What to do...friend disrespected me.

[Anonymous]

I don't get this at all. I presume she was sober in the morning, correct? And she didn't clean up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get this at all. I presume she was sober in the morning, correct? And she didn't clean up?

I'm thinking that if you are drunk enough to poop involuntarily, you probably wake up in bonus-land (still drunk). But, sh-yeah, totes gross.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think that you have disrespected yourself. Adults should know their limits. There is something off in a person who would allow themselves to get that out of control. Would you be upset if she got that drunk but didn't poop on your floor? If not, you should be. It's not healthy for anyone to be friends with someone who is that out of control.

You need to tell her that you didn't appreciate that she let herself become that intoxicated and hope that she will realize that she needs to take better care of herself and do some serious thinking about her binge drinking. Be honest about the fact that you had to clean up her poop but don't make it about that only. The poop on the floor is the proof that she has hit a really low point in her life...it is really pathetic. Make sure she realizes that she needs to get a handle on her alcohol issues in general because this should be a big wake-up call.

[Anonymous]

OP, I haven't read all the responses. I'm sure it's been said already but your friend is a drunk. It's not so much that she disrepects you but that she lets alcohol run her life and that's more important to her than your friendship. Until she comes to terms with this, she won't be a friend you can rely on. Let her go.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who instantly thinks Jerry Springer material when they hear the phrase "disrespected me"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've never been so drunk you don't remember what happened to you?

Do you have kids? You say you're a nanny...have your kids never shit all over themselves or something else? Have you had to clean that up? I have...Yes...it's gross, but come ON.

One time I was in the caribbean and so drunk I didn't know that I shit in my pants. My friends had to clean me up. I did not / do not remember much from that night, nor do I remember the shitting accident or cleanup.

Shit happens...get over it. Pun intended.

Maybe she's embarrassed and wants to apologize. You'll never know if you cut her from your friends.

Not OP. Bar too low poster above. You must be kidding! You got so drunk you pooped your pants?! And then a friend cleaned you up?! Oh my god! OP, don't take advice from this poster! The bar is set too low here! I am all for a drink, have also been drunk...but have never been so sloppy drunk that I couldn't control myself. Really, this isn't normal behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disrespect isn't a verb. [/quote

Thank you! I hate when people use "disrespect" as a verb. It sounds very uneducated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think that you have disrespected yourself. Adults should know their limits. There is something off in a person who would allow themselves to get that out of control. Would you be upset if she got that drunk but didn't poop on your floor? If not, you should be. It's not healthy for anyone to be friends with someone who is that out of control.

You need to tell her that you didn't appreciate that she let herself become that intoxicated and hope that she will realize that she needs to take better care of herself and do some serious thinking about her binge drinking. Be honest about the fact that you had to clean up her poop but don't make it about that only. The poop on the floor is the proof that she has hit a really low point in her life...it is really pathetic. Make sure she realizes that she needs to get a handle on her alcohol issues in general because this should be a big wake-up call.

Actually, I would be upset if she got that drunk and didn't poop everywhere. We are grown woman, and drinking that much regardless of what you do because of it is uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

i just don't understand how people can make this much of a mess of a toilet, drunk or not. Really, you sit your ass on the toilet and the poop goes in the water-RIGHT? how the f**K did she get poop on the freaking carpet? Was she doing a dance while she pooped? did she have awful projectile diarrhea?

This post is going to haunt me for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who instantly thinks Jerry Springer material when they hear the phrase "disrespected me"?

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Yea, I would say quit drinking so much, and act like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think that you have disrespected yourself. Adults should know their limits. There is something off in a person who would allow themselves to get that out of control. Would you be upset if she got that drunk but didn't poop on your floor? If not, you should be. It's not healthy for anyone to be friends with someone who is that out of control.

You need to tell her that you didn't appreciate that she let herself become that intoxicated and hope that she will realize that she needs to take better care of herself and do some serious thinking about her binge drinking. Be honest about the fact that you had to clean up her poop but don't make it about that only. The poop on the floor is the proof that she has hit a really low point in her life...it is really pathetic. Make sure she realizes that she needs to get a handle on her alcohol issues in general because this should be a big wake-up call.

How did OP disrespect herself, explain that to me?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone on this thread think this is a story that really happened?

I mean, I've replied once or twice, but it's a farce, obviously.

I don't believe the OP would notice a brown smear in her bathroom with her eyes first, and then smell second, to start with.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

It truthfully happened. I actually smelled it before I saw it PP. I ended up telling her last night that I've waiting a few days to cool down but wanted to let her know that there was a lot of clean required in our bathroom after she left. I told her I understand that people get sick but to not clean.up after yourself is not only rude but disrespectful. I hinted that I was worried about her wellbeing and that she really needed to address the issues that she has with herself and drinking.

Her reply back..was that she was really sorry but she thought she got everything...and that's it.

Not sure how should could kiss what I saw.

[Anonymous]

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