If you were to find yourself single...

[Anonymous]

I would not date for the sake of dating but would hope to meet people that would at least make interesting friends. And while marriage might not be in the cards, I would like to think that I could fall in love again and have someone love me back.

[Anonymous]

I have been friends for 12 years with a woman I met at work. She is divorced and I know about men she has dated and she knows about issues with my marriage.

If I were single again, I would tell her that we are both quitting our jobs. Then we are getting in my car and going somewhere else to start over. The first night together we would have the sex I am sure that both of us have dreamed of for ages. I would kiss every inch of her body and let her know how much I have wanted that moment.

Then we would go about finding employment (we are both well educated) and let our children know that we are together and plan to stay that way. And one day, whether it is five years or ten years or however long it may be, I would want to marry her with just the kids and close friends invited so that they could see how happy we are. The crazy thing is, I think there is a good chance that all of this will someday happen.

[Anonymous]

PP, what's going on in your marriage? Do you think the woman at work is your soulmate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were single again, I would do some hobbies, travel, and find a call girl that I could see on a regular basis. After HS, college, after-college dating, and marriage, I am done with women on any kind of relationship basis.

Are you currently married? If so, man it must suck to be your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been friends for 12 years with a woman I met at work. She is divorced and I know about men she has dated and she knows about issues with my marriage.

If I were single again, I would tell her that we are both quitting our jobs. Then we are getting in my car and going somewhere else to start over. The first night together we would have the sex I am sure that both of us have dreamed of for ages. I would kiss every inch of her body and let her know how much I have wanted that moment.

Then we would go about finding employment (we are both well educated) and let our children know that we are together and plan to stay that way. And one day, whether it is five years or ten years or however long it may be, I would want to marry her with just the kids and close friends invited so that they could see how happy we are. The crazy thing is, I think there is a good chance that all of this will someday happen.

Damn. Just read this post. Sorry to the other PP. This PP wins the prize for worst husband ever. Seriously. WTF. Fantasizing and having an emotional affair with a woman for 12 years?

PP, it doesn't take a crystal ball that your marriage will soon be in the toilet if it isn't already there. Yep, if you continue the relationship with the coworker, your vision of being single will come true. Your wife would give you your walking papers in a heartbeat if she knew this was your post. You are putting way too much energy into the relationship with your coworker and taking away energy you should be giving to your wife, marriage, and family. MUST REALLY SUCK to be your your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am single (and a mom of 1) and I don't date. I would like to be married, but I just can't deal with dating. So much rejection, so much uncertainty. I've never enjoyed dating at all.

Dating is no fun for folks under pressure to be married. Maybe the older and very young get to enjoy it more.

[Anonymous]

You know, most of these posts are women saying that if they were single again they would want sex with an unlimited number of men so what is so bad about the last two guy posts where one would want a call girl and the other his workplace "friend"? Why do the women want sex do badly? Why does the one man talk about his fantasy in such detail? It seems to me that all of them are looking for missing intimacy in their lives. Now THAT is the sad part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, most of these posts are women saying that if they were single again they would want sex with an unlimited number of men so what is so bad about the last two guy posts where one would want a call girl and the other his workplace "friend"? Why do the women want sex do badly? Why does the one man talk about his fantasy in such detail? It seems to me that all of them are looking for missing intimacy in their lives. Now THAT is the sad part.

I don't see the discrepancy here. The women are acknowledging they are not interested in an intimate, long term relationship. A call girl...is weird. That is not casual sex, that is paying a sex worker for sex. Disturbing on many levels.

The man's workplace "friend" is taking energy out of his marriage. He seems incredibly spineless. He has pined over this woman for 12 years while he has been married? That is pathetic. What a waste - it sounds miserable, but I have no sympathy because it's a misery of his own making.

He has done nothing to improve his life and yet he still holds out a fantasy that someday it will happen. So sad. He sounds like he has a lot of unfinished business from childhood to take care of. Keeping his emotional affair alive is a slam dunk guarantee he will never be intimately connected to his wife. Why someone would want to go through life like that, I don't know. Dude, it's been 12 years. She's just not that into you!

[Anonymous]

He didn't say that he has been interested in her for twelve years, only that he has known her that long. For all you know, they have broached the subject but decided it would be too messy to make a change. I have seen women on here talk about the same things with men. And before we hang this guy, how do we know he hasn't tried and his wife is a cold shrew? In his fantasy, he sounds very romantic in terms of what he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He didn't say that he has been interested in her for twelve years, only that he has known her that long. For all you know, they have broached the subject but decided it would be too messy to make a change. I have seen women on here talk about the same things with men. And before we hang this guy, how do we know he hasn't tried and his wife is a cold shrew? In his fantasy, he sounds very romantic in terms of what he wants.

