Single mom here. THANK YOU!!! You totally get what I was trying to say. |
Amen! No one who has a "parenting partner" is busier than a single mom! |
| 5-6 with the help of xanax. No kids. Dh and i were ttc until some major family /personal things happened which resulted in my trying to get my anxiety and other things under control. |
| Ugh I can't stand the dense married lady. I'm pregnant and hormonal and the former single mom. Just reading this lady's shit is making me enraged. First she says hubby doesn't help, then she says how great he is. I think her husbands having an affair. She's in denial and she's trying to hate on single moms thinking it'll help her to not become one. |
Not hating on single moms at all. I fully acknowledge that it is one of the hardest things in the world to do. I disagree, however, with the original single mom's claim that just because she is a single mom necessarily means that she is busier than all married moms. Like all other absolute assertions, that is ridiculous. I also never said that my husband doesn't help. In my description of my own day, I noted that I have several hours a day in which I am the sole caretaker. This is because we stagger hours, which I fully admit most single moms wouldn't have the option of doing. My only point is that just because this single mom can get everything done and still get enough sleep does not mean that those that can't are unproductive and disorganized, as she seems to be claiming. |
| At first I thought I had a side in the single mom vs. married mom thing, but the more the two of you argue the more you both come off as dense and self-absorbed – much like my children when they argue. Plus I always think you discredit yourself when you curse no matter how right you may be. Enough already. |
Single mom here again. You hold on to that husband really tight. Seriously. If you ever become a single mom, you're in for a VERY rude awakening. I wish you the best since you are not even aware of just how full of shit you are. |
Is someone holding a gun to your head forcing you to read this? Go away! |
I will, thank you. As I said, it is a priority for me. Keep getting your sleep. Hopefully I will be able to also soon. |
| Can we get back to talking about sleep? I need 8 hours and wish I were one of those people who needed less... |
| I get about 8 hours per night. If I get less than 7, I feel awful and cranky. |
This is an absurd comment. I know several married couples that are busier than some single moms I know. Impossible you say? No, these married couples of which I speak have much longer "to-do lists" than the some of the single moms, and, contrary to your misconceptions, these "to-do" lists are not filled with things like "have coffee with friend," "read newspaper," etc. |
Hmm elaborate. I'm the former single mom, who did it without any sort of parenting partner, and to do it well, I don't see how someone who shares responsibility with a spouse has more work to do. Are you saying their jobs are demanding? Adding a few extra kids to the equation? I'm confused. When I was a single mom, my to-do list never included read newspaper. |
| Pp they can't elaborate becaus they have no idea what it means to trully do it all yourself. |
Look, it's not that hard. Obviously, ALL else being equal, a single parent is "busier" than a non-single parent. But all else is almost never equal. So, don't make comments like "No one who has a 'parenting partner' is busier than a single [parent]!" |