Once an adoption is final....

[Anonymous]

Well, pp, that's certainly twisting words. What I said was that everyone is lucky, birth mom, and adoptive parents. Don't you think a mother unwilling or unable to raise her child isn't lucky that someone else is willing to take on those responsibilities? I think that's damned lucky. Just like I think it's very when people wanting to adopt a child are able to. It's not prioritizing adoptive parents over birth mother. It's saying that all parents involved have been lucky to have gotten what they want. And if a birth mother would rather have an abortion simply because her child's adoptive parents feel she is as lucky as they are about the adoption, well, that says a lot more about the birth mom, and the need to feel superior, than anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, pp, that's certainly twisting words. What I said was that everyone is lucky, birth mom, and adoptive parents. Don't you think a mother unwilling or unable to raise her child isn't lucky that someone else is willing to take on those responsibilities? I think that's damned lucky. Just like I think it's very when people wanting to adopt a child are able to. It's not prioritizing adoptive parents over birth mother. It's saying that all parents involved have been lucky to have gotten what they want. And if a birth mother would rather have an abortion simply because her child's adoptive parents feel she is as lucky as they are about the adoption, well, that says a lot more about the birth mom, and the need to feel superior, than anything else.

And when an adoption falls through?
In maryland the birth mom has 2 weeks to change her mind. If she was to change her mind, would you sill say everyone is lucky?
And abortion is a better option than adoption

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, pp, that's certainly twisting words. What I said was that everyone is lucky, birth mom, and adoptive parents. Don't you think a mother unwilling or unable to raise her child isn't lucky that someone else is willing to take on those responsibilities? I think that's damned lucky. Just like I think it's very when people wanting to adopt a child are able to. It's not prioritizing adoptive parents over birth mother. It's saying that all parents involved have been lucky to have gotten what they want. And if a birth mother would rather have an abortion simply because her child's adoptive parents feel she is as lucky as they are about the adoption, well, that says a lot more about the birth mom, and the need to feel superior, than anything else.

And when an adoption falls through?
In maryland the birth mom has 2 weeks to change her mind. If she was to change her mind, would you sill say everyone is lucky?
And abortion is a better option than adoption

I don't understand what that has to do with it. Of course it's unfortunate, at least for some of the people involved, change their mind after agreeing that adoption is the right decision. If it turns out that staying with the birth mom is the best thing for her and her child, though, I think that that's great. There's a reason for waiting periods for such an enormous decision. I don;t think, though, that that has anything to do, though, with treating both adoptive and birth parents as equally fortunate if an adoption is finalized. A I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Pp, don't bother arguing with DCUM's anti-adoption poster.

I'm glad my birth mother didn't think abortion was a better option for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, pp, that's certainly twisting words. What I said was that everyone is lucky, birth mom, and adoptive parents. Don't you think a mother unwilling or unable to raise her child isn't lucky that someone else is willing to take on those responsibilities? I think that's damned lucky. Just like I think it's very when people wanting to adopt a child are able to. It's not prioritizing adoptive parents over birth mother. It's saying that all parents involved have been lucky to have gotten what they want. And if a birth mother would rather have an abortion simply because her child's adoptive parents feel she is as lucky as they are about the adoption, well, that says a lot more about the birth mom, and the need to feel superior, than anything else.

And when an adoption falls through?
In maryland the birth mom has 2 weeks to change her mind. If she was to change her mind, would you sill say everyone is lucky?
And abortion is a better option than adoption[/quote]

That is the most horrible thing I have ever read on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Pp, why do you say that?
Is it the job of the poor and young etc to provide babies for others? People who have had abortions adopt, so how was it ok for them? Or do you propose we find a way to stop them from ever adopting

[Anonymous]

For the adopted parents who say they just want to forget about the birthmother- your adopted child won't forget about her.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they will, maybe they won't, i don't think we as adoptive parents know how our children will feel about their birthmoms when our children grow up. And some adopted children, according to lots of research, will want to see their birth families or, at least, know about them. I think one of our jobs as adoptive parents is to keep that door open so, so if and when our child wants contact, they can have contact. Pictures and letters to the birthmom and birthdad are one way to keep the door open. It is why I send pictures and letters. Doing so doesn't feel like an intrusion on our family or our parenting; it feels like being a parent.