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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, I don't want to minimize your situation with your child, because it am sure that you are doing a great job and you sound really engaged and informed. But your logic sounds sketchy since you are essentially diagnosing your adopted child with FASD even though your doctors disagree?

[b]Thank you for the compliment.  I try hard.  No, I am not diagnosing my child against medical professional opinions.  Thing is that when you have a FASD child, it can be hard for those that work with your child to really grasp the issues.  So, as weird as it sounds, you have to fight to get the diagnosis recognized so that you can get adequate supports and services to help your child be successful.  And, it's tough because no one wants to commit and actually say the words.  It's not that no one will, it's just that most will dance around it and avoid it.[/b]

Also saying that no women in Europe drink while they're pregnant is 100 percent crazy talk. Do you even know any Europeans? I think at least one of the studies cited here was ON European women.

[b]No, just saying that I haven't heard evidence showing that Europeans have any different advice on the use of alcohol during pregnancy than we do in the US and that I haven't seen any evidence that bio mothers disregard that advice routinely, except maybe in Russia, where FAS and FASD are common in orphanage kids due to the alcohol use of bio moms.  [/b]

Please provide a citation for research that proves children born to moderate drinkers have an increased incidence of the low birth weight and other disorders that you claim. Perhaps the doctors aren't asking about maternal alcohol consumption BECAUSE it's not a cause of the disabilities you describe, not in spite of it.

[b]My point is that I'm not sure that such research exists because we are so reluctant to explore the issue so we don't know.  We know the conditions that are caused by alcohol use during pregnancy, but when we see those conditions in kids, I'm wondering if we are exploring the relationship or just treating the condition.  From what I hear from SN parents, I suspect the latter.  I don't necessarily disagree with this - it does no good to make people feel bad about what they can't change.  But, it should not give us comfort and peace to drink during pregnancy.  And, I do not mean this to say that I believe a drink once a month matters, but somewhere between nothing and a fifth of Vodka a day is a problem.  And the issue is that we don't know where that line is so everyone has to figure out their own comfort level without real empirical evidence.  [/b]

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