Please.

He sounds like the type of guy that always has his options open and one foot out the door in a relationship. I agree with the PP he probably has issues from childhood that causes him to be that way. It is difficult for him to trust so he always has a plan B. Unfortunately, Plan B's usually doom Plan A's. Both women don't like being second fiddle and it is a selfish move on his end all around. Even if he does leave his wife and ends up with his fantasy woman, the reality will probably not live up to the fantasy and he will eventually do the same thing to her.

The guy who would hire a call girl is lame because here he is married and says he has given up on relationships with women. Really? Why don't you let your wife in on that info. so she can find a man that will work with her to have a long and happy life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been friends for 12 years with a woman I met at work. She is divorced and I know about men she has dated and she knows about issues with my marriage.

If I were single again, I would tell her that we are both quitting our jobs. Then we are getting in my car and going somewhere else to start over. The first night together we would have the sex I am sure that both of us have dreamed of for ages. I would kiss every inch of her body and let her know how much I have wanted that moment.

Then we would go about finding employment (we are both well educated) and let our children know that we are together and plan to stay that way. And one day, whether it is five years or ten years or however long it may be, I would want to marry her with just the kids and close friends invited so that they could see how happy we are. The crazy thing is, I think there is a good chance that all of this will someday happen.

I would never go out with a married man, but to be honest about it, if a man felt that way about me and I found out, I would feel complemented.

[Anonymous]

I would revel in being single and keep it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn't say that he has been interested in her for twelve years, only that he has known her that long. For all you know, they have broached the subject but decided it would be too messy to make a change. I have seen women on here talk about the same things with men. And before we hang this guy, how do we know he hasn't tried and his wife is a cold shrew? In his fantasy, he sounds very romantic in terms of what he wants.

Please.

He sounds like the type of guy that always has his options open and one foot out the door in a relationship. I agree with the PP he probably has issues from childhood that causes him to be that way. It is difficult for him to trust so he always has a plan B. Unfortunately, Plan B's usually doom Plan A's. Both women don't like being second fiddle and it is a selfish move on his end all around. Even if he does leave his wife and ends up with his fantasy woman, the reality will probably not live up to the fantasy and he will eventually do the same thing to her.

The guy who would hire a call girl is lame because here he is married and says he has given up on relationships with women. Really? Why don't you let your wife in on that info. so she can find a man that will work with her to have a long and happy life together.

You have made alot of assumptions based off one post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn't say that he has been interested in her for twelve years, only that he has known her that long. For all you know, they have broached the subject but decided it would be too messy to make a change. I have seen women on here talk about the same things with men. And before we hang this guy, how do we know he hasn't tried and his wife is a cold shrew? In his fantasy, he sounds very romantic in terms of what he wants.

Please.

He sounds like the type of guy that always has his options open and one foot out the door in a relationship. I agree with the PP he probably has issues from childhood that causes him to be that way. It is difficult for him to trust so he always has a plan B. Unfortunately, Plan B's usually doom Plan A's. Both women don't like being second fiddle and it is a selfish move on his end all around. Even if he does leave his wife and ends up with his fantasy woman, the reality will probably not live up to the fantasy and he will eventually do the same thing to her.

The guy who would hire a call girl is lame because here he is married and says he has given up on relationships with women. Really? Why don't you let your wife in on that info. so she can find a man that will work with her to have a long and happy life together.

You have made alot of assumptions based off one post.

I was referencing two posts. Reread then you might get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been friends for 12 years with a woman I met at work. She is divorced and I know about men she has dated and she knows about issues with my marriage.

If I were single again, I would tell her that we are both quitting our jobs. Then we are getting in my car and going somewhere else to start over. The first night together we would have the sex I am sure that both of us have dreamed of for ages. I would kiss every inch of her body and let her know how much I have wanted that moment.

Then we would go about finding employment (we are both well educated) and let our children know that we are together and plan to stay that way. And one day, whether it is five years or ten years or however long it may be, I would want to marry her with just the kids and close friends invited so that they could see how happy we are. The crazy thing is, I think there is a good chance that all of this will someday happen.

Damn. Just read this post. Sorry to the other PP. This PP wins the prize for worst husband ever. Seriously. WTF. Fantasizing and having an emotional affair with a woman for 12 years?

I don't know why, but when I read that post, I assumed the poster was a woman who is fantasizing about leaving her husband for another woman.

PP, it doesn't take a crystal ball that your marriage will soon be in the toilet if it isn't already there. Yep, if you continue the relationship with the coworker, your vision of being single will come true. Your wife would give you your walking papers in a heartbeat if she knew this was your post. You are putting way too much energy into the relationship with your coworker and taking away energy you should be giving to your wife, marriage, and family. MUST REALLY SUCK to be your your wife.