Teacher not doing anything for constipated crying preschooler

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's constipated, OP. It happens. Perhaps his parents were already aware. Maybe it happens regularly and the staff know they just need to let him sit there for a while.

+1. DS gets constipated often and I let the preschool teachers know when it's a problem. I do think you're overreacting a bit, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

No. I give my son medicine for constipation in the morning or evening, not at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

+1000
I remember you from the other thread and I have the same advice now as then. Trust your instincts. For whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with this place. Doesn't matter if others think you are overreacting. You've got to develop the confidence as a mom to go with your gut. Your gut has been sounding warnings for months.
Trust yourself.

[Anonymous]

How do you know they didn't call? Or that the mother didn't drop the child off knowing he was constipated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

+1000
I remember you from the other thread and I have the same advice now as then. Trust your instincts. For whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with this place. Doesn't matter if others think you are overreacting. You've got to develop the confidence as a mom to go with your gut. Your gut has been sounding warnings for months.
Trust yourself.

But how do I know that in other places its different? Pretty much everyone says I am just overreacting.
I have never seen anything truly malignant there
Once my kid had shoes on wrong feet after they changed him after an accident. Not a big deal, just weird, how would an adult not notice?

On medication- of course it is up to the parent, but I say if a kid tries and cries at that, time for a suppository...

Anyways, thanks everyone, I appreciate the perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

+1000
I remember you from the other thread and I have the same advice now as then. Trust your instincts. For whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with this place. Doesn't matter if others think you are overreacting. You've got to develop the confidence as a mom to go with your gut. Your gut has been sounding warnings for months.
Trust yourself.

But how do I know that in other places its different? Pretty much everyone says I am just overreacting.
I have never seen anything truly malignant there
Once my kid had shoes on wrong feet after they changed him after an accident. Not a big deal, just weird, how would an adult not notice?

On medication- of course it is up to the parent, but I say if a kid tries and cries at that, time for a suppository...

Anyways, thanks everyone, I appreciate the perspective.

PP here. You don't know. Again, this is where instinct comes in. You have to ask yourself whether you're nitpicking because deep down you don't want your kid in daycare. Or is it a gut feeling that this particular place isn't a good fit.
Ask yourself what are your expectations of care. Visit some other centers to see if they are more in line with your expectations of care.
If nothing measures up, then your quandary is a more fundamental one about the nature of care rather than a particular facility. But if you find a place you like better, for whatever reason, pursue it.
In either case, complaining is pointless unless you act. Constantly pointing out daycare provider flaws and asking if they're worthy of concern indicates there is a problem...either with the center, which nearly everyone on this thread has suggested isn't the case, or with your perceptions of the center, which you are entitled to as a parent.
Stop complaining. Get to the true root of the problem and fix it.

[Anonymous]

Your kid doesn't need a suppository up his butt every time he is constipated. In fact feed your kid a healthy diet and plenty of water and he isn't going to get constipated. Talk about anal.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think the teacher needs you to tell her how to do her job? How do you know that she wasn't going to call the parent? How do you know that the parent hadn't already discussed this issue with the teacher? After all, how would the teacher have known the child was constipated? Do the teacher a favor and take your kid out of the class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid doesn't need a suppository up his butt every time he is constipated. In fact feed your kid a healthy diet and plenty of water and he isn't going to get constipated. Talk about anal.

In fact mine was only constipated (with crying and all) once, that's why I don't see it as normal... Maybe I am wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think the teacher needs you to tell her how to do her job? How do you know that she wasn't going to call the parent? How do you know that the parent hadn't already discussed this issue with the teacher? After all, how would the teacher have known the child was constipated? Do the teacher a favor and take your kid out of the class.

Fwiw, there was another parent who saw this and she seemed concerned, too. Maybe it's a whole class of helicopter parents, of course, I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

+1000
I remember you from the other thread and I have the same advice now as then. Trust your instincts. For whatever reason, you are uncomfortable with this place. Doesn't matter if others think you are overreacting. You've got to develop the confidence as a mom to go with your gut. Your gut has been sounding warnings for months.
Trust yourself.

But how do I know that in other places its different? Pretty much everyone says I am just overreacting.
I have never seen anything truly malignant there
Once my kid had shoes on wrong feet after they changed him after an accident. Not a big deal, just weird, how would an adult not notice?

On medication- of course it is up to the parent, but I say if a kid tries and cries at that, time for a suppository...

Anyways, thanks everyone, I appreciate the perspective.

PP here. You don't know. Again, this is where instinct comes in. You have to ask yourself whether you're nitpicking because deep down you don't want your kid in daycare. Or is it a gut feeling that this particular place isn't a good fit.
Ask yourself what are your expectations of care. Visit some other centers to see if they are more in line with your expectations of care.
If nothing measures up, then your quandary is a more fundamental one about the nature of care rather than a particular facility. But if you find a place you like better, for whatever reason, pursue it.
In either case, complaining is pointless unless you act. Constantly pointing out daycare provider flaws and asking if they're worthy of concern indicates there is a problem...either with the center, which nearly everyone on this thread has suggested isn't the case, or with your perceptions of the center, which you are entitled to as a parent.
Stop complaining. Get to the true root of the problem and fix it.

Thank you PP, I think you are right, except there is no way of knowing such things by simply touring a facility. And changing daycares over this? Laughable.
As for the nature of care, part time nannies are hard to find and difficult to control, especially if she is working at her home (which would be preferable in my particular situation).

[Anonymous]

I doubt constipation is a one time event. It could be of course, but more probably not. Sure, she could leave the other 10-12 children and sit with this boy. She could also call his mom and tell her son is constipated and crying in the bathroom while pooping. But I really think the mom already knows that - she does see him over the weekends so either sees how he poops or does not see him poop and therefore knows he's constipated. Would I want ds' teacher to call me at work to tell me he is crying while constipated? If it is a one time event and he is in some sort of pain that needs my attention - then yes. Otherwise: no. Reasons: I cannot afford to take time off for minor things (keeping those hours for 100+ fever calls); because by time I would get from work to daycare he would have either pooped or held it in. It is level of information that she can share with me at pick up: Johnny was constipated today and was crying while pooping. This would allow me - if I already don't know it to start paying attention to addressing the causes of constipation - modify diet, etc

[Anonymous]

I would expect a call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid doesn't need a suppository up his butt every time he is constipated. In fact feed your kid a healthy diet and plenty of water and he isn't going to get constipated. Talk about anal.

This is not the first post stating this. And it's not true. But it's also not the point of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid doesn't need a suppository up his butt every time he is constipated. In fact feed your kid a healthy diet and plenty of water and he isn't going to get constipated. Talk about anal.

In fact mine was only constipated (with crying and all) once, that's why I don't see it as normal... Maybe I am wrong.

For some kids, it happens more often - but not yours, so it must not be "normal".