
I don't think it is that odd - there is other evidence that children of moderate drinkers actually have better outcomes than abstainers, and people thought that it might be attributable to the fact that higher intelligence/higher income women tend to drink more. |
Not trying to make OP feel bad at all. Just answering other issues that arose naturally during the conversations. The characteristics/disabilities I identified are those known to kids on the FASD spectrum. Yes they occur in kids whose bio mom didn't drink. But, my point is this. When kids go to specialists with these issues, the doctors don't inquire into the alcohol consumption of the moms. They address the problems of the kids. There is no point to the former since it doesn't make a difference on the outcome. Your comment on the entire continent of Europe is interesting. We've heard throughout this thread that moms in Europe are advised not to drink during pregnancy and there is no study cited showing that pregnant European women disregard this advice. So, not sure what you are getting at. I am also the mom of SN kids. I have an adopted child with FASD and I can tell you from experience that not once has anyone asked about alcohol usage with respect to either of my children's prenatal life. I can also tell you that no one will document that my FASD child is actually FASD despite the fact that he is below the first percentile for height and weight and he suffers from every single cognitive/neurological problem associated with FASD except for difficulty with math, and he has some of the major medical problems associated with prenatal alcohol use. It is the illness that no one wants to admit to or acknowledge. And, my experience is pretty typical of that of other parents with FASD kids that I associate with. |
Okay, I don't want to minimize your situation with your child, because it am sure that you are doing a great job and you sound really engaged and informed. But your logic sounds sketchy since you are essentially diagnosing your adopted child with FASD even though your doctors disagree?
Also saying that no women in Europe drink while they're pregnant is 100 percent crazy talk. Do you even know any Europeans? I think at least one of the studies cited here was ON European women. Please provide a citation for research that proves children born to moderate drinkers have an increased incidence of the low birth weight and other disorders that you claim. Perhaps the doctors aren't asking about maternal alcohol consumption BECAUSE it's not a cause of the disabilities you describe, not in spite of it. |
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The thing is, pp, your list of issues other than low growth sounds just like those common to preemies and kids on the spectrum. They are signs of mild neurological disorder/damage. And there are thousands of causes, from lack of oxygen at birth to genetic issues to autism. It's damn murky. And for most children of alovoholics, many other things are comorbid. So, again, it seems like the diagnosis isn't as important as the symptoms. I'm surprised though that given the low growth nobody has suggested fasd. |
I agree with you. Thing is that it seems like it would be worth more exploration since alcohol use is preventable, yet it seems to be ignored or overlooked. But, like I said, there is good reason - why make someone feel bad when they can't change it. Energy needs to be focused on making the child successful. That being said, no one should take comfort from lack of studies. And, you are so right when you say the low growth should clue people in about my sons condition. You would not believe how tiny he is compared to most kids his age. Some people get it, but most really do not. FASD really is the unspoken/unrecognized disability. |
1. Your kid is probably okay. Drop the guilt and do the best you can moving forward - the best being abstinence, of course.
2. It sounds like you might be an alcoholic. Having 3-6 drinks on a regular basis is A LOT. Get to a 12-step mtg, stat, and try a therapist while you're at it. You really need to get support to stay on the wagon. |
Okay, I just read your other message that you might have had 3-6 drinks 10 times in 8 weeks. So, it sounds like you have 3-6 drinks once or twice a week. Which is still potentially problematic, but not always - I wonder how it's been if you don't drink? In any case, a therapist is never a bad bet. |