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[b]Its obviously undetectable until birth [/b]unless major issues are present. [/quote]

It often takes far longer than birth to detect problems that result from use of alcohol when pregnant.  Often problems aren't detected until mid to late ES.  [/quote]

Right, but at that point, it is difficult to pin the cause down, or to even know if they are alchohol related. A huge amount of kids have learning issues and social issues without having any alcohol exposure. [/quote]

In reality, how often is the cause of those social and learning issues actually explored?  When a child has attention problems or is impulsive or has judgment issues.  When a child struggles with math.  When a child has sensory problems.  When height and/or weight are below the tenth percentile.  How often does a doctor ask "well did you drink during your pregnancy and how much?"  I doubt if that question is asked very often at all.  By that point, the damage is done and knowing the cause doesn't really help with dealing with the problems.  [/quote]

You are trying to make the OP feel bad based on pure speculation. I have a SN kid and know many, many parents who are desperately searching for answers for why their kids are the way they are. The behavioral problems and issues you describe occur in children whose parents don't drink at all, like my Mormon and Muslim friends, and of course we all know many, many "normal" kids whose mothers drank in moderation throughout pregnancy. Think "the entire continent of Europe," for example. How does that factor in?[/quote]

Not trying to make OP feel bad at all.  Just answering other issues that arose naturally during the conversations.  The characteristics/disabilities I identified are those known to kids on the FASD spectrum.  Yes they occur in kids whose bio mom didn't drink.  But, my point is this.  When kids go to specialists with these issues, the doctors don't inquire into the alcohol consumption of the moms.  They address the problems of the kids.  There is no point to the former since it doesn't make a difference on the outcome.

Your comment on the entire continent of Europe is interesting.  We've heard throughout this thread that moms in Europe are advised not to drink during pregnancy and there is no study cited showing that pregnant European women disregard this advice.  So, not sure what you are getting at.

I am also the mom of SN kids.  I have an adopted child with FASD and I can tell you from experience that not once has anyone asked about alcohol usage with respect to either of my children's prenatal life.  I can also tell you that no one will document that my FASD child is actually FASD despite the fact that he is below the first percentile for height and weight and he suffers from every single cognitive/neurological problem associated with FASD except for difficulty with math, and he has some of the major medical problems associated with prenatal alcohol use.  It is the illness that no one wants to admit to or acknowledge.  And, my experience is pretty typical of that of other parents with FASD kids that I associate with.  [/quote]

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