My Son Getting Bullied?

[Anonymous]

These posts advising you to change your son's behaviors are beyond idiotic. Bullying is illegal!!!

It doesn't matter what shape or size you son may be it is all irrelevant in relation to the fact he is being bullied. If an adult were being bullied they'd call the police. Why should it be any different for children???

He is your child and it is your responsibility to make it STOP!!!

Sure some kids maybe bullied for a period of time in their lives and it eventually ends and they live happily ever after, but other kids go up in the attic and hang themselves. Or others may buy a gun and take it to school.

Please don't take any chances on the potential negative outcomes which may occur. At the very least he is being terrorized at school which must be academically and socially paralyzingly.

As his parent it is your duty and responsibility to make it STOP!!!

[Anonymous]

Kids will find any reason to pick on another child. My son's weight is PERFECT!!! Not just according to me but the doctor as well but kids who look anorexic will of course be jealous of his perfect weight and say things to him. Encourage your son to be who he is, always show him you love him. If his weight is a issue then don't talk to him about his weight, instead each day take a family 1 or 2 mile walk. Make excuses to get him out of the house to exercise because this helps him psychologically plus if he lost a few pounds it would help his self esteem. Make sure to encourage healthy food choices as well... kids tend to eat what they see us parents eat so make sure to set a good example for him. lastly I can't stress enough for you to always say nice things to him, point out the good things about him (smart, funny, kind hearted etc.) If it gets to bad, request to move him to another school. Belive it or not each school is different. In some schools the kids are more socially educated then others because the teachers and principals are better and helped raise the kids up better. Don't try to interfer to much at the school because kids notice and it will just give them more to abuse him with. Also, try to enourage him to have a high self esteem. These little brats feed off of his reactions. If he ignores them then picking on him will become boring and they will move on to the next victim. If he reacts or says things to them then that is like food that feeds them and their actions. Teach him not just to ignore but how to point out to the other kids that he's happy the way he is and if they don't like him then they can go to hell. The stronger his personality and self esteem the better he will be able to tell these brats where they can put it. I wish you and him all the best!

[Anonymous]

Is our fearless moderator on this board. Some folks (maybe one or two) are clearly out of line.

OP, I would start with the school. They should be able to advise you and your son. There is no shame for you or your son, here. The behavior of the other kids is completely unacceptable, and the school administration should handle it. AND, possibly, your son might learn some strategies for handling the bullying -- but coming to an adult is ALSO the RIGHT thing to do. 100% RIGHT.

Do not let it slide.

Do not tell your son to ignore it. Ignoring can make things worse.

Do not be afraid to get involved. You, as a mom, will not make his life worse by stepping in. A young man who is not ashamed by an adult who very clearly points out bad behavior is a boy who is an incorrigible bully, who needs LOTS of adults pointing out that what he's doing is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Put him into martial arts. MMA/brazilian jiu jitsy. No Tae Kwan Do or anything wimpy. Will get him in shape and get him tough. Plenty around wilson area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

True.