56 and pregnant. ask me anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is my biggest nighmare, the women in my family are very fertile and my grandmother had children late (51) and my mother was able to get pregnant into her 40s. I use an IUD and still will not have sex during my "fertile" time because I terrified of becoming pregnant.

I'm 41.

mine, too!! everyone on my mother's side has a third late-in-life baby, so i am fully expecting one for me... i'm 36 with 2 right now... if we have a planned third, i'm going to get a tubal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Wait - are you OP?

yes

How can you give up your own child for adoption???

Why adoption? If you are in a good relationship with your husband, why not "keep" the baby as your own? You have 3 older children who could become guardians if something happens to you or your husband.

What do your older children think?

+1

[Anonymous]

Question for OP:

did you consider an abortion? why or why not?

and what do you kids think?

my mother had a late in life baby and i was really upset - i was 15 and did not like my mother being pregnant. it seemed wrong. i hid it from everyone in my school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was your pregnancy intentional? If so, was medical intervention necessary?

Do you have other children? If so, how old are they?

Does longevity run in your family? Are you concerned about possibly leaving your child motherless at a youngish age?

I see that someone is jealous. What a stupid thing to say. Are YOU concerned about the possibility of passing on your low IQ to your kid(s)?

I'm the poster you quoted. No, not jealous (and my IQ is quite high, tyvm). It was an honest question with no judgment or offense intended. Due to infertility (not age related) I had my child later than I would have chosen, and I think all the time about the age I'll be at different points in his life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

And you get to define what's necessary for this OP? wow. just wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

I don't think that it's weird to consider open adoption at all. To be honest, I would probably have considered abortion if I was in her shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some of you people are really stupid. It's obviously a donor egg. Get a clue.

Nothing obvious about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, you are going to be hosting playdates at 60?

If she has older children, she may have missed the advent of the playdate. Hopefully, she will let the new baby just play with other children in the neighborhood and not have to make a social event out of -- playing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

I don't think that it's weird to consider open adoption at all. To be honest, I would probably have considered abortion if I was in her shoes.

IMHO, if a otherwise capable and SES stable family does not feel up to parenting another child and chooses adoption over abortion, that is an incredibly selfless thing to do. There is a lot of stigma around adoption, everyone will know about the baby, ask about the baby, etc., and it is hard to say honestly we are not up for this, our family is complete and while I love this child I think the best thing for this child is to give him/her up for adoption. She is talking about an open adoption. My hat is off to OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

I don't think that it's weird to consider open adoption at all. To be honest, I would probably have considered abortion if I was in her shoes.

IMHO, if a otherwise capable and SES stable family does not feel up to parenting another child and chooses adoption over abortion, that is an incredibly selfless thing to do. There is a lot of stigma around adoption, everyone will know about the baby, ask about the baby, etc., and it is hard to say honestly we are not up for this, our family is complete and while I love this child I think the best thing for this child is to give him/her up for adoption. She is talking about an open adoption. My hat is off to OP.

Mine isnt. There is a reason why there is a stigma around adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

I don't think that it's weird to consider open adoption at all. To be honest, I would probably have considered abortion if I was in her shoes.

IMHO, if a otherwise capable and SES stable family does not feel up to parenting another child and chooses adoption over abortion, that is an incredibly selfless thing to do. There is a lot of stigma around adoption, everyone will know about the baby, ask about the baby, etc., and it is hard to say honestly we are not up for this, our family is complete and while I love this child I think the best thing for this child is to give him/her up for adoption. She is talking about an open adoption. My hat is off to OP.

I guess I disagree. If I were the kid, to learn down the road that my birth family was "capable and SES stable" yet still gave me away . .. yikes! That would cause some serious trauma/anger issues, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you 5 ft tall and 180 lbs?

LOL!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:obviously accidental. The age concern is an issue to us. We are looking into open adoption.

Now I know you are a COMPLETE weirdo. Holy sh*t.

1) 56 and pregnant
2) rude responses despite shamelessness of AMA thread about it
3) giving baby up for freaking adoption (when not necessary).

wow. just wow.

I don't think that it's weird to consider open adoption at all. To be honest, I would probably have considered abortion if I was in her shoes.

IMHO, if a otherwise capable and SES stable family does not feel up to parenting another child and chooses adoption over abortion, that is an incredibly selfless thing to do. There is a lot of stigma around adoption, everyone will know about the baby, ask about the baby, etc., and it is hard to say honestly we are not up for this, our family is complete and while I love this child I think the best thing for this child is to give him/her up for adoption. She is talking about an open adoption. My hat is off to OP.

I guess I disagree. If I were the kid, to learn down the road that my birth family was "capable and SES stable" yet still gave me away . .. yikes! That would cause some serious trauma/anger issues, I think.

Unless you also learned that your birth parents were in their fifties when you were born and wanted you to have a more typical childhood and parents. Also, the OP is looking into open adoption, which means (I believe) that the child would know about and possibly have a relationship with OP and her husband. I think adoption is a selfless and beautiful thing that humans can do for one another. OP, I wish you and your family a lot of luck.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations, OP.

Stay healthy.