If you were to find yourself single...

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Anonymous wrote:I am not sure....I would not marry again...never lived alone, so, while most of the PP's say how great it would be, I am not too sure. But I would fuck with a vengence.

You have never lived alone? And you are an adult?

Seriously?

Went from parents' house to house with husband. No roommates, never went away to college. Married at 23.

Ditto here. Went from parents' house, to college dorm life (not the same as the real world), to married at 22 (right after graduation). Love my DH but those first five years were hell. We both were immature and had some crazy ass fights. In the end, we grew up, learned to talk, and have a pretty good marriage now. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him because we have grown on each other.

But in the original scenario, if poof I was single, knowing what I know now would I remarry? The answer would be no. Been there, done that, and marriage is a lot of work. I think I would like time to be in my own skin and not have to answer squat to someone else. I also don't think I would ever find someone who would get me like my DH does. A lesser man would have divorced my ass years ago.

Would I date? Hell yeah.

Would I enjoy sex with other men? Hell yeah. I think I would enjoy to opportunity for some variety.

Would I live with another guy and just not get married? Nope. I find shacking up with someone would be just like being married without the papers. I would want my own place and for any guy I'm with to have his.

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I'm lucky in a lot of ways to have a great marriage. I would pretty much always choose this over being alone (because we both retain a lot of independence, I guess that helps) but I would definitely NOT choose just being married over being alone. SO SO SO many on here are living proof that getting married "because its time" ends in a lot of disaster, sometimes functional/happy but not as involved marriages but rarely in highly fulfilling marriages. That's the only one I would settle for to do it again, because its what I have now. I have friends who are miserable or just kind of "blank" inside in their relationships, definitely not better than "single" in that scenario.

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I would try women. Why not see what the other 50% of humankind has to offer?

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Anonymous wrote:Fuck no. I love my kids and my wife, but if somehow they went away, I'd support myself doing 30% of the work I do now and probably spend a lot my leisure time traveling and hiking.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I am single (and a mom of 1) and I don't date. I would like to be married, but I just can't deal with dating. So much rejection, so much uncertainty. I've never enjoyed dating at all.

How old are you? Are you not dating by choice? What about sex?

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Would not marry again, but would just have lots and lots of hot stranger sex.

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I've thought about this a lot, since marriage is probably beyond repair. I wouldn't get married again - never intended to marry in the first place. We intended to have a European-style long-term relationship without marriage. If I do get a divorce, I won't be looking for another relationship for a good, long time. If someone turned up, I would only date - don't even want to live with someone else. Right now, I fantasize about living by myself.

[Anonymous]

Single dad who would never get married again. I have a girlfriend and that is enough for me. Also a serial monogamist and do love her, but don't want to go through the hassles of sharing a home.

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I would fuck around for a while. I would try women, which I've always fantasized about but never ventured there. But I'd be looking to shack up with another guy pretty soon after. I need that one person who I'm into and who's into me. I wouldn't bother getting married again unless the other guy i was in love with really wanted it.

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I guess I'm one of the rare ones who would get married again if I found the right person. I'm very fulfilled in my marriage, though, we are lucky to have a happy, non-contentious, loving relationship. I love family life.

I would definitely like to fuck around a bit before settling down again, though. The sex gets boring sometimes.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm one of the rare ones who would get married again if I found the right person. I'm very fulfilled in my marriage, though, we are lucky to have a happy, non-contentious, loving relationship. I love family life.

I would definitely like to fuck around a bit before settling down again, though. The sex gets boring sometimes.

That's the advantage women have over men. You can find a man to fuck in a heartbeat while we have to work at it. You'll have a ton of partners in a short time period while for us, you will be the only one.

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Totally not true. Plenty of women have a hard time finding a guy, and some guys have multiple women on a string.

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Anonymous wrote:I am happily married and still I would not get married again. Nor would I have anymore children. I would date and maybe become monogomous again, but that's it.

+1

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If I were single again, I would do some hobbies, travel, and find a call girl that I could see on a regular basis. After HS, college, after-college dating, and marriage, I am done with women on any kind of relationship basis.

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I would enjoy dating and having sex with whomever I wanted, at least for a while. I bet I might get tired of it and want to re-settle down eventually.

The only drawback to single life would be having to get to the gym more often.