My Son Getting Bullied?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so my 14 YO DS is a freshman at Wilson this year, and has been bullied a lot according to him. He stayed back a year early in his academic career for non-academic reasons (a health issue that has since been taken care of), so he is older then many of the kids in his grade, and he is also a bit on the bigger side of the weight spectrum (not enough to really bad enough to worry us too much) that also came partially from this health issue (Pretty much he was stuck in bed for a couple months eating, watching TV, and playing video game and gained 40lbs).

Anyway, according to him a group of kids have started bullying him over these issues, and I want to know if there is anything I can do.

[Anonymous]

So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Yes PP, I suppose he should also turn back time so that he's the same age as the other children

OP, I'd talk to his guidance counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

You are an idiot, PP.

OP talk with the principal. They should have anti-bullying policies in place. These often are disregarded. I remember that kid last year (I can't remember which local school) was being bullied and nothing happened until a reporter who was interviewing him caught him being smacked on the head by another kid. So keep on this.

I'm sorry for your son. I hope it gets better soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

You are an idiot, PP.

OP talk with the principal. They should have anti-bullying policies in place. These often are disregarded. I remember that kid last year (I can't remember which local school) was being bullied and nothing happened until a reporter who was interviewing him caught him being smacked on the head by another kid. So keep on this.

I'm sorry for your son. I hope it gets better soon.

I'm an idiot for stating the obvious? Fuck no.

Fix the problem, not the blame. The problem is the weight gain. You think other kids consider a health issue when they see that? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

You are an idiot, PP.

OP talk with the principal. They should have anti-bullying policies in place. These often are disregarded. I remember that kid last year (I can't remember which local school) was being bullied and nothing happened until a reporter who was interviewing him caught him being smacked on the head by another kid. So keep on this.

I'm sorry for your son. I hope it gets better soon.

I'm an idiot for stating the obvious? Fuck no.

Fix the problem, not the blame. The problem is the weight gain. You think other kids consider a health issue when they see that? No.

The problem is the other kids' behavior.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it depends on how fat he is.

A kid who now has a bit of a pot belly that pokes out when he tucks his shirt in and a kid who already was slightly chubby and gained 40lbs are completely different.

If he is medically overweight then it might be a good idea to encourage him to lose some of it, but if he is not and he just looks a bit plump its more likely he just needs to grow into it.

to the PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

You are an idiot, PP.

OP talk with the principal. They should have anti-bullying policies in place. These often are disregarded. I remember that kid last year (I can't remember which local school) was being bullied and nothing happened until a reporter who was interviewing him caught him being smacked on the head by another kid. So keep on this.

I'm sorry for your son. I hope it gets better soon.

I'm an idiot for stating the obvious? Fuck no.

Fix the problem, not the blame. The problem is the weight gain. You think other kids consider a health issue when they see that? No.

The problem is the other kids' behavior.

No, actually. The problem appears to be the kid's weight. Yes, the other kids' behavior is a problem, but acting as if the kid's weight isn't contributing it is disengenuous. The quickest way to make this stop (which is the goal, right?) is to have the boy lose weight.

[Anonymous]

OP here

As some clarification:

My son used to be pretty skinny, as of last dr appointment a month ago he is 184 lbs and 5'4, so definitely the little pot belly, not fat-fat kid described above.

Anyway, I will definitely talk to the principal, and maybe work on having him lose a few pounds, but I dont think it is a big enough deal to fret over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

As some clarification:

My son used to be pretty skinny, as of last dr appointment a month ago he is 184 lbs and 5'4, so definitely the little pot belly, not fat-fat kid described above.

Anyway, I will definitely talk to the principal, and maybe work on having him lose a few pounds, but I dont think it is a big enough deal to fret over.

While I agree that the other kids are the issue and that no one should be bullied, regardless of your weight, 5'4 and 184lbs is not a little pot belly - that is obese. Puts him in the 95th percentile with a BMI of about 32.

[Anonymous]

5'4 and 184 is obese. He needs to lose weight. People will always tease him for being the short fat kid if not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

As some clarification:

My son used to be pretty skinny, as of last dr appointment a month ago he is 184 lbs and 5'4, so definitely the little pot belly, not fat-fat kid described above.

Anyway, I will definitely talk to the principal, and maybe work on having him lose a few pounds, but I dont think it is a big enough deal to fret over.

Are you bloody well kidding? My son is 14, 5ft 6in and he is 103 lbs. Your son is fat fat. He is.
Face it.

[Anonymous]

Making the bullied kid change is NOT a solution. Then the bullies will just taunt him with things like "oh you were so scared of us you lost weight," thinking what else can we make you do? OP's DS may be well served for other reasons by losing weight but the bullies must stop. Bullies are EVIL F@&ers. And they likely learn some behaviors from their parents - quite possibly some of the posters here who are apologists for vile, unacceptable, and abusivs behavior. Report it to the administrator ABOVE the principals. Principals are often about statistics and don't want to acknowledge any problem. The HQ of school systems cares more because they see the whole systemic problem (and face the liability if bullies become physically abusive).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

As some clarification:

My son used to be pretty skinny, as of last dr appointment a month ago he is 184 lbs and 5'4, so definitely the little pot belly, not fat-fat kid described above.

Anyway, I will definitely talk to the principal, and maybe work on having him lose a few pounds, but I dont think it is a big enough deal to fret over.

Bullying issue I can't speak to, but that is not a little overweight. That's my frame and he has 30 lbs on me. I am not thin, but just about right for a middle aged lady.

[Anonymous]

PP about face it he's fat -- you're an ignorant fool. My 11 year old DD outweighs your son and could probably take him down easily because she's an athlete - she's a lot of muscle and tough as nails. Not a scrawny weed. You have no idea about this poster's son. Yet you feel compelled to insult her and him. Me thinks you were a bully once or you're protecting someone you know is one. Your reaction is frankly inhuman.