s/o how many hours of sleep do you get each night?

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here again responding to the really dense married mom.

See, the thing is, I have been married before, so I have somewheat of an idea of what it takes to share responsibilities. You, apparently, have never been a single mom or you wouldn't be arguing with me over what seems obvious to everyone else. And you don't have to be a genious to figure out that even if your husband goes to the grocery store for the week, or does a single load of dishes or laundry, or plays with the kids while you make dinner, or gives a bath just once a week, it is more help than i ever get. Leaving all the emotion out of it, logic points out to two people can do more than one person same amount of time (or should be that way). But, apparently, I'm the self absorbed one

Amen! No one who has a "parenting partner" is busier than a single mom!

This is an absurd comment. I know several married couples that are busier than some single moms I know. Impossible you say? No, these married couples of which I speak have much longer "to-do lists" than the some of the single moms, and, contrary to your misconceptions, these "to-do" lists are not filled with things like "have coffee with friend," "read newspaper," etc.

Hmm elaborate. I'm the former single mom, who did it without any sort of parenting partner, and to do it well, I don't see how someone who shares responsibility with a spouse has more work to do. Are you saying their jobs are demanding? Adding a few extra kids to the equation? I'm confused. When I was a single mom, my to-do list never included read newspaper.

Look, it's not that hard. Obviously, ALL else being equal, a single parent is "busier" than a non-single parent. But all else is almost never equal. So, don't make comments like "No one who has a 'parenting partner' is busier than a single [parent]!"

Wow. You people are too literal. Clearly I meant when other circumstances are somewhat equal. I'm not an idiot.

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Add a child or two to the parent with the spouse though, and the single parent still has the harder job. All circumstances considered somewhat EQUAL duh!

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I sleep 6.5 - 7 hours a night but would do much better with 8 hours.

Also, I think the posts from the married mom are condescending and gratuitously unkind. Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here again responding to the really dense married mom.

See, the thing is, I have been married before, so I have somewheat of an idea of what it takes to share responsibilities. You, apparently, have never been a single mom or you wouldn't be arguing with me over what seems obvious to everyone else. And you don't have to be a genious to figure out that even if your husband goes to the grocery store for the week, or does a single load of dishes or laundry, or plays with the kids while you make dinner, or gives a bath just once a week, it is more help than i ever get. Leaving all the emotion out of it, logic points out to two people can do more than one person same amount of time (or should be that way). But, apparently, I'm the self absorbed one

Amen! No one who has a "parenting partner" is busier than a single mom!

This is an absurd comment. I know several married couples that are busier than some single moms I know. Impossible you say? No, these married couples of which I speak have much longer "to-do lists" than the some of the single moms, and, contrary to your misconceptions, these "to-do" lists are not filled with things like "have coffee with friend," "read newspaper," etc.

Hmm elaborate. I'm the former single mom, who did it without any sort of parenting partner, and to do it well, I don't see how someone who shares responsibility with a spouse has more work to do. Are you saying their jobs are demanding? Adding a few extra kids to the equation? I'm confused. When I was a single mom, my to-do list never included read newspaper.

Look, it's not that hard. Obviously, ALL else being equal, a single parent is "busier" than a non-single parent. But all else is almost never equal. So, don't make comments like "No one who has a 'parenting partner' is busier than a single [parent]!"

Wow. You people are too literal. Clearly I meant when other circumstances are somewhat equal. I'm not an idiot.

Ok, so your point was to state the patently obvious. Well done.

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I get about 8-8:30h, going to bed between 10:30 and 11 pm, waking up at 7 am. I have to be at work at 8 and drop off a child at daycare first. However, I know it'll soon be over, since I'll have a newborn rocking my boat, due in October.

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I've always been one of those people who didn't need a ton of sleep. I often got 4 hours a night in college and 5 hours during grad school. (PT grad, FT work.) 7 has always been my ideal. Now that I have a 3.5-year-old, I'm ok with 7 but 8 would be a dream. But that's hard to do - I need a couple hours of chill/productive time after she goes to bed, so I rarely get to sleep before 11.

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here again responding to the really dense married mom.

See, the thing is, I have been married before, so I have somewheat of an idea of what it takes to share responsibilities. You, apparently, have never been a single mom or you wouldn't be arguing with me over what seems obvious to everyone else. And you don't have to be a genious to figure out that even if your husband goes to the grocery store for the week, or does a single load of dishes or laundry, or plays with the kids while you make dinner, or gives a bath just once a week, it is more help than i ever get. Leaving all the emotion out of it, logic points out to two people can do more than one person same amount of time (or should be that way). But, apparently, I'm the self absorbed one

Amen! No one who has a "parenting partner" is busier than a single mom!

This is an absurd comment. I know several married couples that are busier than some single moms I know. Impossible you say? No, these married couples of which I speak have much longer "to-do lists" than the some of the single moms, and, contrary to your misconceptions, these "to-do" lists are not filled with things like "have coffee with friend," "read newspaper," etc.

Hmm elaborate. I'm the former single mom, who did it without any sort of parenting partner, and to do it well, I don't see how someone who shares responsibility with a spouse has more work to do. Are you saying their jobs are demanding? Adding a few extra kids to the equation? I'm confused. When I was a single mom, my to-do list never included read newspaper.

Look, it's not that hard. Obviously, ALL else being equal, a single parent is "busier" than a non-single parent. But all else is almost never equal. So, don't make comments like "No one who has a 'parenting partner' is busier than a single [parent]!"

Wow. You people are too literal. Clearly I meant when other circumstances are somewhat equal. I'm not an idiot.

Thank you for finally admitting that even you believe that anyone who meant what you said would be an idiot. Next time you get into a long discussion about something, it might be easier if you just said what you meant instead of clearly incorrect blanket statements.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the pp who sleeps 8.5 hours each night. I don't know your lives, but what are you all doing that's keeping you up so late? Is it busy work or does it really need to be done? I'm a single mom and I rarely do anything after 9:30 or 10:00.

I sleep 6-7 hours a night because I stay up talking to my husband. I think it is essential so that I don't become a single mom.

WOW what a bitch you are. Perhaps you should stop talking and listen a little more (or read in this case). You have absolutely zero idea why I'm a single mom. However, I can bet everything I have that I'm ten time more productive than you, which is probably the real reason you're staying up late.

You are extremely defensive. You asked the question and I answered it honestly. There is no other time for me to spend with my spouse and our marriage suffers when we don't spend time alone. I wish I had more time to sleep.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending time with your spouse. I commend you for that. However, pointing out that you are spending time with your husband so that you "don't become a single mom," after I just said that I am one, was pretty bitchy. It implies that it is my fault that I am one.

Fine. I can accept that you stand by the first sentence of your statement, but the rest doesn't follow at all.

I'm not the person you're sparring with but wow, you ARE a bitch, PP. Maybe if you got more sleep you'd be nicer to be around? Are you sure you're making your husband happier by talking to him? You seem like you need a nap.

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6 hours if I'm lucky.

I work after the kids are in bed, and then I pay bills, surf a little, etc. I am in bed around midnight. I wake once or twice to feed infant. I wake for good around 7, only because my mom helps me with the kids in the morning and then leaves to exercise.

I would LOVE to get 8 hours/night again. That's what I need ideally.

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I'm a night owl. I get about 6.5...sometimes more like 3 or 4. I also love to sleep...could easily go 10-12 hours straight sleeping.

re: single/married mom. Give it a rest. I know plenty of lazy single Moms and plenty of busy married moms and vice versa. Are we really that gung-ho to win the "Victim of the Week" trophy?