Teacher not doing anything for constipated crying preschooler

[Anonymous]

For god's sake OP. Take your kid out of the school and stay at home or get a nanny. Did you actually mention that your kid's shoes were on the wrong foot? I know you said it's not a big deal but the fact that you brought it up is crazy! Wriggly, active legs often receive the wrong shoe. Is that too complicated for you to understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid doesn't need a suppository up his butt every time he is constipated. In fact feed your kid a healthy diet and plenty of water and he isn't going to get constipated. Talk about anal.

In fact mine was only constipated (with crying and all) once, that's why I don't see it as normal... Maybe I am wrong.

Yes. You are wrong!

[Anonymous]

I have not read all the posts on this thread. But I just wanted to say, I *hate* that daycare providers are called "teachers".

They aren't teachers. They are daycare providers. There is a difference. This is not a teacher situation, in an elementary school. These people should not concern themselves with a child's constipation. A daycare provider, however, should be concerned.

That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read all the posts on this thread. But I just wanted to say, I *hate* that daycare providers are called "teachers".

They aren't teachers. They are daycare providers. There is a difference. This is not a teacher situation, in an elementary school. These people should not concern themselves with a child's constipation. A daycare provider, however, should be concerned.

That is all.

Did you read the post where someone said they are EDUCATORS and their job is teaching, not caring for crying kids (to paraphrase). EDUCATORS. I'd be curious to see these educators' CVs?

4 year olds do need hugs and loving, MORE than "education." (Then again, my bias is that most of us thrive most as human beings, not just human brains, in an environment that includes compassionate, empathetic, kind adults.)

OP, all care environments for 4 year olds are NOT like this and not every one will make you feel qualms. Look first and foremost for a place where the student:teacher ratio is such that if someone is having a hard day or an issue, there will be someone available who can give that child a little 1:1 time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not read all the posts on this thread. But I just wanted to say, I *hate* that daycare providers are called "teachers".

They aren't teachers. They are daycare providers. There is a difference. This is not a teacher situation, in an elementary school. These people should not concern themselves with a child's constipation. A daycare provider, however, should be concerned.

That is all.

Did you read the post where someone said they are EDUCATORS and their job is teaching, not caring for crying kids (to paraphrase). EDUCATORS. I'd be curious to see these educators' CVs?

4 year olds do need hugs and loving, MORE than "education." (Then again, my bias is that most of us thrive most as human beings, not just human brains, in an environment that includes compassionate, empathetic, kind adults.)

OP, all care environments for 4 year olds are NOT like this and not every one will make you feel qualms. Look first and foremost for a place where the student:teacher ratio is such that if someone is having a hard day or an issue, there will be someone available who can give that child a little 1:1 time.

It is the parent who want them called teachers and who want their child to be educated. Most parents don't look at a center for who can best fill in as parents in their absence - they look at curriculum, teaching philosophy, teacher credentials, structure and schedule, how educationally stimulating the environment is, a focus on academic and pre-literacy or even literacy skills. The move in this direction to infants, toddlers and pre-K kids being in school and having teachers is parent driven.

[Anonymous]

I know, but it is just a complete joke. Daycare workers aren't "teachers" -- even if they have a PhD in infant development, for Pete's sake. And no one with a PhD in child development is actually caring for infants in a daycare center for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- so, I get it, I seem overreacting to many.
My next question is then- would they call ME about MY kid if I asked them?

OP, I think the only way you will know is if you ask. But will you also ask about any possible minor medical issue? Hangnails? Papercuts?

Constipation in some cases can be extremely painful. People don't care about their kids being in pain? This seems really odd to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not read all the posts on this thread. But I just wanted to say, I *hate* that daycare providers are called "teachers".

They aren't teachers. They are daycare providers. There is a difference. This is not a teacher situation, in an elementary school. These people should not concern themselves with a child's constipation. A daycare provider, however, should be concerned.

That is all.

Did you read the post where someone said they are EDUCATORS and their job is teaching, not caring for crying kids (to paraphrase). EDUCATORS. I'd be curious to see these educators' CVs?

4 year olds do need hugs and loving, MORE than "education." (Then again, my bias is that most of us thrive most as human beings, not just human brains, in an environment that includes compassionate, empathetic, kind adults.)

OP, all care environments for 4 year olds are NOT like this and not every one will make you feel qualms. Look first and foremost for a place where the student:teacher ratio is such that if someone is having a hard day or an issue, there will be someone available who can give that child a little 1:1 time.

OMGoodness, yes, I finally did read through the thread. For the record, I am a teacher (an actual teacher) but did stay at home with my children until they reached school age. I do think that people caring for small children should care about a child being in pain from constipation. I am shocked to see that many parents don't think it is a big deal!

[Anonymous]

Add me to the group of people who would expect a call. If my child were in such pain that she cried while trying to use the bathroom I would definitely want to know. I would go pick her up from school if I could. I think you all expect too little of your care providers. I mean for gods sake I pay something like 30k a year for this. And she is 3!!

Also, the idea that bringing a kid a suppository at school is fodder for an analyst's couch? You all are being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds really crappy ( no pun intended). I'd expect them to call.

For constipation? I hope that was a joke.

No not a joke. If I'm having a slow day at work and had the option I'd go pick him up, or ask my mom to or something.. I'd like to be able to comfort him at least.

Unless this is chronic constipation (and I'm sure the teachers would be made aware of that), you're going overboard. He's clogged up. "Hey, boss! I'm taking leave. My kid's trying to crap but nothing's coming out."

Shit happens! eventually . . . (pun intended)

[Anonymous]

Constipation is NOT the problem of teachers or daycare providers. Keep your kid home if constipated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds really crappy ( no pun intended). I'd expect them to call.

For constipation? I hope that was a joke.

No not a joke. If I'm having a slow day at work and had the option I'd go pick him up, or ask my mom to or something.. I'd like to be able to comfort him at least.

Unless this is chronic constipation (and I'm sure the teachers would be made aware of that), you're going overboard. He's clogged up. "Hey, boss! I'm taking leave. My kid's trying to crap but nothing's coming out."

Shit happens! eventually . . . (pun intended)

Pp here and that made me laugh lol

[Anonymous]

Once my kid had shoes on wrong feet after they changed him after an accident. Not a big deal, just weird, how would an adult not notice?

Seriously? I have one four year old kid and was out with him for hours last weekend before I realized that his shoes were on the wrong feet.

[Anonymous]

You know, I do think many daycares are too hesitant to call. I picked up my son at the end of the day a few months ago and the teacher told me he kept crying and saying that his ear hurt all day long. Seriously? Why would you not call me to come pick him up? I have a pretty busy job, but if my son has such a bad earache that he is in tears, I'm going to find a way to go get him. I told DS that if this situation arose again, in addition to saying that his ear hurt, he should specifically ask the teacher to call me. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the hell was she supposed to do for him? She has other children to manage and he's not having a medical crisis.

So it is normal?
I would expect her to call the parents and let them decide...
Will she call me in a similar case since I asked her?

You're way overboard. You're going to drop whatever you're doing and rush to daycare to shove something up your kid's ass? Your kid will not die if he can't poop for a few hours at school. There's no reason to call the parents. He's not sick. He's uncomfortable.

Yes, I would do what ever I could to help my child. To hell with you for being so heartless. And, oh shocker, I might even take him home.